Avoidance And Aversion

It was a sunny spring afternoon and FuelMix was in the vicinity of Fagland. Having some time to kill between appointments, he thought he'd wander in, sit back, watch and listen.

Waves of conversation washed up at his feet. More often than not, they were about avoiding people, or giving them the cold shoulder, switching cell fone numbers to get rid of them, blocking e-mails, not bothering to respond to those who had replied to their ads, avoiding them in the bars and in the streets, switching hair stylists so they wouldn't run into certain people, not telling them anything after a couple of dates but just kinda disappearing.

Then it all clicked into place. Here were these fags, packed into an area the size of a jockstrap, theoretically drawn by "the lifestyle" to live in their "community", navigating with great care to avoid each other.

No wonder their lives were fragmented and disconnected. No wonder their communications skills were zero. No wonder they couldn't handle confrontation or conflict resolution. No wonder they had poor interpersonal stress management. No wonder they could not properly articulate their needs or concerns without being highly strung or passive-aggressive.

But they were masters at the art of shunning and deception.

Quietly they hoped to find Mr. Right. Guess it never occurred to them that the skills they're avoiding, are precisely what's needed in a relationship, or to take an acquaintance to the next level.

Dream on, fags.

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