Out On The Dance Floor

 A reader sent this asking for feedback (Underlining and bold print by FuelMix):

Hey FuelMix 

I'm just writing to vent a little bit and I hope you support me by perhaps adding your views and sharing this.

My gay friend thought it would be nice to visit some of the 'mainstream' clubs and bars after weeks of non-stop work at the office. So he brings his date with him to Club B------ in the Lan Kwai Fong clubs & bars district in Central for the drinks and music; they pay their HKD $400.00 as cover charge and get in. After a night of dancing and drinking, things get a little hot and my friend decides to give his date a kiss on the dance floor (pretty standard). [Scenes from Katy Perry's MV: "Firework" come to mind] Moments later, two bouncers come sauntering over requesting that they leave the premises immediately on the basis that "this is not a gay bar". 

This is ridiculous! In this day and age, in Asia's WORLD City; where the city thrives on diversity and global networking, it is absolutely appalling that this happened. What's even more upsetting is the attitude of most of the people I've told: "Well, it's expected!"; "What did you expect? You shouldn't be kissing in a straight [club]"; "Even if you sue them, they're just [going to] get away with it. It's Hong Kong after all".

My friend doesn't seem to want to "cause any trouble", but I'm all for suing them for every dime left in their sorry, gaycist pockets. If there's any way we can get this known and do something about it...I'm all ears!


FuelMix says:

1.   You’re wrong.  The bouncers were correct in throwing your gay friends out of the club for kissing on the dance floor.  Bouncers get paid for spotting trouble before it happens.  If your gay friends were left alone for too long to kiss on the dance floor of a str8 club, when the bouncers finally did arrive, the first question the 2 gay guys would have asked would be, "We've been kissing like this for the last 30 minutes, why are you only showing up now to throw us out?"

2.   An overpriced str8 club is a breeder’s pit.  It’s neither a gay bar nor a gay club.  The clientele to whom they market and attract is entirely different to that of a gay club.  Provided they are not acting illegally, the str8 club is fully entitled to impose a standard of behavior on its customers.  If they deliberately barred gay men from entering the club, that would have been "gaycist".

3.   Gay men go to str8 clubs all the time.  Str8 breeders have also been seen in fag clubs.  But when str8 couples start swapping spit on the dance floor in a fag club, FuelMix has witnessed them being thrown out.  And rightly so.  FuelMix has also seen str8s being thrown out of a fag bar for making out and pissing off the fags.

4.   Being there isn’t the problem.  It’s crossing the line as to what is acceptable behavior in that context.  Ask your gay friends who were in the club that night, how many bisexual guys did they see kissing pussy and cock simultaneously on the dance floor?   None.  Why....?  There would have been Bi guys there no doubt, but they kept the Bi bit of themselves under wraps for the time they were there.  If they didn't score pussy, those Bi guys would have fled to the nearest gay bar/club and gotten down n' dirty over a Vodka Lime in no time.

5.   Your 2 gay friends did the wrong thing, at the wrong time at the wrong place.

P.S. FuelMix is prepared to acknowledge an inherent hypocrisy:  If it had been 2 pussies kissing on the dance floor in the str8 club, a crowd would have gathered around and cheered them on. The 2 womens' actual sexual orientation would have been irrelevant to the "show".

Originally published 14 March 2011
Amended and Republished 9 June 2016

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