Orbit In Love...?

It was the scientist, R. Buckminster Fuller who said that rather than "falling in love" (only to fall out of it and go hurtling into oblivion, emotional rebounds and abusive relationships), 2 people should "orbit in love".  In other words, create a dynamic cohesive tension held together by the force of gravity, love and honesty.  This would generate momentum, keeping the relationship alive and evolving.

For years, we had difficulty imagining what the concept of orbiting in love would look like.  Then this came along...



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Gay Voices In The Middle East

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Some people are motivated by fortune.  Others by a shot at fame. And then there are those generous individuals who are motivated by the greater good and helping others. That’s what fuels the fire inside Orlando Del Aguila, software engineer and Ford-Mozilla Fellow who is helping build an online community for the LGBTQ community in the Middle East, where expressing oneself as something other than heterosexual can come with high risk of personal danger and persecution.

As a mission-driven not-for-profit, Mozilla is committed to an internet that promotes civil discourse, human dignity and individual expression. But the whole internet is not yet welcoming and safe for all. Del Aguila is committed to making it safer for marginalized voices to connect and grow stronger. 

“I really believe that everyone should have the same rights, the same access the internet and the same access to information,” he said. “This is what that really moves me to work in the space, especially in the under-represented communities that don’t have any space, and don’t have a way to communicate. To provide that is really fulfilling.” 

Growing up in Venezuela, Del Aguila’s eyes were opened to a world of possibilities thanks to internet access, which allowed him to meet people, learn to code and pursue a career in computer science. After he left his home country six years ago, the economy faltered and the political leadership took a turn. Now living in Mexico, he’s gravely concerned about the situation in Venezuela, from food shortages to very low wages to press freedom.

“And in terms of freedom of speech, it’s on the floor now. In Venezuela you can get jailed by just posting a tweet, and this is something that has grown with me, the injustice that you cannot have freedom of speech,” he said. “People should be able to express themself and have the freedom to use the internet to communicate the way they want."    

When Del Aguila heard about the Ford-Mozilla Fellowship opportunity to work with Majal to modernize and improve its platform, Ahwaa, he saw a way to give back and stand up for more universal freedom of expression in a global setting. Middle Eastern LGBT people can feel isolated from being forced to live in secret to protect themselves. Using the power of the internet, Ahwaa offers an anonymous platform for people to share with each other safely, freely and authentically about sexuality, identity, relationships and family issues. 

“Protecting their identity is crucial,” he said. “We need to keep the data safe because there are agents in the government trying to identify and to persecute these people. And that’s what Ahwaa is for. We want to build a safe community for them to communicate.” 

Del Aguila hopes that eventually, communities like Awhaa don’t need to exist because people will have the right to be themselves without fear.  Until the laws of their countries protect these rights, people like him will be doing their best to pick up the slack. 

He adds: “The internet should be a place to share and not to hide.”

-----"Orlando del Aguila: The internet should be a place to share and not to hide", Mozilla Internet Citizen, April 25, 2018.


FuelMix says:

1.  Now that's courage. Del Aguila lives in violence-ridden Mexico.  From there, he's building a safe - and technologically secure - LGBT online platform for those in the Middle East, where a gay person can face imprisonment, blackmail, violence and death.

2.  Think about it. What Del Aguila is actually doing, is by traditional Middle East standards, subversive.  He's creating a technologically secure Middle East-wide LGBT diaspora where they can safely communicate.  In other words, he's creating an infrastructure that frustrates government agents looking to engage in surveillance and entrapment. 

3.  We looked at Ahwaa.org and were impressed. The communication is genuine.  These guys are looking out for each other.  Their conversations are respectful, encouraging and empathetic.  When you face death, just for being who you are, attitude, venom, bitchiness, snarkiness, time-wasters, pic collectors, age and racial prejudice - pardon....."preferences" - go out the window.

4.  And then there's Grindr and Hornet, apparently bubbling in the Middle East.  Don't ask us why.  We can't explain the contradictions.


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Without Further Comment 8

Suggested by a reader who'd been reading our Gay Porn Analysis series:

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What Is Race Play? 3

Now married to Superior Asian Male.  i drink His cum and He is now Man of the house.  i love Him and hunger for Him.  He gets anything He wants from me, the way life should be. 

-----"Asians Are Awesome", by shywhitesub.tumblr.com

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What Is Race Play? 2

You’ve been sucking his big White cock for hours and your jaw is numb. Your tiny asian dick has gone soft but still you continue sucking him and pleasuring him. 

That’s when it hits you. That small nagging feeling of shame. Your see yourself sucking his cock in the mirror and you can’t help but feel embarrassed. Embarrassed that you’re willing to debase yourself just to have opportunities to be with White Men. 

You tell yourself that you’re not like the other gaysians. You’re not a potato queen. You like guys of all races… but when you look at the stats, you find yourself saying “yes” to every White guy that messages you on Grindr while you say no to most POCs. [People of Colour]

You try to justify your feelings and rationalize your preferences. You exaggerate how much you’re attracted to non-White guys and you try to find White guys you don’t find attractive and exaggerate how much you don’t like them, but the truth is, the degree and quality of attraction you have to White Men is in a whole different league compared to your attraction to non-Whites.

You feel like a hypocrite for liking White Men almost exclusively. You try to downplay your attraction to them with your friends, because you’re afraid if they find out how much you love White Men, then it completely verifies their assumptions that you’re like any other typical gaysian. 

You spout all these ideals on social media about gay minorities and their marginalization, but you yourself subscribe to stereotypes about your race and submit to White Men.

But you push those feelings away when you suck his cock. You realize how much of a chink you truly are and no matter how hard you try to run away from it, you always come back to White Men. And after he’s done with your hole and used you like a whore, you stand there shell-shocked… ashamed at the things you did for him, disgusted at the names he called you and you called yourself, and loathing yourself and your asian-ness.

You tell yourself for the umpteenth time that you’re done with White Men. That you won’t be a chink no more. That is, until he messages you a week later, and you drop everything you’re doing and come crawling back to his…

BIG WHITE COCK.

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What Is Race Play? 1

What is race play..? Is it just a way for white guys to be racist..?

Answer No. 1

Race play is the truthful and authentic dedication of service a useless nigger submits to for the greater glory of a superior White man. Fall in line, niggers. #WhiteLivesMatter
 -----Gay Nigger Cunt.tumblr.com


Answer No. 2 

Rather than responding with fantasy, I’ll answer this accurately. Raceplay is a form of kink sub-culture that eroticises racism, deriving sexual pleasure from the power inherent to racism. Some people in the sub-culture are genuinely racist, others aren’t and have come to it via their pre-existing interest in kink and domination.

One thing I want to cover is the idea that raceplay is something white people use to subjugate and be racist to other ethnic groups. It’s not that complicated. Raceplay eroticises racial domination of any kind- there are plenty of raceplay sites focussing on white men’s submission to Asians, Black men, Latinos, Muslims etc. Also, raceplay only works when both sides accept to and play with the fantasy.

Yes, raceplay has the potential to cause damage to people by inculcating racist ideas and making them think it’s “true”. But this is inherent to any form of powerplay within the sexual zone (fem-dom can lead to unhealthy understandings of femininity, Dom-Sub play can ruin people’s self-esteem). This is a risk that needs to be mitigated as best as possible, but one also needs to balance this with breaking the fantasy.

So when I do raceplay in real life I will always discuss it with a potential partner to make sure they are comfortable first.
-----fuck those asian slut boys.tumblr.com

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Hong Kong Men: Distracted And Sexless 3

COMPLETED 24 JUNE 2018.

3.  The Behaviour Of Gay Men In Hong Kong


3.  The Behaviour Of Gay Men In Hong Kong

From Zero To....

1.  Let's start here:  Hong Kong's gay scene went from one of the world's most suppressed and actively prosecuted in the 1970s and 1980s, to (since 1991), one of the most liberal in Asia.

https://hk-bb-top.tumblr.com/post/175026097844/hkminegdie-正片香港

 
 

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But.....

2.  Remember, as at June 2018, Hong Kong still does NOT have:

• the legislative amendment making the minimum age of consensual gay sex at 16 (i.e. equal to heteros), even though the Courts have made it clear, they will NOT convict any gay person who is 16 or over who has gay sex with another person 16 or over.  On the statute books, the minimum age of gay sex in Hong Kong is still 21 and for heteros it's 16.  But the Courts simply ignored the discrepancy, told the government it was utterly unfair and told them to change it.  The effect...? In reality, the minimum age of gay sex in Hong Kong is now 16.
• gay marriage;
• civil union or domestic partnership;
• same-sex benefits by law for married gay civil servants.  The earlier court case that allowed it for a Chinese civil servant and his white partner who were legally married in New Zealand, was overturned by the Court of Appeal who affirmed the strict definition of "marriage" as being between a man and a woman - and said this was a back door attempt to force gay marriage in Hong Kong.  This case will probably go to the Court of Final Appeal;
• same-sex benefits by law for gays in the private sector - although companies like HSBC already do it;
• laws against workplace discrimination and dismissal on the grounds of sexual orientation - even though the Equal Opportunities Commission publicly supports having them and has shown up at the Hong Kong Pride celebrations;
• dependent visas for same-sex couples married overseas;
• housing for gay seniors;

Why...?

3.  So, what's going on...?  Why is Hong Kong's gay scene flourishing in the absence of a comprehensive legislative framework..?

4.  The answer is, it initially didn't need one.  All it needed was decriminalization and things just took off.  Nobody thought about gay rights.  It was just hedonism that went from Zero to Quantum. Anything to get away from the Dark Days of Criminality.


Glory Days And Glory Holes

5.  Within weeks in 1991, the first crop of gay saunas opened and were packed out (sadly, none of them exist now, but that's not the point);

• Gameboys - Wanchai;
• BA Fitness - Wanchai;
• Central Sauna - Hollywood Road;
• Male - Paterson Street, Causeway Bay;
• Bobson - Hankow Road, Tsim Sha Tsui;
• Rome Club - Ashley Road, Tsim Sha Tsui;
• Yeuk Tak Chee - Prince Edward, that had been a licensed male bath house for years and was rumoured to be very gay, started getting the younger crowd.

6.  Gay retail opened up in the side streets of Admiralty and Wanchai, gay escorts started advertising in HKMag, gay bars like Waltzing Matilda became more visible in Tsim Sha Tsui and Propaganda on Wyndham Street was the anchor of gay clubs.  Cruising became more overt particularly in Tsim Sha Tsui, Central and Wanchai.  And the really gay gyms like California Fitness took off.  AIDS did very little to stop the hedonistic momentum, although drug and disease rates climbed.


Now...

7.  Now in Hong Kong there's a plethora of gay saunas, a few bars and karaoke joints, rampant gay escort advertising (from Mainland Chinese), gay publications, gay TV, gay radio stations, offline and online gay retail, Pride, Gay Film Festivals, gay pop stars, gay pageants, gay sports clubs, gyms with an overt gay clientele - and gay porn all over the Web.


But Gay In Hong Kong Is A Sex-Based Culture, Right....?

8.  Oh yeah....In addition to all the above, check out the blatant gay Public Displays of Affection going on downtown - particularly in Tsim Sha Tsui and Causeway Bay, SoHo (Central not so much coz it's the business district).  Take a walk in the parks like Kowloon Park and Hong Kong Park and be amazed.  Keep your eyes open in the MTR station and trains and watch the local boys holding hands and kissing. (Forget the fuckn' whites.  They've been doing that here for a while just to be "provocative")  For the local GAMs, such PDA are expressions of freedom and their right to be respected. So long as they're not causing a public nuisance or engaging in public sexual acts or nudity, the Police aren't going to interfere.....

9.  Been to the some of the public toilets lately where gay men cluster...?  Our GAM-Throats-On-The-Street inform us that more and more public toilets around town are becoming "popular".  Gone are the days when it was just 2 in a cubicle.  We've counted, in wide-eyed amazement, 3 and 4 men stepping out of one cubicle and 25 people cruising in one toilet at the same time.  It was just bonkers.


Our Conclusion

10.  Our conclusion is that whilst str8 men in Hong Kong may have become sexless herbivores, gay men in Hong Kong are going to the other extreme and have totally embraced the overt, body-conscious sexuality of gay culture - and all the accoutrements that go with it: the jockstraps, the T-backs, the underwear, the swimming trunks, the cock rings, the butt plugs, the tank tops, the gay brand names, the partying, the drinking, the drugs, the porn, Grindr, the saunas, the cruising, the beach parties, the boat parties........


And Then.....There's This:

If you guys ever have the time , please visit Hong Kong's Kowloon Park Swimming Complex 九龍公園游泳池 Hong Kong, at least once in your lifetime -- To experience the best, public cruising place in Asia -- just for the sake of telling people that you've been there, done that and it's enough!

-----"Cruising in Kowloon Park Swimming Complex 九龍公園游泳池 Hong Kong", 1 July 2017, Welcome To The World Of Simon Lover

(Pictures and videos included.  Just don't say we didn't warn you.....)


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Hong Kong Men: Distracted And Sexless 2

2.  What FuelMix Thinks
3.  Behaviour of Gay Men In Hong Kong


2.  What FuelMix Thinks

(1) Mainland Chinese in Hong Kong

1.  The problem in Very Rich Megacity is not the heat, the urban density  It's the massive wealth inequality, most notable in the sky high property prices. We won't get into what we consider was a strategic mistake by the Hong Kong Government in allowing Mainland Chinese to buy property here in the first place.  It's effect was to distort other parts of the economy and strain the urban infrastructure.

2. Not only was the distortion in Hong Kong economic and financial (it created a stock market ramp-up, aided by monetary cluelessness by the US Fed), it was also psychological.  Hong Kong people were open-mouthed as to where and how these Mainland Chinese made their money. China is at the forefront of digitizing its economy, to the point where large chunks of consumer transactions (even buying vegetables from the market stall) are done electronically on mobile phones.  Cashless is the way to go in China.  Yet paradoxically, here in Hong Kong, these same Mainland Chinese are showing up with massive wads of cash in shiny silver Rimova (only high-end stuff for them) suitcases.

3.  It's not surprising that Hong Kong Cantonese are resentful  of just how much the city has been overrun by Mainland Chinese and their (un-endearing) entitlement mentality. Accusations of "cockroach" and "locust" infestation are mingled with insinuations of "grey money" or "black money", both dismissive references to corruption or financial gain by dubious means.

4.  For years, Hong Kong Cantonese have been ground into the dirt financially.  Sure, they may be educated professionals with a 7-figure salary, speak 3 languages and drive a BMW.  But they may also be low-level office, retail or service types, living in public housing (or being on a waiting list for one) and commuting 90 minutes to work each way.  Neither can compete with or comprehend the near hyper-exponential speed of wealth accumulation of the Mainland Chinese.


(2)  Hong Kong Women And The "6Cs"

5.  Even before the Mainland chinks appeared, Hong Kong women were notorious for demanding "The Six Cs" in men:

1. Cash
2. Credit Card
3. Cartier
4. Condo
5. Car
6. Cock

6.  Our Mainland "brothers" and "sisters" (the semi- official Hong Kong Government term for those from across the border) just made it a lot worse.  We wouldn't be surprised if a chunk of Hong Kong men figured they'd lost even before they started.  That doesn't do wonders for your self-esteem or your "manliness".  Depression lowers Testosterone, you know.

7.  The "why bother?." mentality of some heterosexual Hong Kong men, faced with apparently insurmountable financial and sexual odds, would probably drive them into becoming the grass-eating "herbivores" mentioned in Part 1.  Far better to stay at home with the parents.  Besides, Cantonese families usually have more than one child. Let one of the siblings do the breeding.


(3)  Hong Kong's Work Ethic Encourages Distraction

8.  In a word, "notorious".  Whilst it hasn't reached the "Work Till You Drop Dead At The Office" levels seen in Japan,  Hong Kong's long working hours are both a bane and a benefit.  People get stressed out and very tired.  If they're horny, they'll go to online porn.  It's quick, usually free and there's no emotional commitment.

9.  Alternatively they'll be on Tetris, Candy Crush, Facebook, WeChat, What'sApp, slouched on their seats while commuting on the MTR - oblivious to the Dating Apps being advertised in the train.


(4)  There's Another Way Of Looking At It

10.  The rise of entrepreneurship in Hong Kong is gratifying.  The ecology is taking shape, aided by cameo appearances by people like Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba, encouraging young people to become entrepreneurs.

11.  More and more college age types are standing up to their parents wishes and refusing to become doctors, architects, lawyers, accountants - the usual catalogue of "respectable" professions.  Instead, they're becoming risk-takers and self-employed.  Of necessity, that will delay breeding and/or dating as they strive to become financially independent.

COMING UP IN PART 3:
3.  Behaviour Of Gay Men In Hong Kong


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Hong Kong Men: Distracted And Sexless 1

1.  What The Hong Kong Press Reported
2.  What FuelMix Thinks
3.  Behaviour Of Gay Men In Hong Kong 

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1.  What The Hong Kong Press Reported

 In a city already known for its low sex drive, there is a new generation of men who are uninterested in romance and relationships.  Whether technology is distracting them, or its the result of work or life pressure, women are feeling left out.

Most women would agree on the quintessential qualities they seek in a male partner (besides looks): that he should be kind, gentle and considerate. This is especially so for long-term relationships. The good news is Hong Kong has plenty of men around (who might possess some or all of these qualities), but the bad news is that an increasing number of them are uninterested in dating or getting married, and some have gone as far as to ditch romantic relationships for good.

Leading the charge is an infamous cohort of homebound men known as “otaku”. A Japanese term for men who are socially awkward and have limited family and romantic lives, these “geeks” tend to be diehard anime and manga fans who have little interest in dating. 

Then there are the “soshoku danshi”, which translates as “grass-eating men” or “herbivore men”. The term, coined by Japanese columnist Maki Fukasawa, describes a monk-like approach to life and relationships, in other words, no sex. 

There might be exceptions, but these men would rather invest themselves in online gaming and other solo activities than seek female company in their free time.

Studies in Japan estimate that this class of men, normally in their 20s and 30s, account for around 60 per cent to 70 per cent of the male population. Obviously, their reluctance to procreate is a major cause for concern. Japan has had one of lowest birth rates in the world for nearly a decade now.

Now Hong Kong appears to be following in Japan’s footsteps.  

According to Dr Paul Wong Wai-ching, associate professor of the Department of Social Work and Social Administration at the University of Hong Kong, the city has seen a rise in the number of “grass-eating men”.

“These herbivore men don’t connect with others, they don’t establish their own families or have children and don’t really contribute anything meaningful to society, either tangibly or intangibly,” says Wong. “They are like parasites who often live with their parents. So you can imagine how it’s going to affect society in the long run, socially and economically.”

Like Japan, our society is rapidly ageing, he adds. “These ‘grass-eating men’ are not capable of taking care of their ageing parents and neither are they capable of taking care of themselves when they become old, they are childless so they will have no family support,” he says. 

Another type of man you won’t be finding on any dating apps are the “modern-day hermits”. They seek extreme disconnection and isolation from the rest of society, they become practically invisible. This phenomenon is triggered by an overburdened sense of responsibility, and when the pressure becomes too unbearable it causes the person to pull away and unplug from society in a kind of self-imposed exile.

After a long-term detachment from society, their social skills diminish and this affects their ability to find employment. This has a domino effect of creating youths who are financially dependent on family and friends, jobless and lacking in drive. Not only does this mean these hermits never leave the nest or mature, but they are far less likely to have long-term relationships, romantic or friendship-based.

It seems counter intuitive that in a world as busy and interconnected as ours is, we are now lonelier than ever. 

We might not be as bad as Japan, with nearly half a million of these social recluses, according to a 2012 study, but there are still an estimated 20,000 to 40,000 hidden away in Hong Kong, according to Wong. 

Whatever the difference in numbers between here and Japan, this disconnection is threatening the social fabric that binds our community and we need to do something about it. 

While we can agree that dating can be terrifying, unforgiving and unpredictable, it is a rite of passage that many of us undertake as we grow up. 

At heart, humans are gregarious creatures, so whether it’s meeting someone at a party, bar or anywhere else, forming human connections is an integral part of our being. Relationships and friendships are highly important for humans.........

We can blame the prevalence of smartphones, laptops, computers, tablets and other electronic devices. We can even blame it on e-sports, a new pseudo sport that is sweeping the city with government backing. It can also be interpreted as another excuse for people to submerge themselves in the digital world rather than experience the real word.

“Those who advocate e-sports are sugar coating it as a genuine sport that encourages team interaction. It’s nonsense because it is just a limited form of interaction between a few members of a small team,” Wong says.

It’s a mistake to provide an escape hatch for people who want to avoid human interaction. If we continue to condone this kind of antisocial behaviour, we have to bear the risks and social consequences that come with it. 

This is a far more serious social issue than just a blip in the dating game.

-----"How herbivores, hermits and stay-at-home men are leaving are leaving a generation of Hong Kong women unsatisfied". South China Morning Post, 27 May 2018

 

COMING UP IN PART 2:

2.  What FuelMix Thinks
3.  Behaviour of Gay Men In Hong Kong

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Shitty By The Bay 3

COMPLETED 20 JUNE 2018

1.  FuelMix And San Francisco 15 Years Ago
2.  How The Whites Reacted
3.  FuelMix Refused To Go Back To San Francisco
4.  What Pilots Say About San Francisco 
5.  Zero Hedge And Reddit On San Francisco 2018
6.  FuelMix Says


Readers may be asking, "Why is FuelMix bashing San Francisco...?"


1.  FuelMix And San Francisco 15 Years Ago

1.  Over 15 years ago, we saw it coming......the Perfect Storm of massive wealth inequality, unaffordable housing, homelessness, rigid Political Correctness that stifled free and accurate speech or decisive action - and more importantly stifled law enforcement - chronic budget deficits, high taxes, an entrenched Left Wing (actually what we termed, "Liberal-Fascist") city government, a detoriorating downtown core where the rot would ripple outwards, vandalism, drug use, crime, startling unsanitation and climbing disease rates.


2.  How The Whites Reacted

1.  Over 15 years ago, we raised our observations with (allegedly educated and professional) West Coast whites that something was brewing in San Francisco which would badly tarnish the city's reputation within the US and internationally and what did we get...?  

"OMG FuelMix..!! you're so fuckin' homophobic, racist and anti-white...!!...There's nothing wrong with being a Liberal and pursuing policies of tolerance, harm reduction and a compassionate society.  Diversity and tolerance are part of our heritage and lifestyle......Get with it man...!! Stop being so fuckin' dictatorial and demanding social and financial discipline. If you don't like the place, you should leave...!"

 3.  FuelMix Refused To Go Back To San Francisco

1.  We refused to visit San Francisco after that.  Other than a major construction boom (courtesy of the massive wealth inequality to which we alluded above), we haven't missed much - aside from the now painfully obvious shit and drug infested 4th World Ghetto that large chunks of the city have turned into.

2.  The briefly-famous San Francisco Shit Map (which won a hackathon and, according to its creator, was intended to draw attention to homelessness) has allegedly not been updated since 2015.  It was used as political ammunition by Right Wing conservatives to highlight the falling urban standards.

3.  However, it appears that a new SF Shit Map is required in the light of more recent comments below.


4.  What Pilots Say About San Francisco  

1.  Here's what Cathay Pacific pilots who fly HKG - SFO plus Hong Kong Airlines pilots who started the HKG - SFO route in March 2018, told us over the last few weeks:

• "Looks like a preview of a Mad Max film..."
• "I'm 6 foot 2 and built - and I don't feel safe..."
• "The good news is that the shit won't be hitting the fan....most of it is on the sidewalks.."
• "The drug needles and syringes on the streets are overwhelming..."
• "Gotta keep looking behind me when I walk around downtown..."
• "My girlfriend refused to go out alone..." 
• "We stay in the hotel in the evenings....less hassle.."
• "Fuck....that stink of shit and piss.....it's everywhere.....these guys are pissing on the outside walls and plate glass windows of street-level restaurants and nobody says or does a thing..." 
• "Just fuckin' creepy...it's absolutely surreal..."

5.  Zero Hedge And Reddit On San Francisco 2018

1.  Here's the latest article by Zero Hedge:

San Francisco - a Democratic stronghold known for cable cars, quaint architecture and its diverse culture, has become a bastion of squalor and crime as city dwellers and visitors alike dodge aggressive, drug-addled vagrants. And it's beginning to scare the tourists...

-----"Terrified" San Francisco Tourists Shocked by Aggressive Vagrants, Discarded Needles, Dead Bodies, ZeroHedge 17 June 2018

2.  Here's another quote from the above article:

"You see things on the streets that are just not humane," Kevin Carroll, executive director of the Hotel Council of San Francisco told The Chronicle'....... in April. "People come into hotels saying, 'What is going on out there?' They're just shocked. ... People say, 'I love your city, I love your restaurants, but I'll never come back.'"

 3.  The article then went on to quote some users on Reddit:

It's pretty normal. I'm honestly hoping tourists will realize how shitty this city has become and stop coming. Maybe the loss of income will finally push the city to stop allowing the rampant drug dealing and homeless people treating the entire city like their toilet. You would think a city that depends so heavily on tourism and conventions for the bulk of their income would put more effort into maintaining a certain standard, but there is rampant drug dealing out in the open in some of the most heavily tourist areas. The city know about it, they just don't care. 

4.  Then it quoted a separate Reddit thread:

"Why is this city so terrifying (Canadian here)
I've wanted to visit SF my entire life and I finally make it here and my goddddd it's terrifying.  Anyone have any advice for a tourist aside from 'don't be such a pussy'

5.  Here's some more from the same article:

"The streets are filthy. There's trash everywhere. It's disgusting," [said]Joe D'Alessandro, president of S.F. Travel in April. "I've never seen any other city like this — the homelessness, dirty streets, drug use on the streets, smash-and-grabs."

The city, which hands out up to 4.8 million syringes each year, has struggled to figure out how to keep streets clean and safe for residents, while accommodating a growing homeless population and longstanding HIV and Hepatitis C epidemics. There are roughly 16,000 residents in San Francisco with HIV, and 13,000 with Hep C.

6.  It was estimated by the City Health Director that in 2016, San Francisco had 22,000 intravenous drug users and that the city hands out 400,000 needles every month. Multiply that by 12 and that's where the figure of 4.8 million syringes quoted above, comes from.

7.  In other words, as the San Francisco Gate reported on 13 June 2018, most of the needles littering the streets..........came from the Department of Public Health's Needle Exchange Program. Whilst it's called an Exchange program, there are no real rules for their return (apparently there are 13 syringe access and disposal sites).

8.  Just let all those stats sink in for a minute.....Then watch this video (approx 6 minutes):



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6.  FuelMix Says

1.  Yes fags, this post really is about FuelMix saying, "I told you so".  We're not gloating at the abject human misery, the rising anger of the people who live there or the shock sustained by tourists.

2.  We're gloating because all those years ago, we walked around with our eyes wide open and had the courage to call it like we saw it -  past the shrieks of denial and accusations of homophobia and racism.  We lost acquaintances because of what we saw and predicted.

3.  Did we see San Francisco's future then...?  Probably.  But anyone else could have seen it, had they opened their eyes and their minds and shut down the babble of Political Correctness.

See also:
Shitty By The Bay 1
Shitty By The Bay 2

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Bermuda Reverses Gay Marriage

1.  .....and instead, will allow any Bermudian to enter into Domestic Partnership, which the government says will offer equal rights.

2.  It became the first country in the world to reverse a law allowing same-sex marriage.

3.  This is very interesting.

4.  In 2017, the Supreme Court of Bermuda authorized same-sex marriage.  It was a highly controversial decision in the wealthy, but socially conservative island, (whose status is that of a British Overseas Territory) with a population of about 60,000 and in which the christian church wields considerable political influence. It is estimated that 2 out of 3 people in Bermuda are active christians.  Thousands protested outside the Bermudian Parliament after the Supreme Court's decision.

5.  We wondered at that time, how long the Supreme Court's decision would last.  We knew from our professional dealings that Bermudians are no pushovers - and neither are they politically correct.

6.  According to Reuters, in the 9 months since it became legal, about a dozen same-sex marriages took place in Bermuda and on cruise ships registered in the territory.

7.  And then....in February 2018, the Governor of Bermuda reversed the Supreme Court ruling and gave his assent to the Domestic Partnership Act.  We'll quote Mr Walton Brown, Bermuda's Minister of Home Affairs whose ruling PLP Party proposed the Act:

"The British Government recognizes that this is a local government decision [Bermuda Government]. [The Act struck a compromise by] "restating that marriage must be between a male and a female, while at the same time recognizing and protecting the rights of same sex couples." 

-----"Bermuda governor approves bill reversing same-sex marriage rights", Reuters, February 8, 2018

8.  Needless to say, politically correct, conventional faggotry is screeching in disbelief, shock and horror. 

9.  They shouldn't be.  We've said several times in this blog that whilst we support same-sex (preferably monogamous) relationships, entering into "Marriage" is not the answer because it is so tainted with moral and religious overtones.  Entering into "Marriage" means that same sex couples will always be in a state of civil war with the Morality Militia.

10. We've said several times that Civil Union (or Domestic Partnerships) is the way to go.  In other words, a separate but equal system of comprehensive rights over which the Morality Militia has no jurisdiction.

11. Back in 2012 we said this in our post, That 'M' Word:

And ya know that for the longest time, FuelMix has been saying that Civil Union not marriage is the way to go.....? Because separate but equal is the only way to avoid the trap of the religious Morality Militia?

Heh Heh Heh.......well fags, the highly acclaimed British (gay) actor, Sir Derek Jacobi (probably best known for his title role in the BBC TV drama series, I, Claudius) agrees.  To wit:

"He agreed with interviewer Nigel Farndale’s suggestion that because civil partnerships and marriages afford almost identical legal rights, he might view the debate as a “fuss about nothing”.

He replied: “Exactly, it’s just this word. [marriage] The Church is the problem.”" (emphasis added)

--------Sir Derek Jacobi: Equal marriage debate a "squabble over nothing", Pink News 3 July 2012

It seems the Government of Bermuda also agrees with FuelMix.  We applaud their pragmatic decision.

We should point out that some lawyers in Bermuda are thinking of bringing a constitutional challenge to the new law. We'll see how this plays out.


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No Cake For You..!!

1.  Facts
2.  Faggotry Got It Wrong (As Usual)
3.  Every Business Discriminates
4.  Gay Business Discriminate Against Gay Customers
5.  Real Issue:  Freedom Of Association
6.  Faggotry Just Makes Things Worse


1.  Facts

1.  A heterosexual baker in God's Own Country was the the subject of lengthy proceedings when, citing his religious beliefs, he refused to bake a cake for a gay couple.

2.  The gay couple whined.

3.  Up and down the legal system it went, before ending up at the Supreme Court in Washington DC who recently gave a final ruling that the baker was entitled to refuse to bake a cake and that his personal beliefs had to be respected.


2.  Faggotry Got It Wrong (As Usual)

1.  Faggotry screeched it was a backward step, disrespected gay marriage and was discriminatory.

2.  FuelMix says Faggotry is wrong.


3.  Every Business Discriminates

1.  It's not about Faggotry's assertions of bigotry.  It was about the ability of a business owner to conduct their business as they see fit.  

2.  Despite the laws, guidelines and Politically Correct Sensitivity Training about non-discrimination, guess what...?  All businesses whether walk-in retail or professional service ones like lawyers, accountants, advertising agencies discriminate every day.  Every business has an official or unofficial ranking of:

• its favourite clients;
• its VIP clients;
• its long-standing clients especially those who supported it from Day 1;
• clients referred by existing clients;
• argumentative clients or clients with "issues";
• clients who don't pay on time, or don't pay at all;
• clients they wish would simply go away;
• clients they don't want or need;

3.  The gay couple fell into the last category.

4.  Even prestigious universities, who pride themselves on high-achiever levels of admission and snob value, will happily let really dim-witted Johnny into their ranks and virtually guarantee his graduation, if Johnny's wealthy and socially connected parents offer them a handsome bribe  make a generous donation to the university's endowment fund a year or so before Johnny is due to show up, thereby leapfrogging the entire admission process and merit scrutiny.  It's done all the time, especially in Asia where the right "degree" from the "right university" is awfully important.

5. You don't think the university is discriminating as a business decision in accepting this bribe  this generous and timely donation...??

6.  What about clubs where the bouncers/doormen decide who gets in based on looks, trendiness and hotness...? Or whether you get a VIP entry...?  You don't think they're discriminating..?  Has the club been taken to court...?

7.  What about that women-run cafe in Australia that hires only women and once a week, charges men more because of gender pay gaps..?


4.  Gay Business Discriminate Against Gay Customers

1. Take a walk down Fagland lane in the West.  Or drop into a trendy gay clothing shop in Asia.  There's a good chance the goods they're selling, are overpriced compared to what the same items could be purchased for in other shops not specifically catering to a gay clientele.

2.  It's no accident in Hong Kong that over-priced gay retail that makes repeat customers think twice, coupled with sky-high rent, results in the failure of the gay business sooner rather than later.

3.  And yet, especially in the West, there's a rainbow flag sticker in the shop window and a cutesy sign underneath proclaiming, "Proudly Serving Our Community".   On one occasion in the West, when FuelMix pointed out that the sign should read, "Unashamedly Price-Gouging Gay Men", he was asked to leave the shop.

4.  We've written about gay business practices in our series, Pink Dollar Mafia.


5.  Real Issue:  Freedom of Association

1.  If a business publicly decides to state its customer preference or its bias, or its religious beliefs, it takes several risks:

• it risks a public backlash and adverse publicity. Remember Double Sauna here in Hong Kong...? Which became Hutong..? That was the gay sauna in Mong Kok allegedly notorious for its entry criteria based on ageism, racism, lookism and body type in their quest to attract only hot muscular guys...? Were they taken to court..?  They got a lot of flak online and didn't give a damn;
• it risks alienating existing customers;
• it risks some form of legal or administrative sanction;
• it risks a boycott.  When the owner of Chick-Fil-A in the US stated he did not support gay marriage, fags screamed for a boycott of that business - which backfired when a christian group brought crowds of patrons to the chain;
• it risks bankruptcy;

2. More importantly, it also risks removing potentially unwanted clientele and actually attracting their ideal customers.  For a time, Double Sauna (Hutong less so, apparently, now that it's being overrun with Mainland Chinese and fat ones at that) was doing exactly that.  It's a fine line to walk.  Some businesses choose to walk it.  We say that's OK.

3.  For the pragmatic [gay] customer, being put on actual notice that a business [gay or str8] is wearing its preference or bias or religious beliefs on its sleeve, is actually a good thing.  Better to know up front before stepping into the shop (or that gay sauna), wasting your money or worse, having a nasty or embarrassing encounter.  You don't agree with what they've done or their preferences / bias / religious beliefs...?  Great. Go elsewhere.  You have that choice.  You've always had it.  You don't have to force them to take your money when they don't want it.

4.  Put it this way....you're in a gay sauna and you're cruising some hottie and he's constantly rejecting you.  He's wearing his preference, or his bias, on his sleeve.  Do you go running to the sauna management and demand that the hottie be made to fuck you...?  No.  You shrug it off and continue cruising.  In other words, both you and the hottie are exercising their right of freedom of association.

5.  It's the same in business.  They have the right to decide who'll they'll serve.  You have the right to decide who you'll patronize.  No amount of laws, regulations, Sensitivity Training, Affirmative Action, Political Correctness is going to change that.


6.  Faggotry Just Makes Things Worse  

1.  In fact, Political Correctness, Faggotry-style, will just make it worse.....IF the US Supreme Court had ruled that the hetero baker had to make cakes for gay customers and could not refuse, then logically, Faggotry would still be fucked if the freedom of association was removed.

2.  Want proof....?  Suppose the baker was actually a fag.  He would have to accept business from violently homophobic Neo-Nazi skinheads or, ultra-conservative hate-spewing christians coming in
each day demanding cakes with the icing, "Kill me, I'm a useless faggot".  And the gay baker would have no choice but to comply - even if he didn't want their business.

3.  And right there, Faggotry would squeal again.....

4.  You want a happier, hassle-free life...?  Dump Faggotry and start thinking for yourselves.  A shop doesn't want your business...?  Fine, move on.  Faggotry has no legitimacy to impose the views of a minority on the majority.  Not only is it wrecking the freedom of association, it is distorting the free-market economy.

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The Epidemic Of Gay Loneliness 6

Sent in by a reader today:

Hi FM

Liked your re-post of the HuffPost article.  In addition to highlighting the problem of loneliness in the gay community, it completely destroys the presumption (put forward by brainwashed technophiles and brain dead snow flake millennials) that greater openness and connectivity will make everything better.

Have a good week
Rxxxxxx


FuelMix says:

1.  Amen brother.

2.  We feel particularly vindicated by this series that our assertion that "Fagland" was not only a geographical area, but also a state of mind, was accurate.  We won't get into the flak and abuse we received from (white) fags when we first declared it years ago.

3.  We feel sad when we think about the number of (white) gay twinks we advised to move out of the gay ghetto to save their lives. At the time, FuelMix was on the West Coast.

4.  For many of these twinks, living in Fagland was the first time they'd been away from home and they were desperate to live with other gay men and sample "the lifestyle".  But they were horribly wounded emotionally by the outright hostility, lack of basic civility, the belittling and the rejections.  Being far from home (or too embarrassed to return home) they felt lonely and unwanted.  "The community" they craved, was a pressure cooker of fear and loathing.  The only way out was drugs, drug-fueled risky sex and / or suicide.



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5.  In the post, Here And Hereafter 2, we referred to this phenomenon:

2.  An outrageous claim fags make is that they are a “community”. That’s a lie. A “community” implies cohesion. How can there be cohesion when the community consists of so many individually wounded, fractured psyches? FuelMix has often been left speechless at the numbers of deeply lonely, sexually abused, fundamentally unhappy fags, some quite young, for whom living in Fagland (either as a postal code or a state of mind) is a daily accumulation of financial, social and emotional degradation culminating in a fundamental lack of self-worth.

 6.  When we suggested to the twinks that they move out of the gay ghetto, they were initially shocked and accused us of being anti-white and homophobic.  It wasn't until much later that they finally got what we were saying......if you want to be happy and successful on your terms (and stay alive) you have to be homophobic -  according to the standards of conventional Faggotry.  In other words, your life depends on you being a gay man on your terms, not on others.

7.  One of the advantages Asian cities have over the west, is that there are far less geographically defined gay ghettos.  We maintain that's a positive sign and that the emergence of the ghetto should be discouraged.

8.  That still leaves unresolved the issue of the "Fagland mentality", the lack of self-worth and the drug use which can - and does - operate independently of the ghetto's existence.  We don't claim to have the answers - although we blatantly suggest looking at our landmark series, Principles of Faggotry, which apparently pissed off (and delighted) fags. 


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The Epidemic Of Gay Loneliness 5

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8.  Why Are Gay Men So Mean To Each Other..?  Two Reasons

First Reason

The researchers I spoke to explained that gay guys inflict this kind of damage on each other for two main reasons. The first, and the one I heard most frequently, is that gay men are shitty to each other because, basically, we’re men. 

“The challenges of masculinity get magnified in a community of men,” Pachankis says. “Masculinity is precarious. It has to be constantly enacted or defended or collected. We see this in studies: You can threaten masculinity among men and then look at the dumb things they do. They show more aggressive posturing, they start taking financial risks, they want to punch things.” 

This helps explain the pervasive stigma against feminine guys in the gay community.......... most gay men report that they want to date someone masculine, and that they wished they acted more masculine themselves. Maybe that’s because, historically, masculine men have been more able to blend into straight society. Or maybe it’s internalized homophobia: Feminine gay men are still stereotyped as bottoms, the receptive partner in anal sex. 

A two-year longitudinal study found that the longer gay men were out of the closet, the more likely they were to become versatile or tops. Researchers say this kind of training, deliberately trying to appear more masculine and taking on a different sex role, is just one of the ways gay men pressure each other to attain “sexual capital,” the equivalent of going to the gym or plucking our eyebrows.

“The only reason I started working out was so I would seem like a feasible top,” Martin says. When he first came out, he was convinced that he was too skinny, too effeminate, that bottoms would think he was one of them. “So I started faking all this hyper-masculine behavior. My boyfriend noticed recently that I still lower my voice an octave whenever I order drinks. That’s a remnant of my first few years out of the closet, when I thought I had to speak in this Christian Bale Batman voice to get dates.” 

Grant, a 21-year-old who grew up on Long Island and now lives in Hell’s Kitchen, says he used to be self-conscious about the way he stood—hands on hips, one leg slightly cocked like a Rockette. So, his sophomore year, he started watching his male teachers for their default positions, deliberately standing with his feet wide, his arms at his sides. 

These masculinity norms exert a toll on everyone, even their perpetrators. Feminine gay men are at higher risk of suicide, loneliness and mental illness. Masculine gay men, for their part, are more  anxious, have more risky sex and use drugs and tobacco with greater frequency. One study investigating why living in the gay community increases depression found that the effect only showed up in masculine gay guys.


Second Reason

The second reason the gay community acts as a unique stressor on its members is not about why we reject each other, but how. 

In the last 10 years, traditional gay spaces—bars, nightclubs, bathhouses—have begun to disappear, and have been replaced by social media. At least 70 percent of gay men now use hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff to meet each other. .............

.........the real effect of the apps is quieter, less remarked-upon and, in a way, more profound: For many of us, they have become the primary way we interact with other gay people..... 

The worst thing about the apps, though, and why they’re relevant to the health disparity between gay and straight men, is not just that we use them a lot. It is that they are almost perfectly designed to underline our negative beliefs about ourselves. In interviews ........ conducted with gay men in 2015, he found that 90 percent said they wanted a partner who was tall, young, white, muscular and masculine. For the vast majority of us who barely meet one of those criteria, much less all five, the hookup apps merely provide an efficient way to feel ugly.........

It’s worse for gay men of color. Vincent, who runs counseling sessions with black and Latino men through the San Francisco Department of Public Health, says the apps give racial minorities two forms of feedback: Rejected (“Sorry, I’m not into black guys”) and fetishized (“Hi, I’m really into black guys.”) Paihan, a Taiwanese immigrant in Seattle, shows me his Grindr inbox. It is, like mine, mostly hellos he has sent out to no reply. One of the few messages he received just says, “Asiiiaaaan.”  

None of this is new, of course. Walt Odets, a psychologist who’s been writing about social isolation since the 1980s, says that gay men used to be troubled by the bathhouses in the same way they are troubled by Grindr now. The difference he sees in his younger patients is that “if someone rejected you at a bathhouse, you could still have a conversation afterwards. Maybe you end up with a friend out of it, or at least something that becomes a positive social experience. On the apps, you just get ignored if someone doesn’t perceive you as a sexual or romantic conquest.” The gay men I interviewed talked about the dating apps the same way straight people talk about Comcast: It sucks, but what are you gonna do? “You have to use the apps in smaller cities,” says Michael Moore, a psychologist at Yale. “They serve the purpose of a gay bar. But the downside is that they put all this prejudice out there.”

What the apps reinforce, or perhaps simply accelerate, is the adult version of what Pachankis calls the Best Little Boy in the World Hypothesis. As kids, growing up in the closet makes us more likely to concentrate our self-worth into whatever the outside world wants us to be—good at sports, good at school, whatever. As adults, the social norms in our own community pressure us to concentrate our self-worth even further—into our looks, our masculinity, our sexual performance. But then, even if we manage to compete there, even if we attain whatever masc-dom-top ideal we’re looking for, all we’ve really done is condition ourselves to be devastated when we inevitably lose it. 

-----"Together Alone" The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness", by Michael Hobbes, Huffington Post, 2 March 2017

The Epidemic Of Gay Loneliness 4

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6. The Reality Of The Gay Community : Gay Men Are Mean

............“There are people who have lots of sex because it’s fun, and that’s fine. But I kept trying to wring it out like a rag to get something out of it that wasn’t in there—social support, or companionship. It was a way of not dealing with my own life. And I kept denying it was a problem because I had always told myself, ‘I’ve come out, I moved to San Francisco, I’m done, I did what I had to do as a gay person.’”

For decades, this is what psychologists thought, too: that the key stages in identity formation for gay men all led up to coming out, that once we were finally comfortable with ourselves, we could begin building a life within a community of people who’d gone through the same thing. But over the last 10 years, what researchers have discovered is that the struggle to fit in only grows more intense. A study published in 2015 found that rates of anxiety and depression were higher in men who had recently come out than in men who were still closeted.

“It’s like you emerge from the closet expecting to be this butterfly and the gay community just slaps the idealism out of you,” Adam says. When he first started coming out, he says, “I went to West Hollywood because I thought that’s where my people were. But it was really horrifying. It’s made by gay adults, and it’s not welcoming for gay kids. You go from your mom’s house to a gay club where a lot of people are on drugs and it’s like, this is my community?  It's like the fucking jungle."

“I came out when I was 17, and I didn’t see a place for myself in the gay scene,” says Paul, a software developer. “I wanted to fall in love like I saw straight people do in movies. But I just felt like a piece of meat. It got so bad that I used to go to the grocery store that was 40 minutes away instead of the one that was 10 minutes away just because I was so afraid to walk down the gay street.”

The word I hear from Paul, from everyone, is “re-traumatized.” You grow up with this loneliness, accumulating all this baggage, and then you arrive in the Castro or Chelsea or Boystown thinking you’ll finally be accepted for who you are. And then you realize that everyone else here has baggage, too. All of a sudden it’s not your gayness that gets you rejected. It’s your weight, or your income, or your race. “The bullied kids of our youth,” Paul says, “grew up and became bullies themselves.”

“Gay men in particular are just not very nice to each other,” ..........“In pop culture, drag queens are known for their takedowns and it’s all ha ha ha. But that meanness is almost pathological. All of us were deeply confused or lying to ourselves for a good chunk of our adolescence. But it’s not comfortable for us to show that to other people. So we show other people what the world shows us, which is nastiness.” 

Every gay man I know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him. I arrived to a date once and the guy immediately stood up, said I was shorter than I looked in my pictures and left. Alex, a fitness instructor in Seattle, was told by a guy on his swim team, “I’ll ignore your face if you fuck me without a condom.” Martin, a Brit living in Portland, has gained maybe 10 pounds since he moved there and got a Grindr message—on Christmas Day—that said: “You used to be so sexy. It’s a shame you messed it up.”


7.  The Stress Of Living In The Gay Community 

..........Several studies have found that living in gay neighborhoods predicts higher rates of risky sex and meth use and less time spent on other community activities like volunteering or playing sports. A 2009 study suggested that gay men who were more linked to the gay community were less satisfied with their own romantic relationships.  

“Gay and bisexual men talk about the gay community as a significant source of stress in their lives,” Pachankis says. The fundamental reason for this, he says, is that “in-group discrimination” does more harm to your psyche than getting rejected by members of the majority. It’s easy to ignore, roll your eyes and put a middle finger up to straight people who don’t like you because, whatever, you don’t need their approval anyway. Rejection from other gay people, though, feels like losing your only way of making friends and finding love. Being pushed away from your own people hurts more because you need them more.

-----"Together Alone" The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness", by Michael Hobbes, Huffington Post, 2 March 2017

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