The New Male Menopause ?
FuelMix is coming across an increasing number of men, usually in their mid to late 50s, married (with varying degrees of sexual satisfaction), kids moved out or away at college, claiming to be, or having been,"solidly straight".
Nothing unusual about that - except that in their words, they all want to "try gay". Apparently ubiquitous online porn fired a curiosity that just won't go away. Years of eating and fucking fish, breeding on demand, putting up with mothers-in-law, mortages, measles, mutual funds and Thanksgiving, have left these men asking, "is that all there is?"
"Trying gay" seems to be the male baby boomer fad du jour. It's on par with finally leasing that Ferrari. FuelMix wonders whether this has something to do with the large numbers of 50-something men hitting the gym in droves, "trying" to look good.
But there may be another explanation. These baby boomers were also the original hippies of the 60s where sexual exploration was a rite of passage. Could it be that things are coming full circle? Once a hippie, always a hippie? In other words, the underlying streak of non-conformism was always there - just squelched by the temporary demands of heterosexual normality?
If so, then is it really correct to label fags as "a sub-culture"? If the theory that being born fag is genetic, proves correct (see The Blood Of My Children 3, 27 June 2006), then the real sub-culture appears to be that which is now surfacing in male baby boomers with enquiring tastes. Call it the new "grey jock itch".
Originally published 24 August 2006
Republished 18 September 2011
FUEL INJECTED MALE 5 YEARS 2006 - 2011
Copyright 2011 FuelMix All Rights Reserved
Nothing unusual about that - except that in their words, they all want to "try gay". Apparently ubiquitous online porn fired a curiosity that just won't go away. Years of eating and fucking fish, breeding on demand, putting up with mothers-in-law, mortages, measles, mutual funds and Thanksgiving, have left these men asking, "is that all there is?"
"Trying gay" seems to be the male baby boomer fad du jour. It's on par with finally leasing that Ferrari. FuelMix wonders whether this has something to do with the large numbers of 50-something men hitting the gym in droves, "trying" to look good.
But there may be another explanation. These baby boomers were also the original hippies of the 60s where sexual exploration was a rite of passage. Could it be that things are coming full circle? Once a hippie, always a hippie? In other words, the underlying streak of non-conformism was always there - just squelched by the temporary demands of heterosexual normality?
If so, then is it really correct to label fags as "a sub-culture"? If the theory that being born fag is genetic, proves correct (see The Blood Of My Children 3, 27 June 2006), then the real sub-culture appears to be that which is now surfacing in male baby boomers with enquiring tastes. Call it the new "grey jock itch".
Originally published 24 August 2006
Republished 18 September 2011
FUEL INJECTED MALE 5 YEARS 2006 - 2011
Copyright 2011 FuelMix All Rights Reserved
Ha! love it! And so true as well. I'd noticed a number of str8 men with a wedding ring, going "gay and grey". Guess u can only eat so much fish in your life.
ReplyDeleteAs a gay geneticst here are my thoughts. First, being gay is going to be (largely?) genetic. It might be hard to distinguish the actual genetic causes (multiple small influences), but there will be def genetic contributions. I have yet to read your other post, so there may be some stuff in there. Secondly, on some level I agree, the devils advocate would argue that the real 'deviants' are those that are born gay and live a straight life or the straights who act gay. But on some level I would argue it is all a continum, sort of Kinsey like. There are gay gays (me) and straight gays (the ones in your column). So in the name of diversity, surely we should celebrate their newfound exploration into the world of fags? Regardless, it gets you thinking.
ReplyDelete(I speculate) is it possible that men growing older begin to miss the camaraderie they had as teens/college boys, perhaps? Pretty hard for an older guy to say to some married friends, "Hey, let's pal around more, have sleep-overs, go swim in the river and drag race on the strip."
ReplyDeleteNah! That's nuts!
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TMI: had a neighbor boyfriend when I was in my teens (same age). We probably fucked more between 14 & 19 than I have in the entire rest of my life. More times anyway. He got married, had two kids, divorced, married again, showed up in my town many years later. Tried to 'splain the attractions of pussy. ugh! Shut him down fast on that one. THEN, he wanted me to fuck him. Uh-huh. With who's dick....? Confused? Frustrated? DL? or just fucked up? But who is fucked up for ... 10, 15, 20 years? damn!
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The older Newly Gay just wanna get more cock. They had cock once (or twenty times) earlier in life, suppressed their innate instincts and 'went str8'. Now, divorced, widowed, or DL, they seek the magic youth giver: hard cock, the very symbol of youth.
Speaking of which... I'm going to head out now...
Very hip piece. I wuz kinda wondering myself...
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