Is Monogamy Miserable ? 1

Now that, for the moment, the cocaine dust has settled in the West following a "landmark decision" - fascinated readers will already know how fags like to exaggerate -  (actually it was a limited facilitative ruling) by the Supreme Court in God's Own Country concerning Gay Marriage, FuelMix thought it would be appropriate to look at an article about Monogamy that he had been holding in reserve:

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Each year brings forth its rich harvest of adulterers who have vaulted out of the marriage bed and scooted off – leaving heartbreak and lawyers’ bills in their wake. Across age, race and class, it’s the same story. And each year people scratch their heads in puzzlement and wonder where it all went wrong. 

.............. Maybe, suggested America’s leading relationships columnist, Dan Savage, it’s time we looked more closely at monogamy and asked if we’re really cut out for it as a species. 

.............. Savage’s suggestion was a novel one. Hetero­sexuals, he reckoned, should learn to behave more like homosexuals — and gay males in particular. What this means, in essence, is that they should re-examine their ideas about fidelity. Savage, who’s gay himself, insists he’s faithful to his partner, and vice versa. That said, his definition of fidelity is one that any thesaurus would struggle to accommodate.

“My partner’s fidelity to me is as important as anyone who’s in a monogamous relationship with someone else; we just don’t define sexual exclusivity as the be-all and end-all of commitment. In other words, we’re faithful to each other, but sometimes we have sex with other people.

“However, that in no way violates our commitment to each other.” 

----------"Is monogamy making us miserable?", John Preston, The Telegraph, 10 September 2011

Since FuelMix does things differently, we're gonna look at Gay Monogamy from 2 perspectives:

• Sociological and Sub-Cultural
• Quantum Physics and Metaphysics

Coming up in Parts 2 and 3 : Gay Monogamy Sociological and Sub-Cultural 

Originally published 28 January 2014
Republished 7 November 2014

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