It's Good For You

"....there is a direct link between allowing same-sex couples to marry and better mental health outcomes for same-sex attracted people."

------Aussie Psychologists Back Marriage Equality, ILGA 4 May 2012

That has got to be one of the most suspicious and utterly bizarre statements on Faggotry that FuelMix has seen in a while. As pointed out before in Gay Pop Fade Out 2, gay activists in collusion with gay media - primarily in God's Own Country - are behind a multi-billion dollar global campaign to rehabilitate the image of gay men in a manner that smacks of social engineering and social control with an agenda.  What better way to influence thought than use psychologists?  Good move.

True to form, the study relied on research from God's Own Country and true to form, was couched in terms of "harm".

"The psychological evidence convincingly demonstrates that direct harm is done to same-sex attracted Australians by denying them the opportunity to marry, and there are no adverse societal effects from marriage equality".

------Dr. Fiona Barlow, University of Queensland quote in the above article 

"Harm" is a favourite word of politically correct gay activists in the English-speaking West, looking to set up nice places downtown where drug-fucked fags (and increasingly, the homeless) can drop in to inject themselves without sharing needles. They call it "harm reduction".

What's being presented in the context of Gay Marriage is "harm increase". In other words, if fags aren't allowed to marry, they'll sustain direct harm..........OK let's see......

Allow Adam and Steve to hire a wedding planner and send out invitations to 300 of their closest friends. Agonize about the choice of tuxedos, type of wedding cake, how many tiers, menu and seating plan for the reception, photographers, muscians, which shops to register at to rip off the guests, honeymoon destination, thank you notes............yeah......that'll contribute to better mental health........

The absurdity is in confusing the Form with the Substance. The act of marriage is a ritual and governed by convention. The paradigm of traditional marriage is flawed and shattered.  It is loaded with emotional and religious baggage and the religious bigots will fight forever to keep it as their turf.  Since it's broken to begin with, let them keep it.  FuelMix has said before that Civil Union is the way to go.

But the Substance i.e. better mental health for gays in a relationship - or contemplating one -  will not come by tearfully waving a Marriage License and strutting down the aisle to a Club Track pursuant to psychological advice. So where will it come from?  For starters:

• how about understanding Emotional Intelligence?
• what actually pushes your buttons?
• what drew you to this man in the first place?
• what do you hate about this man? 
• have you told him?
• could you even handle a relationship when Faggotry is all about casual encounters and anonymity?
• why are you insisting on marriage instead of Civil Union?
• what if you want marriage and he doesn't? Will you be "harmed" mentally?
• what are the parameters of the relationship?
• how will you deal with his drug use and yours? 
• how will you deal with his debt and yours?
• how would you define commitment in the context of the relationship?
• how will you deal with conflict resolution in the relationship?
• do you know the difference between compromise and resolution?
• how will you get out if the relationship doesn't work?
• how prepared are you emotionally to handle divorce, betrayal or untimely death?
• how will you handle emotional and physical abuse in the relationship? Would you have the guts to call the Police?
• how will you handle cultural and age differences?
• how will you handle his family and yours?
• have you defined what constitutes the absolute Red Line in the important aspects of the relationship that must never be crossed?

Bottom line: the fascinated reader considering a relationship can either act like a fag,  take the advice of psychologists (yeah......the same crowd who in the past labelled being gay as a mental illness.....) and run into Marriage - 'coz it's allegedly good for him -  or  assume independence as a thinking gay man and ask who really should be in charge of his mental health before, during and after a relationship. And then actually DEFINE the relationship and its parameters.

Of course, the shrieking gay activists and their army of experts won't like it one bit. An independently thinking gay man is like Kryptonite to them.  Now that's direct harm.


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