An Ideal....Compromised

“The thing is”, said the Fat Middle Aged English Fag, “virtually all my friends are partnered. They’ve been together and faithful to each other for years. I like that”.

“Why?” asked FuelMix.

“Well,” said the fag, “there’s trust between them. There’s better communication. And more integrity when they deal with people…..you know, they keep their word and stuff. Their communication is more direct – you know whom you’re dealing with”.

“Not bad”, thought FuelMix who had once again, dropped into the University of Fag Bar (pending accreditation). It was rare for a Fat Middle Aged English Fag to spew sense and even more rare for one to posit the social virtues of gay monogamy.

FM: Do you have a partner?

FMAEF: Well…I’m sort of in a relationship.

FM: Huh?

FMAEF: I’m kind of seeing someone…..he’s younger…..not sure where he is right now…..

FM: A lot younger?

FMAEF: About 25 years or so. Not really sure about his age. And I didn’t tell him that I was coming to town this time.

FM: How much communication do you have then?

FMAEF: [voice trailing away] Oh….we talk…now and then.

FM: Are you monogamous?

FMAEF: Oh God No! I travel a lot for work. I have needs.

FM: Did you talk to him about monogamy or an open relationship?

FMAEF: No….he just sort of appears and then disappears. Besides, it’s too much work to talk about something as heavy as that. Why risk a fight...?

FM: So…..you don’t know his age, you don’t know where he is right now, you didn’t tell him that you're in town,  you’re not sure if you’re in a relationship and you sleep around anyway.

FMAEF: That’s pretty much it, yes.

FM: But you admire your friends and their relationship?

FMAEF: Yes very much so. They’re such good people.

FM: So what’s stopping you from emulating them?

FMAEF: Gosh! It seems awfully hard work…..you have to work at the relationship. And I travel a lot for work anyway.

FM: Do your partnered friends travel for work and pleasure?

FMAEF: Oh, all the time…..Oh..! I see what you mean…..I suppose I must be sounding like an arsehole……

FuelMix smiled politely, satisfied that he had trawled sufficient blog material to make a meaningful point.

Originally published 24 September 2008 
Republished 4 November 2011, 
Amended and Republished 24 May 2013 | 16 April 2017

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