Telling Friends You've Outgrown Them 2

The Signs That You've Outgrown Them

1. You don’t find their jokes about you particularly funny;
2. You feel worse after telling them a problem you were hoping they could help you with;
3. You’ve stopped telling them anything personal;
4. Your definitions of success are vastly different. (When you talk about success, they make you feel as if you think you’re better than them);
5. You start to feel like they are too close-minded;
6. You continuously make excuses not to see them;
7. They repeatedly tell you that you’ve changed;
8. It doesn’t feel as if they understand you;
9. You untag yourself from everything they tag you in on Facebook;
10. You don’t get any satisfaction in doing anything with or for them. You feel forced rather than pleased;

-----How To Tell Your Friends You've Outgrown Them, Paired Life, October 19, 2016


FuelMix says:

Add the following:

1. You feel emotionally drained and depressed after you've been in their company.  They have become "Emotional Vampires";
2. Internally, you feel yourself moving away from them - which then translates into a desire to impose physical distance between you and them;
3. You can no longer introduce them to your other acquaintances - and have no desire to do so;
4. Your conversations with them have become much more banal and superficial.  You try hard to keep your interactions as brief as possible;
5. It's not that you detest or hate them. It's just a realization that they are no longer relevant to where you're going and who you've become;
6. You don't want to be rude with them.  But you know the time has come to cut and run - for your own sanity;

Action Steps:

1.  Become less Available for favours or other obligations.  Be polite and firm about it when telling them that certain things involving them, you don't have time for anymore.  You can say that you are now thinking about your own priorities.

2.  If you and your friend(s) have grown apart in the ways in which you think - in other words, your perceptions and conclusions about how you see the world are different from how they see things, that's just fine. It's your brain. Use it.  Let them know politely that you take a different view or that you've changed your mind and that you'd like to move on.  You'll get some flak and attitude, but so what..??  It's a small price for your freedom and peace of mind.

3.  Reduce your Social Media contacts - Simply tell people you are re-evaluating your presence on Social Media and in the same way as you Spring Clean the house and remove things, you will also be removing people.  Refuse to apologize and say you have given this a lot of thought, but you want to move on.

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