Where's My Community? 1

1.  Who's Responsible..?
2.  Ageing And Dying Un-gracefully
3.  Online Behaviour Seeps Into Real Life

"This pioneering research confirms what we already knew intuitively, that there are hundreds of thousands of lesbian and gay people growing older without the same family and support structures that many straight people enjoy.  Quite often, that's because their own families have disowned them just because of the way they were born."

-----Ben Summerskill, Chief Executive of Stonewall, quoted in the Guardian 11 September 2011, Gay people 'at risk of a lonelier old age'  

1.  It's a sad truism of gay life......once the glow sticks are finally extinguished, that last LP of Sylvester's "You Make Me Feel Mighty Real" is given away and the realization sinks in that the fag ain't never gonna fit into a size 28 waist again and ain't ever gonna be able to lie about his age online (even if he dyes his hair)......what's left for many is an aching loneliness, a creeping panic and the confronting of chronic health problems (courtesy of "the lifestyle" of course).  They might have some cash, but how long will it last?

2.  While the report quote above is limited to The Nanny Kingdom, it's implications are profound.  All this blather and shit that Gay Media spouts about "our community".....what has actually been done since the 1970s for those fags who were actually of the Stonewall generation and have been ageing over the last 38 years?

3.  Fuck all. 

1.   Who's Responsible....?

1.  First, thank Gay Media for this one fags. Sex and partying sells and ad revenue demands the latest air brushed pretty boy with the intellectual capacity of a wind tunnel.  Reality Creep takes a backseat.

2.  Second, thank the flaky unwritten codes of behaviour in Fagland itself.  Older gay guys are OK...sorta... (the fortunate ones avoid being called "trolls"), they drink a lot, the ones with the removable dentures give the best blow jobs.....and some can be quite generous with cash, Cartier or cocaine.......you get the picture.  The older fag is a source of pity or plunder.

3.  Third, thank the laws of the countries themselves which only changed because they had to, not because they wanted to.  Gay men were fun to identify as a source of Pink Dollars to masturbate a flaccid economy, but confronting the specialist social issues presented by Faggotry like workplace equality, pension entitlement to same sex partners, civil unions, adoption rights, insurance discrimination, harassment, the special needs of a single ageing fag.......? Nah.......those issues were all against fuck-in-the-Missionary "Family Values".  They're only - slowly - changing.4. 

4.  HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA......!!! And all the while Fagland screams that they're Family !!


2.   Ageing And Dying Ungracefully

1.  In the meantime, the fag continued to age.  Nobody cared so long as the Faggotry demographic could still fuck, snort, pose and drink.  It was guaranteed to be profitable and it would bring in the political votes. It was and it did.

2.  Faggotry crowed long and hard about "family" and "community".  It was fun to watch when AIDS was around, but everyone knew the dirty little secret........Death from AIDS could NEVER be allowed to affect behaviour or profitability.  Yeah they closed the bath houses, did the usual preaching about Safe Sex, but did Fags look into the future...? They can't even see past their own cocks.  Drug use skyrocketed AFTER AIDS.  What does THAT tell you...?


3.   Online Behaviour Seeps Into Real Life

1.  The behaviour of fags online is a pretty good indicator of how they're gonna behave in real life.  They're all looking for a hookup - with the added bonus of an amphetamine or a hit of poppers.   Relationship building is a lost art, articulating wants and needs is out of the question. Just say if you're a Top or Bottom, what you're into and if you can host. No endless e-mails.

2.  When that mentality is multiplied a million times over, the entire "community" abandons long range planning in favour of....... planning the After Party.

3.  Strategic direction, the inevitability of ageing, the nurturing of relationships, or the building of infrastructure just don't compute.  You need a doctor? Find a gay one.  You need a painter? Find a gay one. You need a realtor? Find a gay one.  Just support "the community" dammit.

4.  The lack of Emotional Intelligence in urban Faggotry is stunning.  It's not a community.  It never has been.  It's a collection of desperately lonely, fractured psyches whose friendship were transient, whose relationships were ambiguous, whose partying was chronic and whose people skills are moronic.

5.  Small wonder they find themselves alone when their looks and their health are washed up.  When they were hot party boys, "the community" loved them.  When they're not, "the community" spat them out - and mainstream society is too busy falling apart to care about an old, lonely fag.

Coming Up in Part 2:  
The Growth of Gay Retirement Homes

Orignally published 15 September 2011.  
Amended and Republished 22 March 2012  |  21 March 2014

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