Rainbow flags and screaming fags not necessary:
Look at the world through the eyes of a thinking gay man and question everything conventional gay thought tells you.
Originally published 9 March 2009.
Amended and republished 29 September 2012 | 30 September 2014
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A reader sent in this ad that he spotted on a gay personals site:
Gay men and the way they speak........
A compelling new documentary is bringing together some of the biggest lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) celebrities to discuss a question that probably crosses the mind of every gay man at some point in his life: Do I sound gay?
From director David Thorpe, "Do I Sound Gay?" aims to present an intelligent and and provocative cultural analysis of the "gay voice." Throughout this process, Thorpe talks to linguists, celebrities, historians, voice coaches and total strangers to share their own thoughts and experiences surrounding the idea of 'sounding gay.'
"Confession: I’ve always been self-conscious about 'sounding gay'.......It’s one of the main things that 'gives me away' as gay. Three years ago, I decided I’d had enough. I knew that my anxiety came from my internalized homophobia telling me: Gay = bad, so sounding gay = bad. So, I decided to make 'Do I Sound Gay?'"-----'Do I Sound Gay' Documentary Engaged In Kickstarter, by James Nichols, The Huffington Post, 30 April 2014
To: Fags
From: FuelMix
FuelMix understands that prolonged drug use can result in memory loss. As can juggling too many lies at one time.
Presumably, that explains the imbecile propensity of fags responding to an online ad, to first send an email with stats and pics of a circumcised cock - only to follow it up with another e-mail of a cock that is clearly un-cut.
Or worse......to upload both versions of "their" cock pics to their Craigslist ads as part of "their" stats.
Sort of like the yet-to-be-made Hollywood movie, "Dude, where's my foreskin....?"
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2/F Kar Wong Building
639 - 645 Shanghai Street
Mong Kok
Kowloon
Hong Kong
MTR: Mong Kok Station, Exit A2
(Cross Shanghai Street from Mong Kok Station Exit A2. Building entrance is actually on the pedestrian-only part of Fife Street)
Tel: 2396 9595
Web: Hutong Sauna
Open 24 hours
Received from a reader today. (Side Headings and minor editing by FuelMix):
Hi FIM
It must has been a while since I wrote to
you last time. I had been following your blog since the first time I
found your site and below is a review of the Hutong sauna and hope it
can help your readers. Please edit the article for me if necessary.
1. Getting There And Finding It
It was a Saturday afternoon at the end of September. I arrived by 5pm and
found the location easy to find and access from the MTR exit but I admit
that reading Chinese did help a lot. The sauna was situated in a block
of flats and there was an iron gate on the entrance. A panel of
buttons supposedly for the residents are fitted outside by the gate. However, the one for Hutong sauna was on top of the panel and apparently
a camera was fitted in the wall too, so it may give the ability for
Hutong to select its preferred customers by seeing through the camera.
The entrance was on a side street so it's quite discreet.
2. Getting In, Payment And Staff Attitude
After
passing the first gate, up about 2 stories in a stairway
and directions were given twice to lead to the final destination.
There was a doorbell outside the sauna but as you have been permitted in
the first gate, you should have no problem on entering this one.
The
admission: $159, but they won't expect to give you the $1 change so the
actual price was $160, making it the most expensive sauna in town ( I
guess?).
One of the staff on duty was very cold and didn't greet. Maybe
he was spoiled by the flattering customers who tried to pass the strict
door policy imposed since its predecessor, Double sauna.
3. Layout
The
place was new and tidy. Immediately after the reception there was a
changing room and a dining room. There were complimentary drinks ( cold
as in Chrysanthemum tea and peach juice drinks, as well as hot tea and
coffee). I also noticed that some customers had their bowls of noodles,
whether this was free or payable, had to be confirmed.
After the changing
room there was a lounge flanked with a rest room. They were both clean
and sizable. That was the upper floor and the main part of the sauna was
on the lower floor.
Immediately after the
stairs it's an area of showers, a steam room and a sauna. Following a
narrow passage, it's the maze+ dark rooms+ cabins where the action took
place. On entering, there were an array of hooks with numbers on both
side of the wall for towels, supposedly, the maze was a nude zone. The
maze was designed in a way that it's so narrow that people had to rub
into others when passing. In many occasions it's so jammed that one just
couldn't get through. It's could be fun as well as annoying.
4. The Clientele
Clientele
wise, mainly GAM from 20-40 and most were in shape and many were
muscular. Only 2 out of the 50-ish customers were GWM both in their 30s
and fit. None from other race groups were seen.
Plenty of
standing and modelling behaviour and tons of attitude. Apparently,
this is a sauna for Muscle Marys and they were looking for other Muscle
Marys or just to be served .
5. The Verdict.......Would I Go Back.....?
The place was very clean and sizeable but other than that, I didn't find it
fun.
I went to Double a couple of years ago and the attitude of that
place pissed me off and I never went back. I was hoping for an
improvement of its successor, Hutong, in terms of the attitude and
atmosphere, but I found it the same.
Maybe it's what some people like it
to be. For me, I would never go back considering that there are 4
flagship saunas in MK area. I couldn't care less, but it seems it suits
FIM well though(lol).
FuelMix says:
FuelMix has not yet been to Hutong. Deliberately. He keeps hearing stuff about this place - which he will not publish - that goes beyond their alleged door policy and staff attitude. He decided to let the readers run the reviews on this one.
At HK$159 / 160.00 "official" entry fee, this appears to be the most expensive gig in town. (And too cheap to give a buck in change...???!!!) You may have paid that because you are not a "special" or VIP customer or didn't have a Membership Card. We know that certain GAM muscleboys get in for virtually nothing.
Thanks for the update.
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.......a twist on Gilbert & Sullivan's The Mikado........1 minute and 45 seconds of your time. Double click to see it in full screen.
After a particularly satisfying session in the gym, FuelMix dropped into the gay sauna for some well earned servicing.
Cruising around, there was no shortage of attention but no one who appeared to have the staying power to deliver that dirty, raunch-ridden servicing FuelMix requires. An Ageing White Fag clutching a bottle of poppers, latched on to FuelMix diligently shadowing him through the highways, byways, alleys and dead ends. He kept grinning and licking his lips.
FuelMix was not particularly interested but, not wishing to be needlessly rude, stopped and smiled at the Ageing White Fag and asked what he was into.
AWF: I wanna suck you and swallow your load…mmmm.....[strokes FuelMix’s bod] just love your muscles….shall we go to a room? I’ll do anything you want….you can fuck me too…..
FM: I need to be serviced all over….and then I need to fuck.
AWF: That’s good…I’m willing to service every part of you.
FM: I only get sucked with a condom...I can pull it off and let you swallow at the end if you want. And I only fuck with condoms.
AWF [visibly annoyed] Oh no! I’m not buying that. I hate the taste of condoms. And I’m healthy.
FM: So am I. And that’s the way I prefer to keep it.
AWF: You don’t get HIV from sucking you know. There’s no risk to you. I’m the bottom and I’m at more risk coz I swallow and eat ass.
FM: There are interesting things you can get from unprotected sucking – even as the Top.
AWF [even more annoyed] You’re a coward! A muscled prettyboy and that’s it! I’m wasting my time [storms off muttering].
FuelMix shrugged, grateful to be rid of him. It wasn’t the first time that a fag in a sauna had spewed venom at FuelMix for having the temerity to take control of his body. It won’t be the last time either. Wrapped up in the (increasingly drug-fucked) haze of carnal hedonism, the notion of action and consequences is either a novel concept to the average urban fag, or an irritating technicality that can be negotiated.
Originally published 27 November 2008
Republished 26 September 2014
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COMPLETED 22 SEPTEMBER 2014
When A Gay Twink Has a Crush On A Str8 Twink
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We're both in our 20s and we live together in a small flat. We both work in retail.
We don't go to the bars because we really don't feel like it. Are we faithful to each other....? No, not really. I think from the beginning it was just assumed that both of us would sleep around. It's a delicate subject for us. We don't discuss it in case we get into fights. I guess we approach sleeping around in the same way as going to the toilet for a piss and a shit. Everybody does it and nobody kicks up a drama.
So, yeah...... I go to the saunas alone and so does he. We don't discuss what we did with the other guy. The two rules that we have is no kissing the other guy on the mouth and no anal sex, whether as top or bottom.
Sometimes we both go to the saunas together and play with the same guy. But we only kiss and fuck each other.
But when I'm at the sauna alone, I'm terrified I'll run into my boyfriend. I can't explain it......just terrified that I'll run into him. Seems irrational because we both know we're doing it.
Sometimes I think of monogamy and whether that would be a cool thing. But it seems that everywhere you look around in "gay culture" nobody wants it or they just brush it off and declare it would never work because all gay men are liars and cheats.
In the early mornings, when my boyfriend is sleeping next to me, I look at him with so much love and so much sadness. I love him very much but I know he's cheating on me - and he knows I'm cheating on him. Yeah, we have the rules about not kissing other guys on the mouth and not fucking him, but it's just "cheating with permission", or being "honest liars".
There are times I want to cry and say, "can we stop sleeping around and just sleep with each other....?" or "do you know how much I love you and want you all to myself....?". But I'm too scared to say those words in case we have a fight and break up. And we probably would.
I don't know why we can't talk about it. I wish we could. Why has "gay culture" painted me as an automatic liar and a cheat.....? And then I'm supposed to act like one, because it's expected of me.
It's as if the whole thing is set up to do away with any kind of monogamous stable relationship.......so why the hell do these gay guys want "marriage".....?? It makes no sense to me.
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A right wing politico in God’s Own Country owns a clinic with her husband. The clinic offers counselling services. Apparently, the politico’s husband claimed in an interview that gays needed “discipline”.
True to form, a gaggle of politically correct queers descended on the clinic demanding a spanking as part of their “discipline”. Since neither the politico nor her husband were there, they sprinkled glitter and left.
Yeah, it’s amusing. But if one thinks about it, the notion that gays need “discipline” is entirely correct. Let’s take a random walk down Faggot Lane and find out:
COMPLETED 1 SEPTEMBER 2014
4. Empowering The Twink for The Future: Should a Gay Man Even Care...?
Feedback from readers:
1. Hi FM
I am enjoying your story about the twink. from my experience, a good number of Asian twinks tend to confuse love and sex and that sex, even once (whether good or bad) is a sign of undying love and devotion and that leads to a very determined attachment. In other words, finding a bonking buddy who thinks that one bonk means ‘committed relationship forever' isn’t hard if you’re hot or even halfway hot, getting rid of them is. I could also make the same observation about (not so attractive) women who, in my past, latched on to me simply because they misinterpreted my politeness for romantic interest.
2. Hey FM
Nice work on showing empathy, guidance and encouragement to the twink; I hope this influences others to do the same!
3. Well I'll be damned......If I didn't have a similar convo with a twink a few months ago. Good on you, he chose door #4 per your list for a while and it worked, but then happily he found a nice guy that he is in what looks like has a good chance of being a solid relationship. I suggested to him that out of respect for his current partner we should not chat for some time to let them build up emotional bonds and ability to communicate; plus it spares me the drama of him working through the relationship sandbox on my shoulder ;)
1. Physical
- If you’re “not into guys over 30” or “not into guys over 35 or 40”, what are you going to say when you reach 30, 35 or 40? Apologize for yourself.....?
- Will you then turn into a predator for twinks and perpetuate yet another gay stereotype?
- When you're over 30, 35, 40 or 50, will you get sex as an act of charity or because you're still smouldering and you can have any guy you want?
- Is age something you dread or something you conquer and assimilate?
- If age brings wisdom, are you acting your age or just your shoe size....?
- Are you authentic for your age and comfort level......or are you just pretentious....?
3. Emotional Intelligence
- How much emotional intelligence do you have?
- Do you even know what it is...?
- Do you just replicate the emotional behaviour of other fags or do you question whether there is a better way that allows you to dump baggage rather than keep adding to it like other fags?
- Does your Emotional Intelligence define your persona..? A built body and a crippled, wounded psyche...?
- If Emotional Intelligence drives behaviour, what corrections do you need to make...?
4. How You Relate To Other Gay Men
- What are your standards of integrity when dealing with other fags?
- Do you have one standard of integrity online, another for when you're on the street, another for when you're in the bar, another for when you're in the sauna?
- How many standards of integrity can you keep juggling and for how long?
- Are you making a series of promises you know you’re never going to keep?
- Are you a serial liar across the board?
- How open are you to gay friendship? Seriously, just how open are you if your history has been one of casual, NSA encounters...?
- Why would anyone want to be a gay friend of yours?
- Can you give a genuine compliment and receive one?
- Do you have the courage to set standards in a Gay Friendship?
- If the friendship didn’t match those standards would you have the guts to end it elegantly? Or just hope the other guy just kinda fades away?
7. Legacy
- After a casual sexual encounter with another gay man, what impression do you leave with him?
- If a Significant Relationship ends today, how would you be remembered?
- Why would any gay man want to remember you?
- Are you more concerned with your reputation as a fag or with your real character?
- Can you inspire another gay man through your lifestyle, words, actions, thoughts and writing?
- Can you honestly be a Living, Breathing, Work-In-Progress, Trailblazer....? or just another fuckin' gay statistic....?
- Do you have the guts to leave the Faggot Tribe because you formulated a better way that works just for you....?
- Can you handle the venom that outraged fags will spit at you once they've realized that Mentally, Emotionally - and probably Physically - you left "the community"...?
- Do you have the courage to live as a Truly Unique Gay Man on your terms?
- What's your legacy to the world....?
Sent in by a reader yesterday:
Wow! I liked -REALLY liked- the Gay Man's Code of
Honour. They are perfect questions to ask of a potential partner. They
are also a needed method of taking inventory of ourselves, not with the
intent of trying to find the right answers, but to seriously
look into ourselves and see what demons dwell within............
FuelMix says:
Yeah......there are no right answers.....is it to see "what demons dwell within...?" That's probably putting it a bit strong. There are a ton of reasons why we published it. If we were asked to summarize it in one sentence we'd say this: Since Faggotry doesn't like a gay man to feel, think and act for himself, we thought we'd encourage him to do so.
Thanks for the feedback.
Originally published 6 February 2014
Republished 1 September 2014
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A reader wrote in asking FuelMix what he meant by a fag Code Of Honour, mentioned in an earlier post entitled, Memo To Fags 10.
Wha...???!!
A Code of Honour articulates certain values and principles that clearly define behaviour. Like a Mission Statement in the corporate world, a personal Code of Honour forms the basis of how a person acts in certain situations. Formulating a Code of Honour is essentially an exercise in Self-Controntation. Getting there is neither pleasant, quick nor easy. In fact, it's fuckin' painful.
Considering that most fags only confront themselves in the mirror for cosmetic improvements, the idea of improving themselves at fundamental levels may be more than they can handle without several stiff drinks.
To get to a Code of Honour, you'll have to ask yourself some questions. Here are the questions that FuelMix used in formulating his own Code Of Honour. Like we said, it ain't pleasant and it ain't easy.
1. Physical
