Shot Through The Heart

1.  How To Make A Gay Guy Squirm
2.  Failure To Set Parameters Of A Relationship
3.  Faggotry's Basis: Hedonism And Easy Availability
4. Gay Hedonism vs LTR
5.  Our Suspicion
6.  The Unanswered Questions
7. The "Gay Nazi" Relationship Paradox


1.  How To Make A Gay Guy Squirm

1.  If there's one thing guaranteed to make the generic urban fag squirm is his reaction to the question:

"So.....you have a BF.....are you monogamous and committed or is there a deal about sleeping around..?"

2.  Their answers:

• "OMG...let's not go there..."
• "We haven't talked about it.."
• "We won't talk about it.."
• "I don't dare bring it up.."
• "If I raise that, we're gonna break up for sure..!"
• "I really don't and won't wanna know.."
• "There's a big age difference between us, so I'm sure he's fuckin' around.."
• "I don't know what he sees in me, so I'm guessing he's fuckin' around.."
• **sheepish grin**  "We're sorta emotionally committed.  If you were to ask me where he was right now, I wouldn't know.."
• "I never trusted him and I don't trust myself.  So that's where we're at"
• "I have needs and I guess he does too"
• "We've been together - in one form or another - off and on - for [  ] years.  Why risk embarrassing questions..?"
• "God, I've been hurt so many times I really don't care anymore. If I have someone in my bed for a while that's cool.  Even when I'm holding him, I don't trust him".

Fascinated readers will already know that FuelMix supports monogamy.  See the stuff he's previously written under the label,  Monogamy .  But that's NOT the point of this post.


2.  Failure To Set Parameters of a Relationship

1.  This post enquires why there is such widespread failure to set the parameters of a "relationship" - if there is one.


3.  Faggotry's Basis : Hedonism And Easy Availability

1.  Start with the basic premise that Faggotry is based on outright hedonism and the easy availability of hot guys.  Nothing wrong with that and we've all done it.  It's fun and it's a rite of passage.  Done in moderation by a fag who's genuinely single and unattached, recreational and anonymous sex can be healthy.  But some fags never outgrow it and it becomes a chronic lifestyle "choice".  Check out what their faces and bodies look like after a few decades of gay saunas, chems, after-parties, gay travel and circuit parties.

2.  (Hint:  ever wondered why these pretty fags in Fagland photographed in Clubs with big grins and their arms around each other, look SO sleep deprived??  And fuck....some are still in their 20s).


 4.  Gay Hedonism vs LTR

1.  Fundamentally Gay Hedonism is incompatible with a Long Term Relationship.  Think about it.  Hot guy comes into club or gay sauna.  He's the object of attention and competition. Fags are turning ruthless, the chase is on, the cruising is hot and heavy, the conversations limited to "what you into?" or thick compliments with the intention of snagging the guy for a couple of hours.  Time is of the essence, it's now or never.  That's why the reality of Fagland is that a fag's definition of a good friend is someone he's known for 2 hours.  Most of the phone numbers on his phone's contact list are one-time 2-hour tricks.  They ain't never gonna call and if they do, it'll be real superficial.  Forget about articulating and sharing values, forget about priorities, hell forget about names - most of the names fags give out are false anyways.

2.  Fagland doesn't prepare a fag for anything other than next weekend.  Just how many Faglands are there that actively teach Relationship Building?  And yet there's no shortage of fags screaming for Gay Marriage  HAHAHAHAHAHA....!!!

3.  The only counselling that exists in Fagland are Telephone Helplines to help the angst-ridden closeted fag come out, or peer-to-peer drug counseling, HIV-counseling, suicide-counseling and grief counseling.  In other words, the counseling is entirely Casualty Based.


5.  Our Suspicion

1.  FuelMix has long suspected that vast swathes of fags screaming for Gay Marriage were political poseurs.  Most fags don't have a clue about relationship-building, they probably fled their dysfunctional birth families, the societal norms of Fagland are implicitly (perhaps even unwittingly) set against it, large chunks of gay media deliberately say nothing about relationship-building (although there's no shortage of ads from fag lawyers offering advice on how to import a same-sex marriage partner).  There's a palpable sense of disconnect which explains why so many fags have so many superficial friends and yet, are desparately lonely.


6.  The Unanswered Questions

1.  It's not surprising that when a fag does find himself in a "relationship", then by default nothing is said about what truly matters.  Namely, the answers to the questions:

• "Why do you want me?"
• "Do you really love me or are you as pathetically lonely as I am?"
• "Do you love me enough to be faithful from here on out?"
• "For as long as we're together, can I trust you on the small things and the big things?"
• "Do you trust me?"
• "What do you mean by an Open Relationship?"
• "Are you going to tell me who you've slept with?"
• "What if I'm not happy about all the guys you're sleeping with?"
• "Why can't we talk about it?"
• "How will we redefine this relationship if I'm not happy with your amount of sleeping around?"
• "Why are we in this relationship to begin with?"
• "What do you mean when you say that you can sleep around and be emotionally faithful?"
• "So if we're out together and run into a hot guy and you wanna fuck him, am I just supposed to agree?"
• "Where do my feelings come into this?"

7.  The "Gay Nazi Relationship" Paradox

1.  If fags claim to be Out to the world at large, then how come they are so repressed and closeted in their own "relationships"? Where is the Pride in that..?

2.  So many ultra-politically correct, screaming fag Nazis are the very ones who are Deaf, Dumb & Blind in their own bedrooms.  They torture themselves and their "significant" other guy in fluffy-pillowed, stuffed toy  Concentration Camps of their own creation.  Complicit in each other's agony and uncertainty, they act as the dubious role models for the next set of chronically lonely fags who assume that is the only choice.  It's futile to resist.  There will only be evasion, silence, betrayal and departure.  A little part of them will die inside.

3.  No wonder they squirm.  Each of these so-called couples is a war criminal.

4.  So.......the title of this post becomes clear.  As the boys from BonJovi wailed:

"Shot through the heart
And you're to blame
You give Luuv a bad name......."

Originally published 13 December 2010
Amended and Republished 10 September 2013 | 15 March 2017

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