Romancing The Bone

How Faggotry Manufactures Gayness to Devastating Effect

1.  The Setup
2.  Technique 1 - Massive Flattery And Adoration
3.  Technique 2 - Gay By Implication
4.  Technique 3 - Disprove The Negative: Prove You're Not Gay
5.  So...What's The Point...?
6.  Faggotry As A Predator
7.  The Independently Thinking Gay Man


1.   The Setup

It starts with gay or gay-focused sites or blogs. While some may feature hard and soft core male porn as the hook, the real objects of attention fall into distinct categories:

1. Male pop stars - particularly those in their 20s or early 30s;
2. Male TV actors - initially it started with those in daytime soap operas, but expanded to include those appearing on prime time;
3. Male models - in particular underwear and swimwear models with billboard, magazine or online exposure, erotic photography models;
4. Male athletes or Olympic athletes - preferred sports for attention being swimming, diving, sprinters, gymnasts, figure skating (but now expanding to include soccer and rugby players);
5. Male fitness models and bodybuilders;
6. Male celebrities;
7. Guys appearing in gay-for-pay porn or bi porn;

2.   Technique 1 - Massive Flattery and Adoration 

1.   The "target" male becomes the subject of intensely positive reportage, starting with his physical characteristics and sometimes includes an "awww...." factor to make it easier to relate to him:

• cute dimples;
• great smile;
• lovely eyes;
• chic haircut;
• handsome face that makes one swoon;
• body to die for;
• superficial titillating speculation e.g. does his hairy chest lead to a treasure trail on his lower abs...? is he Cut or Uncut...? Given that bulge in his swimming trunks or underwear, how many inches could he be....?
• detailed stats including place and date of birth;
• tall, dark and handsome or blue-eyed, wholesome jock next door;
• exotic masculine looks especially if coupled with mixed heritage;
• "analysis" of muscle definition with emphasis on particular muscle groups e.g. rippling biceps, massive shoulders, defined V-shape in the back, really powerful thighs, cute muscled butt;
• superficial speculation on his work-out routine, gossip about which gym he goes to and what times he can be spotted there, who his trainer is;
• what size clothes he wears and his favourite colours;
• "Awww...." factors include: loves dogs, likes playing frisbee, pigs out on cheeseburgers and tacos; sleeps in on Sundays, does volunteer work.......

2.   What's the point of Faggotry laying it on thick....?  Simple.  The first step is to let the "target" know he has a gay following.  That's both a blessing and a curse.

3.   The moment that "target" goes public via social media or a magazine or TV interview that he's so "honoured / happy / thrilled / pleasantly surprised" that he has a gay following, Faggotry has got him.  The first stage has been entirely successful. They've got his attention. It's time for Faggotry to move to the next stage against him - or look for another target.

4.   Alternatively, Techniques 1 and 2 (below) can be combined.  The desired result is the same.....it puts the "target" on the defensive, first via a Charm Offensive and then by something progressively more sinister.


3.   Technique 2 - Gay By Implication

1.   How the "target" male is softened up by implication and innuendo:

• His Church is the gym;
• When he's not alone, he's only and always seen with guys;
• Those guys are rumoured to be gay;
• Those guys have been seen with other guys known or suspected to be gay;
• The women in his social life are all platonic friends;
• Hangs around with known "fag hags"; 
• Seen in gay-friendly bars, cafes and restaurants with "fag hags";
• Spotted in the crowd at Gay Pride alone or with one or more of the above;
• Shows no inclination to date women, even though women find him attractive;
• Coy about the women in his life and deflects questioning;
• Lives with or is close to his Mom;
• Lives with his "roomate" and has been for a couple of years;
• Wears body conscious clothing;
• Wears brands favoured by gay customers;
• Shops in retail stores frequented by gay customers;
• Body accessories indicative of "gayness" e.g. earring or stud in Right Ear, jewellery by gay designer;
• Had his apartment remodelled by a trendy gay designer;
• Socializes with known gay celebs and gay media types either publicly or at swanky private parties;
• Circumstantial or direct evidence that he showed up at gay saunas or cruising areas;
• Circumstantial or direct evidence that he came on to one or more guys;

4.   Technique 3 - Disprove The Negative : Prove You're Not Gay

1.   There's been a ton of stuff written in the fields of Religion, Philosophy and Logic about the apparent futility or possibility of Disproving a Negative.  Google it.

2.   It's also a favourite geopolitical tool of the West when it comes to intimidating, threatening or attacking a foreign country - often on trumped up "evidence".  The 2003 attack on Iraq was based entirely on false evidence of the alleged presence of weapons of mass destruction coupled with a demand that the Iraqi government show that it didn't have them.  It was deliberately intended to back them into a corner because whatever they said, it would never be enough to rebut the manufactured implications and allegations which could be churned out and spun indefinitely.

3.   This is exactly the same tactic that Faggotry uses to attack a "target" male after it has first flattered him and loaded him with implications.  Disproving the Negative is justified by Faggotry on the basis of freedom of expression, investigative "journalism", or because the "target" is a public figure who has somehow waived his right to privacy.

4.   Confronted with Disproving The Negative, the "target" is sent into immediate damage control, panic-stricken denials, a sudden holiday out of the country, a plea for privacy.  The mainstream press which now has wind of Faggotry's manipulation of Disproving The Negative, is all over the story. It takes a very strong man to stand his ground and say absolutely nothing, because quite frankly, his private life is none of Faggotry's damn business.

5.   The intent is to force an Outing by the "target" confessing to being gay; or to orchestrate the Outing according to Faggotry's media coverage and Politically Correct dictates for maximum "sympathy / empathy" or manipulation of public perception for the benefit of Faggotry's agenda.


5.   So.....What's The Point.....?

1.   Elsewhere in this blog, we've made 3 main points about Faggotry:

• It is a global sub-standard behavioural franchise; AND
• It could be regarded as an Authoritarian State; AND
• It's a Human Ponzi Scam - new converts to "the lifestyle" and its bizarre Liberal (?) / Fascist politically correct ideology, are constantly required.  Otherwise, the Scam collapses.

6.  Faggotry As A Predator

1.   In our post, Faggotry An Authoritarian State...? we mentioned the predatory nature of Faggotry, which was essential to its survival:

5.   Faggotry - A Predator

Smith makes a revelatory observation about a centralized state i.e. centralized control, that applies equally to what we have long perceived as "the Politically Correct, Gay Authoritarian Stealth Creep" of Faggotry via its enablers.

".....the central state is genetically programmed to become an authoritarian state devoted to self-preservation and extension of its reach and power."

Our view is that Faggotry's ultimate agenda is to globally control every aspect of Politically Correct thought, speech and behaviour when it comes to dealing with, describing or analyzing gay men and their behaviour.  Accuracy and Analysis must be squelched. Spin and Outrage must prevail.  The Engine of Faggotry must be kept running.

The Engine of Faggotry is kept running in politics and media through:

• favouritism and public endorsement;
• grants and fundraising;
• "gay watchdogs" and shrieks of outrage;
• cronyism;

2.   Seen in that context, identifying individual male "targets" for Flattery, Implication and then forcing them to Disprove The Negative, makes perfect sense.  The predatory nature of Faggotry operates on two fronts simultaneously: 

1. the pushing of the "gay agenda"; and
2. the aggressive acquisition of "converts" who, whether by threat, intimidation, boycott, outrage, flattery, implication, Outing or being forced to Disprove The Negative, can be co-opted as "spokesmen / advocates / activists " for the agenda or at the very least, keep their mouths shut in tacit approval - or fear;

7.   The Independently Thinking Gay Man

1.   The independently thinking gay man who hasn't yet been seduced by Faggotry's slick hypnosis, looks on aghast at the scheming violations of the target male's privacy, personal liberty, thought and action.

2.   The good news is that (as we've stated before) we are living in the times of the Apocalypse, the true meaning of which, is that which was hidden is now revealed.  It is our view that more gay men are actively questioning Faggotry's ideology and methods.  We suspect there is a strong undercurrent of disgust.

3.   Furthermore, we are also living in times of massive systemic collapse and revelation. This is unstoppable. The pace and scale of systemic collapse will increase.  Faggotry is a predatory system operating in an old paradigm that is disingenuous, restrictive and dis-empowering.  It is destined to collapse as more independently thinking gay men simply opt out and claim their right to think, speak, act and live on their terms without having to look over their shoulder to see if they conform to a Politically Correct, Liberal / Fascist pre-set agenda - or whether they are about to be attacked.

4.   If we are correct in our analysis of Faggotry's methods of Flattery, Implication and forced Disproving The Negative, then Faggtory itself is liable for both gay-baiting and gay bashing.

5.   We don't know what the new paradigm for gay men will look like.  But we predict that when the current paradigm collapses, gay activists and enablers will be shrieking at, and blaming, each other. It's all they know.

Originally published 4 September 2014
Amended and Republished 3 July 2018

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What Is Race Play? 3

Now married to Superior Asian Male.  i drink His cum and He is now Man of the house.  i love Him and hunger for Him.  He gets anything He wants from me, the way life should be. 

-----"Asians Are Awesome", by shywhitesub.tumblr.com

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What Is Race Play? 2

You’ve been sucking his big White cock for hours and your jaw is numb. Your tiny asian dick has gone soft but still you continue sucking him and pleasuring him. 

That’s when it hits you. That small nagging feeling of shame. Your see yourself sucking his cock in the mirror and you can’t help but feel embarrassed. Embarrassed that you’re willing to debase yourself just to have opportunities to be with White Men. 

You tell yourself that you’re not like the other gaysians. You’re not a potato queen. You like guys of all races… but when you look at the stats, you find yourself saying “yes” to every White guy that messages you on Grindr while you say no to most POCs. [People of Colour]

You try to justify your feelings and rationalize your preferences. You exaggerate how much you’re attracted to non-White guys and you try to find White guys you don’t find attractive and exaggerate how much you don’t like them, but the truth is, the degree and quality of attraction you have to White Men is in a whole different league compared to your attraction to non-Whites.

You feel like a hypocrite for liking White Men almost exclusively. You try to downplay your attraction to them with your friends, because you’re afraid if they find out how much you love White Men, then it completely verifies their assumptions that you’re like any other typical gaysian. 

You spout all these ideals on social media about gay minorities and their marginalization, but you yourself subscribe to stereotypes about your race and submit to White Men.

But you push those feelings away when you suck his cock. You realize how much of a chink you truly are and no matter how hard you try to run away from it, you always come back to White Men. And after he’s done with your hole and used you like a whore, you stand there shell-shocked… ashamed at the things you did for him, disgusted at the names he called you and you called yourself, and loathing yourself and your asian-ness.

You tell yourself for the umpteenth time that you’re done with White Men. That you won’t be a chink no more. That is, until he messages you a week later, and you drop everything you’re doing and come crawling back to his…

BIG WHITE COCK.

-----asian fags for white men.tumblr.com

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What Is Race Play? 1

What is race play..? Is it just a way for white guys to be racist..?

Answer No. 1

Race play is the truthful and authentic dedication of service a useless nigger submits to for the greater glory of a superior White man. Fall in line, niggers. #WhiteLivesMatter
 -----Gay Nigger Cunt.tumblr.com


Answer No. 2 

Rather than responding with fantasy, I’ll answer this accurately. Raceplay is a form of kink sub-culture that eroticises racism, deriving sexual pleasure from the power inherent to racism. Some people in the sub-culture are genuinely racist, others aren’t and have come to it via their pre-existing interest in kink and domination.

One thing I want to cover is the idea that raceplay is something white people use to subjugate and be racist to other ethnic groups. It’s not that complicated. Raceplay eroticises racial domination of any kind- there are plenty of raceplay sites focussing on white men’s submission to Asians, Black men, Latinos, Muslims etc. Also, raceplay only works when both sides accept to and play with the fantasy.

Yes, raceplay has the potential to cause damage to people by inculcating racist ideas and making them think it’s “true”. But this is inherent to any form of powerplay within the sexual zone (fem-dom can lead to unhealthy understandings of femininity, Dom-Sub play can ruin people’s self-esteem). This is a risk that needs to be mitigated as best as possible, but one also needs to balance this with breaking the fantasy.

So when I do raceplay in real life I will always discuss it with a potential partner to make sure they are comfortable first.
-----fuck those asian slut boys.tumblr.com

Both quotes above taken from Traveling Gaysian Slut.tumblr.com

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Breaking From Binary

COMPLETED 16 MAY 2018

Are labels like, "gay", "str8" and "bi" obsolete...?

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....... A YouGov poll this week put the number of 18- to 24-year-old Brits who identify as entirely heterosexual at 46%, while just 6% would call themselves exclusively gay. Sexuality now falls between the lines: identity is more pliable, and fluidity more acceptable, than ever before.

The gay-straight binary is collapsing, and it’s doing so at speed. The days in which a celebrity’s sexual orientation was worthy of a tabloid scandal have long since died out. Though newspapers still report on famous people coming out and their same-sex relationships, the lurid language that once accompanied such stories has been replaced by more of a gossipy, “did you know?” tone,........And the reaction of the celebrities involved has morphed, too, into a refusal to play the naming game. Arena-filling pop star Miley Cyrus  posted an Instagram of a news story that described her as “genderqueer” with the caption, "NOTHING can/will define me! Free to be EVERYTHING!!!"  Kristen Stewart, who has been followed around by insinuations about the “gal pal” she is often photographed with for a couple of years, finally spoke about the relationship in an interview with Nylon magazine  this month. She said, simply, “Google me, I’m not hiding”, but, like the people surveyed by YouGov, refused to define herself as gay or straight. “I think in three or four years, there are going to be a whole lot more people who don’t think it’s necessary to figure out if you’re gay or straight. It’s like, just do your thing.”

..... The more people who are out, the more normal it becomes; the less alone a confused kid in a small town looking at gossip websites might feel; the less baffled the parent of a teenager who brings home a same-sex date might be. Combine that with the seemingly unstoppable legislative reinforcement of equal rights, too – gay marriage becoming legal in Ireland, in the US – and suddenly, it seems less “abnormal”, less boundary-busting, to fall in love or lust with someone of the same gender.

“I would describe myself as a bisexual homoromantic,” says Alice, 23, from Sussex. For the uninitiated, I asked her to explain. “It means I like sex with men and women, but I only fall in love with women. I wouldn’t say something wishy-washy like, ‘It’s all about the person,’ because more often it’s just that I sometimes like a penis.”.......

She says that even among those who exclusively date people of the same gender, there is a reluctance to claim an identity as proscriptive as “gay”. “Most young people who are gay don’t see it as a defining property of their character, because they don’t have to, because society doesn’t constantly remind them of their difference.” However, she is careful to point out that this is very much the case in the small, liberal part of London where she lives now. “[Not defining] is something I feel entitled to as a person who lives in London, but I didn’t feel entitled to it in a small town in the home counties. I’ve never experienced discrimination about my sexuality, but I’m aware that it’s because I ‘pass’ [as straight].”

In fact, among the young British people I spoke to, geography is vital. Lucy, 25, wonders if the number of people who say they are not straight really tallies with the number of people who are actually acting upon those desires. “Saying you’re sexually fluid means you’re part of a movement. It means you’re seen as forward-thinking,” she says, suggesting there is a certain cachet attached to being seen as open that does not come with affirmed heterosexuality. She also believes it is more of a metropolitan story than necessarily representative of Britain as a whole. “If I went back to my home town in the Midlands, we wouldn’t sit around talking about ‘sexual fluidity’. You’re a ‘dyke’, or you’re not. There’s only one type of lesbian there.” 

Many people questioning their sexuality make the traditional migration from a small town to a big city to find like-minded people – to find their tribe, to belong. It is a familiar and understandable story that you hear across generations. But now, within these cities, the pubs and bars that were once a meeting point for non-straight people are beginning to disappear, swallowed up by the brutal economics of an obscene property market........

In fact, the word queer, once the defiant reclamation of a homophobic slur, has become a ubiquitous term. While the young people I spoke to were largely resistant to the word “bisexual”, even if they are sleeping with both men and women, they used “queer” easily and freely. “Among our callers and our volunteers, more and more people are identifying as ‘queer’, particularly among younger generations,” says Natasha Walker, a trustee of the LGBT+ Helpline, which recently changed its name from the London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard in order to be more inclusive. “In the past, people were fighting for the right to be able to define themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans* etc. Although this is very much still the case, there is also a definite shift towards an acceptance of people as they are – label or no label.” 

There is also some appeal in the radical roots of “queer”, particularly as same-sex desire becomes more usual: while mainstream assimilation makes discrimination less likely, it does run the risk of removing the “outsider” identity of gay life, which many are keen to preserve.

“Essentially, the gays are getting married and it’s all become normalised,” says John, 32, from Plymouth. “‘Queer’ is still a political term. The older I get, the more I use it, because I feel I understand it more than when I was 22, but it’s also a cultural shift, absolutely.” While the word “bisexual” is, as John puts it, “a bit woolly”, “queer” encompasses a broad spectrum of desires, and is inclusive of those people who might reject the gender binary, too. 

Moving beyond the need to identify as one thing or the other feels utopian in many respects, and it acknowledges that for many people, sexuality is not an either/or decision. But it also relies on an idealised vision of an open-minded and kind society, which is true for the privileged world of, say, celebrities, but is not always the case elsewhere. Casual homophobia has not been erased by semantic optimism. John says a cab recently cancelled his trip after pulling up to the kerb and seeing him kissing his boyfriend. “We ran after him, but he just carried on.” Last month, one of John’s friends was spat at from a car window as he stood outside a gay pub. These are small, but constant reminders that abuse, discrimination and prejudice are present and pernicious, in small towns and in big cities. So if more young people reject heteronormativity, then that can only be a good thing, whether they act upon it, or not. But there is power in claiming an identity, and it is worth remembering, too, that complacency may be as dangerous as labels.

----- ' "I'm a bisexual homoromantic": why young Brits are rejecting old labels ', The Guardian, 18 August 2015

 

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Craigslist Hong Kong

CL Hong Kong has now removed all personal ads in all categories.

This is part of a worldwide move on all their pages. The official reason is to stop global human trafficking for prostitution.  This is obviously a huge problem and we suspect some ugly truths about the scale of human abduction and trafficking are about to be released.

As we've said before, these are the times of the Apocalypse, the true meaning of which, is that which was hidden, is now revealed

We're not gonna miss the hugely irritating Indonesian, Filipino, Thai and Chinese moneyboys, or the really weirdly-worded ads by Asian trans-sexuals.

However, we have a sneaky suspicion that some presently innocent categories on CL like "Salon/Spa/Fitness will become the new turf for carnal games.  No proof, just a thought.

UPDATE: 7 MAY 2018:  Our suspicion was almost correct: the personal ads and the escorts have appeared in the the "Missed Connections category".  What makes it worse, is that they're not sorted.  You're gonna have to wade through escorts, trans-sexual escorts, heteros looking to hookup, homos looking to hookup - and missed connections.  What a fuckin' mess.

We will miss local and tourist gay men online, in particular:

• the abject stupidity;
• the repetitive insanity;
• the "preferences";
• the outright racism;
• the outright ageism; 
• the number of years over which a fag's age remained the same;
• the ads we instantly knew would fail;
• the number of times we giggled when we saw, "let's do this..!" (more a declaration of desperation than intent);
• the pleas for information on gay saunas which fell on deaf ears;
• whether the self-admitted "average-looking, wine-drinking, "philosophical", "cultured", well educated, "gentle" GAM (a.k.a someone with the visual appeal of paint drying on the wall and the mental incontinence of a dripping faucet), actually found true love with a bloated white guy, similarly depleted in the Looks Department.

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Revenge Porn 3

6.  Nailing The Bastard Who Did It



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(3)  Taking legal action

1.  Considering all the noise being made to globally control the Web, there are no uniform laws concerning revenge porn.

2.  Depending on location, the laws specifically against revenge porn are either non-existent or, may exist at a state or provincial level or, may exist at both state and federal level. Note that in the absence of an overriding federal law, if the victim and offender live in different states, it may be necessary to take legal action in both states.

3.  Note also that revenge porn laws apply to legally underage offending teenagers uploading revenge porn images of another underage teenager.  Instead of being charged under child pornography laws, they can be charged with distributing an invasive image, or threatening to upload an invasive image.

4.  Even if there are no nationwide laws specifically against revenge porn where you live, the fact remains that the unauthorized sharing of a sexual image can still end up being a criminal offence under existing laws:

• Harassment
• Stalking
• Intimidation
• Blackmail
• Extortion
• Breach of Privacy Laws - unauthorized use of personal identifying information
• Hacking of computer or peripherals or mobile phone
• Identity Theft
• Incitement - when your image is uploaded to other sites and users are invited to comment
• If the victim was underage, child porn laws might apply.

5.  Civil proceedings may also be possible for harm to personal and professional reputation.  Remember in civil cases, you start the action.  In criminal cases, you will have to persuade the police to bring it.

6.  Also, notifying government agencies that a revenge porn website is engaging in unfair, criminal and unethical business practices may get you some relief and put the heat on the proprietors of that website.

7.  And for those gay men thinking of getting into a formal relationship with a Significant Other...? A prenuptial agreement that contains terms specifically dealing with privacy issues and ownership of sexually explicit images PLUS undertakings not to spread them if the relationship breaks.  After all, if you decide who gets to keep the Lalique crystal vases, why should your dick pics be any different..?

Originally published 26 March 2017
Republished 24 March 2018

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Revenge Porn 2

5.  "OMG..!! WTF..??!!" You: The Star Of Revenge Porn
6.  Nailing The Bastard Who Did It

5.  "OMG..!! WTF..??!!" You: The Star Of Revenge Porn

We have drawn from the article, "How to Fight Back Against Revenge Porn", The Daily Beast, 1 December 2016.

1.  Breathe. Keep breathing.  Calm down.

2.  Defending yourself from a revenge porn attack involves 3 main steps:

• Collect the evidence;
• Getting the evidence wiped from the web;
• Taking legal action;

 (1)  Collect  The Evidence

1.  Save everything.  Repeat. Save everything. Resist the initial panic reaction to thrash around to get every pic and video of you removed.  Without the evidence, the behaviour cannot be criminalized.  Save the following:

• the pics
• the video
• screenshot of the web page where it appears
• upload dates
• all messages sent by the offender
• view counts
• all comments made by viewers - the comments may be derogatory, abusive, violent and graphic.  That helps your case in showing the harm of revenge porn because those commenting are also engaging in harassment.

2.  Re-adjust your social media privacy settings- with two factor authentication if possible.  This is because the offender may upload the images to dedicated revenge porn websites, reveal your social media handles, screen shots of your social media pages and encourage others to stalk, harass or hack.

3.  However do NOT block the offender from sending you messages as you still need to build up the evidence against him.

4.  To understand the scale of the revenge porn attack against you, Google your own name using derogatory search words that those into revenge porn might use.  For example:

• "Michael Smith cocksucking faggot bitch in Singapore"
• "Michael Smith cum swallowing faggot in Singapore"
• "Michael Smith cock sucking white Singapore accountant and closet faggot"
• "white trash faggot accountant Michael Smith in Singapore"
• "Michael Smith in Singapore is a cum swallowing accountant and cock whore"

5.  If those search terms lead to revenge porn sites with you on them, remember to keep screen shots of each one of them.


(2)  Getting The Evidence Wiped From The Web

1. The Cyber Civil Rights Initiative has produced an Online Removal Guide that covers Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr, Yahoo, Google, Microsoft.

2.  From October 2105, PornHub, the largest porn site on the Web, launched a new content removal form for revenge porn victims to file take  down requests more easily.


COMING UP IN PART 3:

6.  Nailing The Bastard Who Did It

Originally published 22 March 2017
Amended and Republished 20 March 2018

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Revenge Porn 1

1.  Definition of Revenge Porn
2.  Social Media : Temptation, Apathy And Negligence
3.  Gay Men, Lousy Manners And Spite
4.  Revenge Porn In Context
5.  "OMG..!! WTF..??!!" You: The Star Of Revenge Porn
6.  Nailing The Bastard Who Did It


1.  Revenge Porn 
      (or Non-Consensual Porn, or Vindictive Porn)

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Revenge Porn - Revenge porn (sometimes lengthened to revenge pornography) is the sexually explicit portrayal of one or more people distributed without their consent via any medium. The sexually explicit images or video may be made by a partner of an intimate relationship  with the knowledge and consent of the subject, or it may be made without his or her knowledge. The possession of the material may be used by the perpetrators to blackmail the subjects into performing other sex acts, to coerce them into continuing the relationship, or to punish them for ending the relationship.....

The term "revenge porn" generally refers to the uploading of this sexually explicit material to humiliate and intimidate the subject, who has broken off the relationship. The term is also often misused to describe non 'revenge' scenarios, including non-consensual pornography distributed by hackers or by individuals seeking profit or notoriety.  The images are usually accompanied by sufficient information to identify the pictured individual, typically names and locations, and can include links to social media to profiles, home addresses and workplaces.  Victims, whose images expose them to workplace discrimination, cyber-stalking or physical attack, can have their lives ruined as a result. Given the practice by some companies of searching for potential sources of bad publicity, many victims of revenge porn have lost their jobs and found themselves effectively unhirable.

-----Wikipedia, Revenge Porn

2.  Social Media : Temptation, Apathy And Negligence

1.  In Principles of Faggotry 32 we said this:

A dumb fag with a smart phone is a dangerous combination.

2.  What were getting at, was the danger of pervasive technology as well as the abuse and temptation they presented.  The plethora of social media, the access given to "followers", sexual hook-up apps,  hacking tools, photoshop ability - and now, A.I.-generated fake porn superimposing heads on other bodies, present a formidable array of options and weapons.

3.  There is a lot of social pressure to be on social media.  Very few gay men will stop to ask, "What for..?"  

4.  We suspect that gay men, in their never-ending quest for cock, are too jaded (or drug- fucked) to care, too negligent, haven't considered the web trail they've left, who has been given access to their pictures and videos, or they are more interested in creating multiple profiles to theoretically enhance their chances of getting sex.

5.  So, what are the fertile areas for revenge porn..?

• Lots of pics of you online that have been there for a while - and you may have lost track of where they all are;
• X-rated ads on hookup sites that could be traced to you;
• X-rated pics or videos you took of yourself and sent to the other party;
• X-rated pics or videos of both of you, knowing that both of you were being filmed and each party has a copy;
• G-rated or professional headshot pics of you that you uploaded to social media like Facebook or professional networking sites like LinkedIn;
• Innocent workplace pics taken with colleagues;
• WhatsApp or other messaging apps that turn into "sexting";
• Chat room conversations that can be saved;
• Hacking of mobile phone, laptop or desktop;
• Hacking of external hard drives and flash drives;
• Lost or stolen phones or laptops, not properly secured for authenticated entry;
• And no, faggot, Snapchat is not that safe.  Screen shots can still be made of images;

As the University of Adelaide's Law School pointed out in their online resource on revenge porn and cyberbullying, there is a deliberate or unconscious ignorance of the boundaries of sexual behaviour and online communication.  In other words, it's a minefield out there.  Not only is there pervasive and probably illegal intelligence agency spying of your laptop, desktop, tablet and mobile going on worldwide, but your cock-focused encounters carry high risks other that STDs. The Web has destroyed anonymity and seriously damaged personal integrity.


3.  Gay Men, Lousy Manners And Spite

1.  In Principles of Faggotry 82  we said this:

A Screaming Fag is perfectly capable of dishing out the Silent Treatment.

Frequently, in abortive attempts to hookup online and after pictures have been swapped, one party suddenly gets dropped without explanation - whether or not their stats are acceptable.  Face it.  It's happened to nearly every fag with a USB connection.  Emails and WhatsApp messages are ignored or blocked. The private window in the chat room goes silent or is abruptly shut. The Silent Treatment is in full swing.  The party on the receiving end of it is puzzled, humiliated and angry.  Fags are notorious for their utter lack of online manners.  It shows no signs of getting better. 

2.  Frustrated, pissed off and feeling cheated that having swapped pics, he was suddenly dumped, the wounded fag is in a perfect position to retaliate through revenge porn or online bad-mouthing, or uploading a fake profile with the other guy's pic and then claiming that guy is HIV or some other allegation.  Note that there is no relationship between them, other than the fact that both were looking for a hookup.  That sense of overwhelming cyber-rage triggered by another guy's lousy manners, is more widespread than the average fag will feel comfortable admitting.

 3.  "Sexting" is another problematic area that can go from flirtation to bullying and then abuse...and then revenge porn.


4.  Revenge Porn In Context

1.  It's a mistake to think that revenge porn only affects women since a lot of media coverage has focused on them.  The reality is that gay men are prime targets, because of their scattered online presence plus repeated ads and pics on the same sites - and even more so in those countries where Web usage is censored or monitored and where being gay or having gay sex, can carry severe penalties.  For example, in the United Arab Emirates where gay sex is illegal, there is no shortage of guys putting up their selfies on hookup apps, while offering to pay premium prices for a bottle of poppers - which are also illegal.

2.  Revenge porn might be a phenomenon but it does not operate in a vacuum. It operates within a continuum that ranges from entrapment (pic collector with a motive), anger, abuse, betrayal, bullying, blackmail, drug-taking, drug-dealing, date-rape, intimidation, threats, stalking, theft, reputational and professional damage. 

3.  There's some good news.  The criminal and civil remedies to deal with revenge porn come from the same continuum.

COMING UP IN PART 2:

5.  "OMG..!! WTF..??!!" You: The Star Of Revenge Porn
6.  Nailing The Bastard Who Did It

Originally published 22 March 2017
Amended and Republished 19 March 2018 


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Gay Baiting

NOT to be confused with Gay Bashing.

Gay Baiting:  When hot str8 guys:

• deliberately flirt with gay guys; OR 
• pretend to cruise gay guys in the gym, hotel saunas, bars, the office or on the street; OR 
• deliberately show off their cocks and bodies to gay guys in places where they know gay guys will gather

---in order to get admiration, attention, sexual invitations from the gay guy.  Gay Baiting operates as a Power Trip and Ego Stimulation for the str8 guy.

Underlining and Bold Print by FuelMix:

Gay people aren’t idiots. We know the difference between taking your shirt off to dance and have a good time, and taking your shirt off purposely to bait salivating gay dudes. Trust me, we have an intuition from the gods. Nothing gets past us.

Gay baiting is like someone waving a piece of chocolate cake in your face then throwing it in the trash. That’s torture for a chocolate lover like me, but for the sadist holding the plate, it can be more pleasurable than the cake itself.

People say gay baiting doesn’t exist. We try and give someone the benefit of the doubt because no one wants to admit they were used. What’s worse is we know we’re being used yet we fall for it every time – like a moth to a flame. We willingly walk into the trap because can’t stop ourselves. Before we know it we’re blaming gay people for what straight people do, but trust me – the last thing we want to do is blame each other.

Straight dudes know exactly what they're doing

What we see on television, movies, and advertisements is a reflection of culture. They dig from a constructed truth, a psychologically accurate view of how we think: where there is a hot body, our eyes shall travel. But are the rules starting to reverse? Are straight guys seeing what actors and models do and reflecting it towards reality?

A lot of straight men, at least in progressive cities, enjoy the fact they’re being gawked at. But it’s one thing to get a gay guy’s “hot” approval, and another thing to actually seek it out – to consciously flirt, tease and show off in front of them, only to have it be a “look, don’t touch” policy.

Last week, two extremely attractive guys at my gym were working out together. They stole the focus of everyone upstairs because not only did they look like porn stars, they were also Australian (which gives them extra points). In other words, they were off the charts HOT.

One of them smiled and winked at me, and scanned me up and down sexually. I’ve seen this type of “scan” before (we all have). There’s no doubting it was a cruising invite of sorts, so naturally I responded back not thinking anything of it. He got the hint.

For half an hour we’d look at each other in the mirror and smile, as we did bicep curls, deadlifts, yoga posing, seemingly for the purpose of showing off. A bit later, the two were in the wet sauna together – naked, rubbing each other’s legs talking about their girlfriends. Every once in a while, looking up and seeing gay guys admire them, then laughing at each other as if they were doing it on purpose.

To make matters even weirder, one of them lay naked on the bench next to the lockers – in a Hercules (and he was Hercules) style pose, watching as guys passed by to sneak a peek. Eventually, the rest of us in the locker room got the hint: whoever these dudes were loved the attention, and while they were planting seeds of possibility in our heads, everyone knew they were baiting us.

Why do straight guys gay bait?

At the end of the day it’s about power. If a man is a sex addict, or bisexual, or seeking affection from other guys, he doesn’t bait – he goes through with it. He won’t wave his abs or d*ck in your face and act dumb later saying, “Oh sorry…”

We go wild over it and they know it because they see our reactions to advertisements and TV/film scenarios, and they want the same attention. It’s a jacked up way to feel important or validated because, let’s face it, when you received the gay gaze, magical things happen.

But no matter who you are, leading someone on or blatantly teasing a person for no particular reason with nothing to gain, is wrong. It doesn’t make you look superior – it makes you look like an asshole, which immediately debunks you from our list. To all the gay baiters out there, we see you. 

---"To All The Gay Baiters Out There, We See You!", by David Artavia, The Real Gay Guy, June 22, 2016

Originally published 22 October 2016
Republished 11 August 2017

The Vow

Brad aged 31 and Caroline aged 27, are at their wedding. They prepared their own wedding “vows”. Here’s Brad’s.

Caroline….here we are standing in front of our friends and families, whom we’ve just scammed for bridal registry gifts all over town. We’ve collected a lot of stash and swag, but given the skeletons in my closet, I suspect we’ll have some storage problems when we move into that designer apartment your Dad gave us.

I don’t really want to marry you, because I think cock is more interesting particularly when attached to a hot guy. Thing is, having you as my wife deletes the awkward questions, gives me a guaranteed date to corporate functions, allows me to wear a wedding band and fit in with the other guys in the office and best of all, to put a framed picture of you on my desk – instead of the one with Miss Piggy in pearls.

You’d better not look at my mobile or my laptop. I’ve put user codes on them. Both have gay porn downloads, chat room generated explicit e-mails of men I wanted to meet and some of whom I did. There are tons of numbers from fone sex contacts, details of my tricks in the gay saunas, complete online gay guides to the cities I visited on my business trips, plus all my currently valid ads on Craigslist that I amend from time to time.

I’ve also uploaded videos of me in your underwear, jacking with a Fleshlight, doing bukkake, fuckin’ a watermelon and trying out dildos.

I’m out of control financially. I drink after work with the guys then drift into a gay bar. On weekends, I won’t be around. I’ll be at the 24 hour gay saunas getting gangbanged on meth amphetamine, Viagra and Trance Music. If you wanna know where the mood swings came from, now you know.

I’ve also been blackmailed and ripped of by male hustlers a couple of times and I’m paying them every month. The guys at the office are getting suspicious and they talk behind my back – especially when I step out about 4pm every couple of days, hit the sauna and crawl back to the office about 6pm and pretend that I was with a client. Heck, even my secretary knows I’m a liar.

I’m never gonna explain those scrawled phone numbers on scraps of paper that end up in my shirt pocket and then in the washing machine. And there will be phone calls that I get that I just don’t want you to hear. I’ll be stepping out onto the balcony a lot.

I’m not gonna be faithful to you. I never was. If you wanna call me bisexual that’s cool, I’ll take it. But I’m the only one who knows the whole truth. Even in the dead of night when I’m holding you in my arms, it’s not you I inhale – it’s the scent of that hot dude I sucked in the public toilet after office hours mixed with unflushed shit and disinfectant.

I really dunno what kind of husband or father I’m gonna be. You’ll get the 2.5 kids coz I don’t have a problem fucking you. But stuff like Little League, piano lessons, growing pains and upbringing is your problem coz I’ll be stoned, out cruising, getting fucked, or a combination of all three.

Chances are we’ll end up divorced. I suggest you keep your job indefinitely. You’ll see through me and all of this gay shit at some point. Right now you’re only marrying me to stop the other 2 bitches from snaring me. I’m hot to look at now, but see me in 7 years and you’ll really be wondering what  you married and why.  The only thing I ask is that if my lifestyle kills me, just show up with the kids at my bedside. The guys I fucked around and partied with were all anonymous and most had false names.

So yeah……..I’ll take you to be my lawfully wedded wife……whatever the hell that means.

Originally published 24 March 2010
Republished 27 January 2014 | 27 March 2017

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