Looking For A New Ass To Eat

For the purposes of checking the pulse on fag behaviour, FuelMix periodically goes online, uploads his foreign stats, a couple of pics, states his “preference” for Middle Eastern guys and waits…..

There might be a number of compliments from generic whites in public and pvt about FuelMix’s hot bod and that would be that. It was pretty clear what type FuelMix was looking for. Several times there were snarky remarks (from whites) that FuelMix was being “elitist" but that’s to be expected from disgruntled whites who didn’t make the cut.

FuelMix has previously written about the visceral reaction from whites when a foreign dude has the temerity to state his “preference”. See for example the post entitled, When They Came Running

However, we might be the first to publicly record another curious phenomenon:


White Guy "Hides" Then "Admits" His Actual Ethnicity

An apparently generic white fag, publicly advertises his stats and “preference” for another white fag. He then spots the stats and pics of a desirable foreigner, pvts him and shifts an aspect of his stats – his ethnicity.

On several occasions, FuelMix has witnessed with jaw-dropping amazement, white fags pulling this stunt on him in pvt:

Fag: Hey dude, nice stats and hot bod!

FM: Thanks

Fag: Love hot foreign guys

FM: Your profile says you’re looking for GWMs

Fag: Yeah…I’m half Greek [or half Italian, or half Spanish] so I look Middle East. Should be what you’re into

FM: I’m pretty specific

Fag: Yeah I just told you I’m half Greek [or whatever] so we’d be a match right?

FM: How come you didn’t mention the half Greek [or whatever] in public?

Fag: Doesn’t work well …….you know….preference and stuff…….

FM: So how come you only publicly said “for other GWMs”…..same deal?

Fag: Yeah

FM: So what exactly you looking for?

Fag: Hot guys man

FM: I don’t think we’d be a match…I’m pretty specific about the area I’m into

Fag: Aw c’mon dude, I get taken for Middle East too, we could really hit it off

FM: Nah, thanks anyways


Comment

There are several ways of looking at this.

1.  Online cruising, whether by ad, chat or app, is a fishing and numbers game. You do what you have to for a hook up.  Lies is part of it, for better or worse - usually worse.

2.  The half white is a closet case on half his ethnicity. He’s figured (wrongly) that he stands a better chance of scoring with a generic white if he pretends to be one. The truth is, despite what he’s written, he’s looking for anyone. The apparent “preference” for a GWM is bullshit.

3.  The pvt confession in order to shift the ethnicity Eastwards is a negotiating ploy, probably desperate. It only highlights the discrepancy and lack of congruency within the fag himself.

4.  If the fag can’t be trusted on his public statements of ethnicity, why should he be trusted on what he says in pvt – whether or not a picture is offered...? Can he be trusted on anything else he says e.g. his health status...?

5.  As the Emerging Economies rise, together with Asian and Middle Eastern men proving they're as hot as fuck, masculine and built - and destroying the white perception, particularly towards Asians, that they're "effeminate" and "ugly" -  is there a subtle, sub-conscious realization amongst whites (or those who have for so long pretended to be one) that they’re not that desirable any more...?  Probably.

6.  Fags engaging in the closet shifting of their self-described ethnicity Eastwards, is a trend that FuelMix predicts will occur more frequently as the 350 year old white-based geopolitical and economic order collapses.

7.  Putting it bluntly, brown, yellow and "sand nigger" ass will become more desirable to eat. Whatever whites might say to the contrary in public or online - you know....."No Asians, No Indians, No Pakis,  No Arabs.... sorry just a preference.."

8.  Or better still, visit the public toilets here in Very Rich Megacity and see for yourself exactly who white boy is sucking when he's on his knees (and offline).**

** We do not encourage any illegal or publicly indecent behaviour.

Originally published 11 July 2009
Amended and Republished 23 August 2017 | 8 August 2018
 
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Gay Filipinos.....It's OK To Be Filipino

If there's one trait that identifies gay Filipinos (or Flips as they refer to themselves) outside the Philippines, it's their acute embarrassment at being Filipino.

For a nation whose main exports are mangoes, bananas, domestic helpers, hotel staff, cruise ship workers, janitors, nurses, whores, bar waitresses, nightclub musicians and theme park dancers, the embarrassment might be understandable - notwithstanding that these hardworking people remit tons of money back to the Philippines to help their families.

But in Fagland, where ethnicity is a touchy subject, being a gay Filipino outside your own country, is taken to deceptive extremes.  So deceptive that the average Flip fag will grab any nationality other than his own. They can range from anything from Thai, to Malay, to "Asian-Spanish" (that description is particularly favoured on the West Coast) to "Latin American" (dicey and risks being equated to ugly Hondurans) all the way to "Asian-Latin" (which in FuelMix's book, is pretty much, "WTF"...?)

The Philippines has a history of Spanish colonialism, a lot of Flips have Spanish names and the Vatican just loves their out-of-control, 5th World breeding that guarantees new recruits for their religious Ponzi scheme.  Granted some (apparently lighter-skinned) Flips have Spanish blood in them just like many really black niggas have white blood in them, but......just how many niggas go around claiming to be White Niggas...?

Is there an assumed paella-scented cachet in the gay Filipino describing himself as "Asian-Spanish" instead of the lumpia-snarfing "Filipino"..?  Is "Thai" or "Malay" assumed to be more attractive than "Filipino"..?  Is there a quest for a gay nationality less janitorial than "Filipino"..?

What gives...?  We love these guys.  They keep smiling from ear to ear.  What pain are they hiding..?

Do gay Filipinos suffer from collective internal loathing about their nationality..?

FuelMix recalls being cruised online by a Flip fag who approached 3 times in the space of a few mnutes, each time with a different nationality:

• "Asian-Spanish";
• "Malay";
• "Asian";

How did FuelMix know the fag was a Flip..? 'Coz he spoke to him on the phone and flushed it out of him.  The dude was both embarrassed and relieved that he'd been Outed as a Filipino.  No hookup took place.

It's laughable, but deeply pathetic since that online trait is mirrored in real life by Filpinos, especially in the saunas in this city.  Stop dancing around your nationality.  Spit it out and take it like a man.

So what if your country's main exports are its people...?  Without Filipinos, large chunks of the world's economy would come to a grinding halt.  You guys are more of an economic force than you realize and the unsung heroes of so much of what non-Filipinos take for granted.

Remind FuelMix again what Gay Pride is all about...?

See also Frustrated, Fat, Gay Filipino

Originally published 2 March 2010
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Spasmodic Autism

Fag places an online ad, or hangs his dick and torso on an app. Other fags respond, pics and all. Then, chat room window or talk bubble on the app goes ominously quiet.  No acknowledgement. 

Zip. Zero. Nada. 

A culture of silence and cover up, worthy of a sequel to the Da Vinci Code, and just as ungodly. Why is that...?

FuelMix has already referred to the generic inability of ghetto fags to properly confront almost any situation. See the post, Avoidance And Aversion. Sadly, ignoring responses, is far more widespread.

Fags argue that placing an online ad is like sitting at a bar – you’re gonna attract attention, some of which you don’t want and therefore, ignoring is legitimate and part of the online game. 

Bullshit. 

The analogy is completely false. The fag is the one who placed the ad seeking attention and often, expressly inviting a response right down to a specific type of guy, ethnicity, dick size, date, time and place. How many fags do you know sashaying into a bar with stats and an ultimatum of preference and place written across their foreheads...?

Other fags say that there’s no need to respond to those you don’t want, because the game is an online casino. You come in, play, take your chances. 

Agreed – but walk into any casino in Vegas or Macau, not only will you see whether you’ve won or lost, but the hostess at the gaming table will tell you up front.

Some fags say they don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. 

Oh please. 

Whether it’s a single e-mail response that is left hanging, or, back and forth e-mails or chat on an app, that suddenly collapse without the courtesy of a reason, silence is a cop out and reeks of sly cowardice. The damage has already been done - often with assumed, or actual unspoken malice.

Those fags who deliberately ignore a response to their ad, should apply for disability and special needs. FuelMix would also like to see a handicapped sticker next to their online ads.

Hence the title of this post.

What makes it even more astonishing is that those readers now in their 20s who were just kids when this post was originally published in 2006, are the newest generation of fucked-up flakes with attitude.

See also what FuelMix wrote about "Ghosting", in the post, Beaming Myself Out, Fag. 
 

Originally published 20 May 2006
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Gay Men And Forgiveness 2

It’s not difficult to find a gay man who has been hurt by another gay man. 

Sure, there might be different degrees of hurt. Some offenses were probably more subtle, while others were more blatant and outward. Regardless, they all can leave a mark. 

The reality is that many gay men are carrying past hurt with them day in and day out. The experience and wound gets re-opened each time they think about the look, insult or slur that was thrown their way. Instead of healing, the wound gets sliced open over and over again. 

On the other side, there are gay men out there who continue to hurt other gay men. Their view of the world is narrow and self-absorption is a way of life. Their self is the center of the world and they swing violently throughout the bars, beaches and community, much like a wrecking ball (cue Miley Cyrus). 

All of this creates a recipe for long-lasting grudges, cycles of hurt and monumental barriers to forming a sense of community among gay men. 

Is this presence of skepticism, paranoia and suspicion of gay men toward other gay men an old phenomenon? Or is this new? Is it something that wasn’t ever talked about or acknowledged before or are we facing a brand new beast? 

What I don’t hear a lot within the gay community is the concept of forgiveness. 

Merriam-Webster says to forgive is to “stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong)” and “to stop blaming (someone).” To “stop feeling anger about (something) and “to forgive someone for (something wrong)”. 

While there are certainly pockets and moments of love shown between gay men, there is also burning rage in the hearts of many — especially those who have been hurt time and again. 

Both Martin Luther King, Jr. and Mahatma Gandhi spoke strongly about forgiving others. King said, “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love.” And Gandhi boldly proclaimed, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”. 

It’s safe to say that most gay men have been hurt by other gay men at some point in their lives. What would it look like for you to forgive the gay men that have hurt you in your life? Is it possible for you to let go of that hurt you’ve been carrying around for days weeks, months or even decades? Do you believe reconciliation is even possible? 

Maybe forgiveness is a muscle we’ve allowed to get flabby and weak. Maybe we’ve been holding out for an apology from our perpetrator that may never arrive. The truth is that when we refuse to forgive others, we only imprison ourselves. 

Every gay man reading this gets to decide: Will I carry anger or love in my heart? You can’t carry both. 

Yes, we need to educate our fellow gay men and be bold in confronting racism, classism, ageism and other -isms that too often go unaddressed in our community. 

I fear, however, that without an element of forgiveness, our posture toward one another will continue to harden. The distance and divide will increase and the toxic words we throw toward one another will become increasingly sharp and pointed. 

There’s very little hope of cultivating community and friendships when we can’t stand one another and when we won’t forgive. 

Forgiveness is messy. It’s complicated. Maybe we’re afraid to air our “dirty laundry” to the larger world. If we’re real honest with ourselves, gay men are not at all immune to hating one another. Perhaps a part of you hates other gay men in this very moment. 

While writing this, I came across these powerful words from Archbishop Desmond Tutu:

Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking, but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end, only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing.

Will gay men step forward to choose forgiveness? Will I? Will you? What will be your first step toward forgiving your fellow gay men?..................


-----"What If Gay Men Forgave One Another?",  by Josh Hersh, July 17, 2014, The Blog, Huffington Post 

See also: Gay Men And Forgiveness 1

What Is Race Play? 3

Now married to Superior Asian Male.  i drink His cum and He is now Man of the house.  i love Him and hunger for Him.  He gets anything He wants from me, the way life should be. 

-----"Asians Are Awesome", by shywhitesub.tumblr.com

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What Is Race Play? 2

You’ve been sucking his big White cock for hours and your jaw is numb. Your tiny asian dick has gone soft but still you continue sucking him and pleasuring him. 

That’s when it hits you. That small nagging feeling of shame. Your see yourself sucking his cock in the mirror and you can’t help but feel embarrassed. Embarrassed that you’re willing to debase yourself just to have opportunities to be with White Men. 

You tell yourself that you’re not like the other gaysians. You’re not a potato queen. You like guys of all races… but when you look at the stats, you find yourself saying “yes” to every White guy that messages you on Grindr while you say no to most POCs. [People of Colour]

You try to justify your feelings and rationalize your preferences. You exaggerate how much you’re attracted to non-White guys and you try to find White guys you don’t find attractive and exaggerate how much you don’t like them, but the truth is, the degree and quality of attraction you have to White Men is in a whole different league compared to your attraction to non-Whites.

You feel like a hypocrite for liking White Men almost exclusively. You try to downplay your attraction to them with your friends, because you’re afraid if they find out how much you love White Men, then it completely verifies their assumptions that you’re like any other typical gaysian. 

You spout all these ideals on social media about gay minorities and their marginalization, but you yourself subscribe to stereotypes about your race and submit to White Men.

But you push those feelings away when you suck his cock. You realize how much of a chink you truly are and no matter how hard you try to run away from it, you always come back to White Men. And after he’s done with your hole and used you like a whore, you stand there shell-shocked… ashamed at the things you did for him, disgusted at the names he called you and you called yourself, and loathing yourself and your asian-ness.

You tell yourself for the umpteenth time that you’re done with White Men. That you won’t be a chink no more. That is, until he messages you a week later, and you drop everything you’re doing and come crawling back to his…

BIG WHITE COCK.

-----asian fags for white men.tumblr.com

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What Is Race Play? 1

What is race play..? Is it just a way for white guys to be racist..?

Answer No. 1

Race play is the truthful and authentic dedication of service a useless nigger submits to for the greater glory of a superior White man. Fall in line, niggers. #WhiteLivesMatter
 -----Gay Nigger Cunt.tumblr.com


Answer No. 2 

Rather than responding with fantasy, I’ll answer this accurately. Raceplay is a form of kink sub-culture that eroticises racism, deriving sexual pleasure from the power inherent to racism. Some people in the sub-culture are genuinely racist, others aren’t and have come to it via their pre-existing interest in kink and domination.

One thing I want to cover is the idea that raceplay is something white people use to subjugate and be racist to other ethnic groups. It’s not that complicated. Raceplay eroticises racial domination of any kind- there are plenty of raceplay sites focussing on white men’s submission to Asians, Black men, Latinos, Muslims etc. Also, raceplay only works when both sides accept to and play with the fantasy.

Yes, raceplay has the potential to cause damage to people by inculcating racist ideas and making them think it’s “true”. But this is inherent to any form of powerplay within the sexual zone (fem-dom can lead to unhealthy understandings of femininity, Dom-Sub play can ruin people’s self-esteem). This is a risk that needs to be mitigated as best as possible, but one also needs to balance this with breaking the fantasy.

So when I do raceplay in real life I will always discuss it with a potential partner to make sure they are comfortable first.
-----fuck those asian slut boys.tumblr.com

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Therapy

Getting tired of white fags and their racial "preferences"......"Sorry, no Asians" and "Sorry, no blacks".....??

"Preference" for them is OK, but racist when you use it and say, "No whites" or "Not into whites"..?

Ever felt like.....you know....

https://praisemasterben.tumblr.com/post/174413103655/hahahaaha-slap-the-faggit-silly

 

Craigslist Hong Kong

CL Hong Kong has now removed all personal ads in all categories.

This is part of a worldwide move on all their pages. The official reason is to stop global human trafficking for prostitution.  This is obviously a huge problem and we suspect some ugly truths about the scale of human abduction and trafficking are about to be released.

As we've said before, these are the times of the Apocalypse, the true meaning of which, is that which was hidden, is now revealed

We're not gonna miss the hugely irritating Indonesian, Filipino, Thai and Chinese moneyboys, or the really weirdly-worded ads by Asian trans-sexuals.

However, we have a sneaky suspicion that some presently innocent categories on CL like "Salon/Spa/Fitness will become the new turf for carnal games.  No proof, just a thought.

UPDATE: 7 MAY 2018:  Our suspicion was almost correct: the personal ads and the escorts have appeared in the the "Missed Connections category".  What makes it worse, is that they're not sorted.  You're gonna have to wade through escorts, trans-sexual escorts, heteros looking to hookup, homos looking to hookup - and missed connections.  What a fuckin' mess.

We will miss local and tourist gay men online, in particular:

• the abject stupidity;
• the repetitive insanity;
• the "preferences";
• the outright racism;
• the outright ageism; 
• the number of years over which a fag's age remained the same;
• the ads we instantly knew would fail;
• the number of times we giggled when we saw, "let's do this..!" (more a declaration of desperation than intent);
• the pleas for information on gay saunas which fell on deaf ears;
• whether the self-admitted "average-looking, wine-drinking, "philosophical", "cultured", well educated, "gentle" GAM (a.k.a someone with the visual appeal of paint drying on the wall and the mental incontinence of a dripping faucet), actually found true love with a bloated white guy, similarly depleted in the Looks Department.

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Parkside (Uptown Funk And Suck)

"I think this is a gay bar without the drinks...!!" whispered the 20-something female to her anemic looking boyfriend, "they're giving YOU dirty looks...!!....I don't think we should be here....look at all these GUYS.....they're by themselves standing close to each other or walking around nearby staring at the other guys.....what are they DOING....??!!"

"Uhh...OK..." muttered the boyfriend, looking alarmed and insecure, "just keep walking, I won't make eye contact with any of them..."  The sound of her clattering stilettos rapidly faded away. Silence once again descended on the very dark corner of the park at 10pm on a weekday.

"....any of them"  being not less than an astonishing 28 fags clustered in what is rapidly becoming the most notorious open secret in local Fagland, attracting a daily evening feed of regulars - GAMs, whites, students, office guys, chubs, gym guys and tourists in the know -  PLUS the usual trash of Mainland Chinese moneyboys some of whom remove their shirts - as if that's gonna help their case  - PLUS creepy, horny, vaginally-deprived Pakis and Indians with thick accents, dubious identity documents, claming to live "alone" ("alone" being a cubicle in a sub-divided flat with 12 others), making clucking noises like parrots whist scoping a deal for their cock and his cash.

If the usual trash of moneyboys and creepy Pakis was added to the mix, "any of them..." would be approaching a total of 40.

FuelMix stared in amazement and disbelief.  It was a fuckin' Tuesday night for chrissakes....what the hell would this place look like on Friday nights and weekends..??!!

In the darkness and deep silence of massive trees and artfully planted shrubbery, time stood still.  Fags were draped across railings and benches, their eyes transfixed.  If they moved, it was a peculiar combination of vigilance and torpor.  The scene was reminiscent of Wagler Pit Vipers found in the dimly lit Penang Snake Temple, with illegal smoking being rancid incense.

Slithering around curved paths lined with pubic bushes, they bared their fangs and hissed at each other in mutual contempt.

Then, something would happen. One or more fags would twitch in erotic anticipation and squirm towards each other.  Like reptiles, they bent and twisted to avoid unflattering park lamps from hitting their skin.  Darkness, or a semblance thereof, was necessary as they groped and rubbed themselves against each other. One would fall to his knees, a backpack would scrape against the ground,  the sound of a zip opening, sucking noises and moans, hips thrusting.  Minutes later, gulping noises and a strangled orgasm.  A white flourish of Kleenex, sounds of zipping up, a backpack scooped up and footsteps disappearing.

He'd be back.

(Or, in the words of Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars, "Don't believe me..? Just watch..")



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Gay Men And Forgiveness 1

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Sex is easy. Intimacy is hard. Having spent so much of my life sexually frustrated, I didn’t realize how true this is until after a painful breakup with my ex, Kay.

I partially came out at 20. I came out more fully at twenty-five. But I didn’t really properly date until I was 29. Which means I had about a 10-year lag on most heterosexuals. The romantic and sexual experiences that most other people go through earlier, I went through later, but with the same emotionally undeveloped tools as an adolescent. 

So when I met Kay, I rushed in. I felt too much, too fast, and then we fell apart. 

This happens to straight people too of course. But I think our straight peers have the advantage of a larger culture that better equips them to deal with romantic failure. They receive mentorship either directly from friends or family, or indirectly from media, on how to recover from a failed relationship. 

At least for me, I spent much of my adolescence and early adulthood having my own sexual interests dismissed. And so when I finally found a guy who provided the fulfillment of a meaningful relationship, and then had my heart broken, I felt like there was never a point to it. I was rejected by straight culture, and now I’d been rejected by my own. I gave up on any kind of “happily ever after.” 

For a full week after Kay and I ended, I barely left my apartment and just sat streaming videos. I burned through all of True Detective and much of The Wire. Cocktail hour started at sunrise. I deleted him from my phone. I felt lonely all the time. I still do sometimes, though I’m better now at managing it.

Everyone at some point finds themselves feeling abandoned, as though alone in a boat. But as a gay man, I felt adrift, with neither rudder, oar, nor sail, as I watched my straight peers move on ahead. They too went through many of the same struggles, but always seemed to recover better and faster, while I bobbed around at the whim of the waves, traveling each way and none. 

I pursued myriad shallow relationships, rather than investing and losing too much by giving too much to one person. There are ten guys in my list of contacts with the last name “OKCupid.” There are 23 with the last name “Grindr”. For one of them, as a first name I just wrote “Some Dude.” Those are just the ones who made it into my contacts. 

I found lots of opportunities for easy sex, but didn’t push for anything more from the guys I met. 

I even hooked up with the same guy twice and didn’t even realize I’d had sex with him before until, as we were undressing, I recognized a familiar birthmark otherwise hidden by underwear. I still don’t know his name. 

Kay and I lived in the same city, which meant that we would run into each other occasionally. Each time it had been painful to pretend that we were strangers. As two gay men between the age of twenty and forty living in a small city, we were going to share space. We’ve probably shared lovers. But the isolation we’d brought on ourselves had been its own kind of burden. Even worse than the break up itself. The breakup happened and ended. The loneliness that came from going unacknowledged dragged on and on. 

Recently, I was wrapping up breakfast with a man I’d been seeing for eight months. (Both of us had been cautious—we hadn’t had the “boyfriend” talk. Love comes more slowly the second time around.) I received a text with the name heading: New Contact Found: Maybe Kay.

When I got the text, beginning, “Hi, this is Kay,” I felt fearful, anxious and angry. I looked at the calendar: It had been three years and two days since our first date. 

Kay was texting to say that he was sorry for how he had treated our relationship. For years, this was what I had most wanted from Kay. I didn’t want him to beg for forgiveness, or tell me that he loved me, I just wanted him to see that how we ended had left me hurt. But, even more than that, I wanted him to recognize that we had, once, been important to each other. 

The funny thing was, once Kay apologized to me, I realized I could do the same for him. There were things about our relationship that I was sorry for. I had done things I regretted, and had wanted to apologize for, but hadn’t because I thought it would make me look like a chump. I was the one who got dumped. So why should I be the one to say I was sorry? 

But after this exchange, I could feel my anger and resentment toward Kay evaporating. He had been trying to identify what was important to him, and had realized that he needed to take better care of his relationships. It was not something that came easily to him, but he was trying to do better. 

I felt that he meant what he wrote, and I made the choice to believe him. Mostly because I’ve been feeling the same way. And acknowledging that it, and each other, has let me release a lot of weight I’d been dragging around ever since we split. Yes, I had been avoiding Kay. But I had also been avoiding my own fears of intimacy. 

I’d tried to dodge every single guy I’d ever been on so much as a date with, which meant strategizing how to best navigate an ever growing minefield of discarded lovers. Sure, when Kay and I crossed paths we pretended we didn’t know each other, but I’d been doing that with everyone who’d shared my bed. 

Recently, I reached out to another ex after a chance encounter in a thrift store. When I saw Luis in the store, I spun around and walked out. Almost immediately I felt embarrassed and went back inside to apologize, but he had already left, or else was hiding in the dressing room. So I texted him to say how sorry I was that I had avoided him. That the next time I saw him I would say hello. 

Kay and I will probably never be friends. We don’t need to be. But at least we aren’t strangers any more. We can say hello when we see each other in the street. I even opened up my contacts and put his name back in.

-----"Dealing with Rejection: Living openly and learning to forgive", by Cirrus Wood, Beta, October 11, 2017


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Grindr Fatigue

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It’s pointless to try and argue the validity of apps like Grindr and Scruff in today’s gay culture. Whether we like it or not, social media is on a fast track to being the primary way in which we communicate with one another. But there is a difference between using gay social apps to meet new people and spending hours upon hours fixated on the sexual gratification of dick picks and hook-up possibilities. Gay hook-up sites are nothing new, but the increasing popularity and constant accessibility of social media apps has led, in many ways, to the dehumanization of gay men. In other words, Grindr, Scruff and the rest of the lot are creating a bunch of gay sex robots who only know how to communicate with each other via pictures and sexual function.

Anyone who uses social media has been somewhat limited by the nature of engagement. But whereas Facebook at least requires somewhat of a sense of transparency and accountability, apps like Grindr allow the user to operate under the guise of anonymity. This, unfortunately, plays into a darker side of our psyche that takes an unfiltered and inhumane approach to human interaction where the user treats other users like players in a sexual video game.

While at a work meeting or getting a coffee, a person can practically annihilate a person’s self esteem. This, because vulgarity, rudeness and all-out prejudice thinly veiled under the pretense of “honesty,” has sadly become the status quo. A user often forgets that there is a person behind the torso picture. This casual daily phenomenon has led many people to be saddened by the state of gay culture and the humanity of the modern gay man.

The virtual sex lives of gay men have even caught the attention of female columnists like Samantha Allen, a tech and health writer for The Daily Beast. In a recent article titled, “‘No Blacks’ Is Not a Sexual Preference, It’s Racism,’” Allen calls out the state of sexual racism that she says is particularly heated within the gay community.

She writes, “If you’re a gay man, phrases like ‘no blacks’ and ‘no Asians’ aren’t just words that you’d find on old signs in a civil rights museum, they are an unavoidable and current feature of your online dating experience. On gay dating apps like Grindr and Scruff, some men post blunt and often offensive disclaimers on their profiles such as ‘no oldies,’ ‘no fems,’ and ‘no fatties.’”

Naturally, the crude and rudimentary nature of “Grindr speech” is the type of language that most people would not use in face-to-face communication. And for good reason, this form of speech has virtually crippled the self-esteem of many of these popular hook-up app’s users.

John Harrell is an HIV-positive man from Seattle who chooses to disclose his status on his profile. He has gotten a variety of negative responses over his status, but this is the one he remembers most.
“OMG…WTF!!! You’re PROUD to be an AIDS infected Pandemic spreading, Pariah of Society, and cheer when others are infected with AIDS so you’re not the only one Spreading the Filth?!!! OMG!!!! 

Steve Martinez.....is also no stranger to encountering aggressive and hateful language on gay hook-up apps because of his HIV status.

“I was chatting with an older man on daddy hunt,” said Martinez. “The chatting was getting sexual and before meeting him I disclosed my HIV status. He responded with ‘you're disgusting.’ I replied he was ignorant for his age. Then he started calling me a liar and a dirty slut. I reported him to Daddyhunt. They reviewed our conversation and deleted his profile. Shortly after, I deleted my account. I feel kinda insecure and a little afraid now to meet new guys.”

These are but a few ways in which users of these apps can experience harmful engagements from other users. The anonymity granted by these apps can and often do lead to behavior with which the average user would be mortified to be associated with. Yet, even the most astute public persona can be guilty of reducing themselves to their lowest form. By simply using a face picture as a person’s user profile image, the language and behavior a [of] user is usually markedly improved.

But the widespread adoption of social media “hook-up” communication hasn’t only negatively influenced the way we virtually communicate, it has also spilled into our real life relationships. Many users of apps like Grindr and Scruff have reported developing an outright obsession with the virtual hook-up hunt. This form of Grindr mania, whether it be short-lived or a constant presence, has the ability to hinder a person’s relationships, work life, and even their chances at meeting potential love or lust interests ‘IRL.’[In Real Life]

Luke Stephens from Connecticut remembers when he became consumed with the art of the Grindr chase.

“It was Christmas and my mom was visiting me,” said Stephens. “I would’ve given her more of my time, but I was obsessed with three guys on Grindr whom I hadn’t even yet met. It was about the fourth day when I had had just about as much as I could take – so I deleted the conversations and deleted Grindr. My mom left a day later and I felt such guilt for not strengthening the familial relationship that was more important to me than some Grindr guys who didn’t respect the human being on the other end of the digital wall."

Social media hook-up apps are not inherently good or bad; they are merely the newest form of human interface. And like with anything new, it can take some time to develop and perfect our best style of communication. This isn’t a macro problem, it comes down to a micro decision of an individual to treat others like humans instead of virtual sex bots and balance your own virtual communication with your three dimensional life. So, if you believe that you are a nice guy in person, make sure your virtual self isn’t a total douche.

-----"Grindr Fatigue and the Dehumanization of Gay Men", hivequal.org October 28, 2015

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5.   The Politics of Rage (Or, We Told You So)
6.   Now It All Makes Sense

 
5.   The Politics of Rage (Or, We Told You So)

1.  In the post, The Politics Of Rage, we said this:

2.   Anger Building For Years

1.  It's NOT about one election in one country or the personalities involved.  At best, one country's election are simply a symptom and metaphor for the massive sense of GLOBAL rage that's been building since we believe September 11, 2001.  Yeah that date.

2.  To us, that date marks the start of a policy of economic, financial and military genocide that has had - by design - utterly disastrous results.  In other words, The World Management Team that was manipulating events, was absolutely banking on the GLOBAL creation of never-ending chaos, human misery, economic inequality, artificially inflated asset bubbles, outrageous debt creation, debasement of currency and fraud.

2.   When societal dystopia reaches hyper-exaggerated levels (as in what we appear to be witnessing these days), individual and collective anger is a predictable corollary.   We've written about this at length in posts such as:

• The Politics Of Rage;
• Destruction, Disruption And Dissonance 1;
• Destruction, Disruption And Dissonance 2;
• Destruction, Disruption And Dissonance 3;
• Hail Satan 1;
• Hail Satan 2;
• Hail Satan 3;
• Hail Satan 4;
• Hail Satan 5;
• Hail Satan 6; 
• Violence, Islamophobia And Gay Porn;

3.   In Violence, Islamophobia And Gay Porn, we said this:

3.  What Is Driving Such Extremism..?

1.   ....... Look around the world these days and it's blatantly obvious that there is a massive spike in social, political and economic fault lines, schisms, polarizations, political distrust - peppered with disinformation, propaganda, corruption, fraud, lies, skewed justice in favour of the well-connected and seemingly endless wars.

2.   Overlay this with the acknowledgement that this is also the Apocalypse, the true meaning of which, is that which was hidden is now revealed......and one trait becomes obvious: there is anger everywhere in the face of what is being revealed. That anger is being fueled by a sense of betrayal and powerlessness, with the suspicion that this Chaos is being blatantly manipulated.

4.  We then went on to say:

4.   The Extreme Vigilante Mentality

1.   The anger has to be channeled somewhere.  That cascading sense of tumultuous social, economic, political and geopolitical anger fueled by betrayal and powerlessness, encourages an extreme vigilante mentality.

2.   That will manifest as:

• an armed to the teeth, mercenary, lawless, survival-oriented, frontier-mentality in real life; and / or

• vicariously violent, explicit, sexually extreme depictions of hatred of an identifiable group - for sexual gratification.  Remember, porn has always been an outlet for stress;

6.   Now It All Makes Sense

1.   In Part 2 of this series, we highlighted those countries which people felt were going in the wrong direction.  They were predominantly "First World" Western countries.  We then highlighted their economic and political concerns.  We then wrote about the growing sense of anger, hatred and rage on so many fronts - particularly in the West.

2.  The conclusion we've reached is that violence and hatred in gay porn is a convergence.  It is not merely a sexual fantasy protected by Free Speech or Freedom of Expression rights.  It is just as much a convergence of political, economic, social and demographic factors.  In other words, this kind of porn is both a fantasy and a symptom.

Originally published 25 February 2017
Republished 17 January 2018

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3.  Violence And Hatred In Gay Porn:  Convergence
4.  Faggotry Has A Little Problem...

3.  Violence And Hatred In Gay Porn:  Convergence

1.  For the record, we're not condoning or condemning the existence of violent and hate-filled gay porn.  We accept that on the continuum of the porn spectrum, people's "preferences" are going to be all over the place.  We are simply, and hopefully authentically, informing readers of what's out there and how it is possible to slip into these sites without even having the intention to find them - simply by clicking on a (sometimes innocently-named) source link that takes one down an eye-opening rabbit hole.

(a)  Targeted Groups In Violent Gay Porn:

• Immigrants;
• Muslims;
• Jews;
• Blacks;
• "Faggots","Perceived Faggots" and "Sub-human Faggots";
• "Faggot" Cash Slaves rich or poor;
• Twinks; 
• Anyone in a position of authority in the establishment;
• Catholic priests;

for abduction, savage beatings, hunting, torture, mutilation and murder.  Large amounts of graphic imagery on par with the most violent of video games, blurring the line between fantasy and reality.  Gratuitous violence condoned and actively encouraged on such sites


(b)  Vehicles Of Violence and Hatred In Gay Porn:

• Subliminal programming encouraging either extreme Alpha dominance or "faggot" and "sub-human" subservience with graphic imagery.  Available for free on Tumblr gay porn sites;
• Satanic worship - sexual and blood lust (independent of gay satanic porn sites);
• Crystal meth and crack cocaine binges - with images to match;
• Neo-Nazi skinheads or "Aryan" gay white supremacists - not self-identifying as "faggots";
• Glorification of the ideal white male muscled physique;
• Weaponry - pistols, assault rifles, knives, ropes, chainsaws;
• "Stealth Pozzing" i.e. being HIV+ and:

(i) engaging in bareback sex by lying about, or without disclosing, HIV status in order to infect one or more people;  OR

(ii) deliberately damaging condoms beforehand, knowing they would be useless and break during sex, coupled with lying about, or not disclosing, HIV status;

(c)  Stated Intentions Of Violent Gay Porn Sites:

• Racism and anti-immigrant stance;
• Glorification of violence;
• Extreme violence as a source of gratuitous and sexual pleasure;
• Removal of unwanted groups as "vermin", "filth" and "inferiors"; 
• Exploitation as a source of pleasure;
• Human blood sports;
• Repudiation of religious dogma;
• Spreading disease as an act of creative destruction;

4.   Faggotry Has A Little Problem.....

1.   It can be said that str8 people are probably engaging in their share of viewing violent and hate-filled porn.  Heterosexuals aren't as innocent as they look.

2.  That might be true.

3.  But str8 people don't have the habit of screeching "stereotyping", "outrage", "violation", "discrimination", "victimization" and "hate crime".

4.  Faggtory does.

5.  And yet, easily accessible on the Web (without going to the Dark Web) is some of the most extreme, violent and hate-ridden gay porn that completely torpedoes any and all tenets of Faggtory's Gospel namely, Political Correctness, respect for minorities, tolerance and diversity.

6.  In fact those gay sites have taken Faggotry's vocabulary of "stereotyping", "outrage", "violation", "discrimination", "victimization" and "hate crime" to new depths of depravity.  And there's nothing that Faggotry and its enablers can do about it.

7.  In The Huge Rise Of Gay Scat Porn 1, we said this:

Best as we can tell, there are 3 main topics that make gay men nervous:

• Gay Scat Porn;
• Gay Subliminal Porn;
• Gay Devil Worship and Satanic Porn;

Whether it's denial, fear, loathing or ignorance, these subjects exist in real time and in cyber. In fact, they are proliferating in cyber.  They represent the very extreme limits of "the gay lifestyle". We suspect that the numbers of men involved in one or more of them is much higher than anybody would guess.

Constructing an intelligent narrative that confronts the denial, fear, loathing and ignorance that surrounds these subjects is not for the faint-hearted or the easily terrified. The proclivities not only reside deep in the psyches of the individuals who engage in such practices, but reflect what's happening in the very deepest sub-basement of the gay sub-culture......"

The same comments apply when analyzing violence and hatred in gay porn.

COMING UP IN PART 4:

5.   The Politics Of Rage (Or, We Told You So)
6.   Now It All Makes Sense

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2.  Countries Going In The Right Or Wrong Direction

1.  In November 2016, Ipsos Public Affairs asked this question to over 18,000 people in 25 countries.  The context was societal polarization on so many issues:

Generally speaking, would you say things in this country are heading in the right direction, or are they off on the wrong track?

Chart source: http://www.visualcapitalist.com/countries-going-right-direction/

2.  Ipsos then went a step further and asked respondents to select their Top 3 Worries from a list of 17 options.  The second chart is below.  

3.  Note the responses given by so-called First World Countries  in the above chart. In Canada, Australia, Japan, United Kingdom, United States, Germany, Belgium, Spain, Sweden, Italy, South Korea and France, the majority of the respondents said their countries were headed in the wrong direction. 

(b)  Note the responses given by 2 of the so-called Second World Countries (the Eastern European countries that were communist-socialist industrial countries in the sphere of influence of the former Soviet Union).  In Poland and Hungary, the majority of the respondents said their countries were headed in the wrong direction.

(c)   And then note where the chart gets interesting:  At the very top of the chart. In China, India and Russia, the majority of the respondents said their countries were headed in the right direction.

(d)  Well, that's awkward.....what happened to the much vaunted happy "highly developed"  First World countries.....their quality of life, their freedoms, their democracies, their relatively low crime rates, their health care..?

4.  Turns out, rather a lot. Take a look at the second chart which is about 17 global worries.  The 2 biggest global worries are economic namely "Unemployment" and "Poverty And Social Inequality".

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Charts source: http://www.visualcapitalist.com/countries-going-right-direction/

5.  As Visual Capitalist correctly points out (underlining and bold print by FuelMix):

Issues such as “Terrorism”, “Rise of Extremism” or “Immigration Control” are surprisingly in the middle of the pack, though it is worth keeping in mind that the above data is at a global level. These issues would likely rank higher in Western countries than in places like China, Russia, or India.

6.  It is the second chart that provides the answers to why violence and hatred is appearing in gay porn - of all places.

COMING UP IN PART 3:
3.  Violence And Hatred In Gay Porn:  Convergence
4.  Faggotry Has A Little Problem...

Originally published 25 February 2017
Republished 14 January 2018


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1.  What Are These Images Doing On Gay Porn Sites..?
2.  Countries Going In The Right Or Wrong Direction
3.  Violence And Hatred In Gay Porn:  Convergence
4.  Faggotry Has A Little Problem... 
5.  The Politics Of Rage (Or, We Told You So) 
6.   Now It All Makes Sense


1.  What Are These Images Doing On Gay Porn Sites..?

1.  Here are some of the more "tame" images easily accessible on  several Tumblr gay porn sites - simply by clicking on links. These sites are apparently curated by individuals who appear to be US citizens.  We're not going to speculate on their actual sexual orientation (since these gay sites also include images of graphic violence against gay men) and we are not picking on any one country.  We would not be surprised if similar images existed on European or other foreign language sites.

2.  Lamestream Faggot media which works overtime to ensure that the Saccharin-coated, Splenda-flavoured image of "the community" is sweetened at all costs, won't touch topics like violence and hatred in gay porn.  It would force them to confront some uncomfortable truths which they would much rather avoid.

3.  As we said in Principles of Faggotry 59:

1.   Many fags brag that they are well traveled.

2.  It's usually true.

3.   They flee from one State of Denial to another.

COMING UP IN PART 2:
2.  Countries Going In The Right Or Wrong Direction

Originally published 25 February 2017
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5.  The Deathwalk
6.  Fags And Dignity
7.  Who's Gonna Remember Me..?

The most enlightened communities have always comprehended that there was the present life, the act of death and the hereafter.

5.   The Deathwalk

1.  In Shamanic cultures, Buddhism, Hinduism, ancient Egypt, Inca and Maya there is the practice of the “deathwalk”. On a person’s deathbed, an intermediary stays with them, entering into a meditative trance-like state to accompany the deceased’s spirit to the other side and then return, having safely delivered them into the Light. It is one of the most noble acts a person could do, a mark of the utmost respect and dignity to the person passing over. 

6.   Fags and Dignity

1.  Fags constantly clamour for dignity only to degrade each other - whether online or to their face, or behind their backs. How many little deaths must a fag endure in his “community”? Is his buffed bod just an armor plating for a whimpering spirit cowering in the recesses of a wounded psyche?  

2.  An outrageous claim fags make is that they are a “community”. That’s a lie. A “community” implies cohesion. How can there be cohesion when the community consists of so many individually wounded, fractured psyches? FuelMix has often been left speechless at the numbers of deeply lonely, sexually abused, fundamentally unhappy fags, some quite young, for whom living in Fagland (either as a postal code or a state of mind) is a daily accumulation of financial, social and emotional degradation culminating in a fundamental lack of self-worth. 

3.  There’s no doubt those are the walking wounded and the living dead. Where is that special person who will guide them through their “deathwalk”, that long night of the soul when incessant Fagland pain finally transfigures them into someone stronger, more noble, more resilient, more at peace with themselves...? 

4.  Anonymity, casual social and sexual encounters are touted as the norm in Fagland. But maybe the norm is the perversion. The frenetic superficiality takes its toll. Nobody says what they mean. Nobody means what they say. So how much is an obituary for a dead fag really worth...? 

7.   Who's Gonna Remember Me....?

1.  Maybe Obituary TV (as mentioned in Here And Hereafter 1) isn't such a bad idea. It  might encourage fags to record something other than their genitals.  Maybe Obituary TV is technology’s clumsy way of returning to the myth of the sacred – the reverence for one’s life, the life of others and the life beyond. 

2.  Maybe Obituary TV is the wake-up call to all of us to polish up the Resume of our lives – something that we can live by, point to and be proud of. Perhaps Gay Pride of the future will not just be a global festival for the circuit party boy or the carnival float queen, but the commemoration of Legacy for the gay lives that have gone before. 

3.  Nobody wants to feel forgotten.  Nobody wants to feel irrelevant.  Nobody wants to feel degraded. Nobody wants to die anonymous. The fag’s hedonistic lifestyle of amnesia-inducing anonymous sex, may be the cheap substitute – and the very antithesis - for what his spirit quietly craves....authentic intimacy, acceptance, honesty, trust and surrender.

 4.  They don’t call an orgasm “the little death” for nothing.  It’s the closest the lonely gay man comes to dying in someone’s arms.  

Originally published 20 December 2007.  

Amended and republished 6 February 2012 | 7 January 2014 | 25 December 2017

 
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