Soda Sauna (formerly Action) 3

COMPLETED 31 JULY 2017

1/F Overseas Building,
417 - 421 Hennessy Road
Causeway Bay
Hong Kong (same location as Action)
MTR:  Causeway Bay, Exit B

Telephone: 2893 7027 (same number as Action)
Web: https://sodasaunahk.wordpress.com 
Price: HK$130.00

** OPEN 24 HOURS** 
(Except Mondays when it closes at 11:30pm)




Curious as to whether the 3 allegedly rave reviews so far listed on TravelGayAsia had any merit (See Soda Sauna 2 ), FuelMix showed up at Soda on a Wednesday evening about 6:30pm.


1.  The Place Has Had A Makeover (For The Better)

(a) The Locker Room

1.  We were surprised how different the place looked when we entered. The Reception area is much smaller. Pay coin, get a towel, pull the door open and.....whoa..!! a much more expansive Locker Room that starts from the door.

2.  In terms of visual appeal, the Locker Room is a success story.  Every locker door is also a mirror.  Effectively it's a wall of mirrors which, when combined with the black colour scheme, works surprisingly well.  The smallest lockers are adjacent to the doors, the larger ones are in the main changing area, which now boasts an additional wall-mounted full length wall mirror and black faux leather benches - plus a small seating area with 2 individual chairs.  The reflective qualities of 2 walls of mirrors, mean that the single light fixture in the main Locker Area results in adequate ambient lighting.

3.  Our only gripe is that the "large" lockers don't have a separate shelf for shoes. The new lockers are in fact smaller than the "large" dark green metal lockers when it was Action.  However, there are about 60 lockers in the main area plus the small lockers near the door.  Remember, Soda is now open 24 hours so the new management (it's been divorced from the ABC-Gateway group) are obviously expecting people - and we suspect, they're getting them.

4.  For those familiar with what was previously Action, the renovations demolished the TV viewing lounge to greatly expand the Locker Room.


(b)  The New TV Lounge

5.  What used to be the food and computer lounge opposite the old TV room, has also been demolished and is the TV lounge and reading counter that merges seamlessly with the Locker Room.  The striped colour scheme on the couches works well with the overall black decor.


(c)  Drinks And Snacks

6.  Water cooler, hot drinks and snacks are now within the Locker Area.  There is enough seating there to socialize.


(d)  Dark Area

7.  The basic layout of Action / Soda remains the same.  The expanded Dark Area has a neon sign proclaiming itself as the "Nude Zone" and there are towel hooks on the wall all over the place.  Gone is the sissy GAM fag that sat there collecting towels. That corridor in which he used to sit, has become a direct access corridor from the TV lounge to the Dark Room.

8.  There are 12 private rooms (compared to Action's 9) plus some discreet alcoves and public seating in what used to be the porn room that is still showing Jap porn - except that the flat screen has been moved to the opposite wall.


(e)  The Wet Area

9.  The Wet Area has a small cosy seating space outside the Steam Room.  And those hideous toe-breaking drain grilles near the showers are now covered with a non-slip rubber matting.  Shampoo and Shower Gel now very clearly marked.


(f)  Comment

10.  We'll say this much:  the new management is to be commended for bringing a new style and layout to what was a notoriously boring place.


2.  What Hasn't Changed

• Steam Room, Showers and Sauna still there
• Toilets still there (new doors though). Urinals gone.
• Main Dark Area the same (but the room at the end on the left, now has a raised bed)

3.  The Clientele

1.  FuelMix last did a review of Action / Soda on 3 September 2016 (see Action Sauna 19) and was not thrilled. Customer-wise, Action was going downhill for a long time. Subsequent conversations with friendly GAM-Throats-On-The-Street, confirmed it (see Action Sauna 20 and Action Sauna 21)  FuelMix was ready to write the place off.

2.  With the new makeover, has come a new clientele.....and they were coming in the door regularly, even on a weekday evening:

• Mainly local GAM office types in their 20s to 40s. Most were slim fit and gym fit. For a mid-week drop in, they were reasonably attractive;
• No bears or chubs during our visit;
• Some GAMs were overseas educated and spoke very good English when they chatted to FuelMix;
• 4 GWMs in their 30s, decent shape;
• Some gym Asians from Singapore;
• Less attitude than when it was Action; 
• No Mainland Chinese during our visit;

3.  Admittedly, it had been 10 months since FuelMix was last in Action / Soda.  His first impression of clientele since it became Soda, was they were a lot less Fugly (but Fuglies and Chubs are everywhere, so you never know.


4.  Verdict

1.  Soda has a completely different vibe to the tired-looking, Fugly-infested, no-Action.

2.  Soda's vibe (aided by the decor) is masculine and sexy.  Whilst they now have 12 private rooms, they do not have the largest Dark Area in Hong Kong as they claim on their website.  That honour still belongs to MyWay, Jungle and Hutong.

3.  The absence of Fuglies and less attitude than before, was a relief.

4.  We suspect that whites and white tourists will show up regularly.  Compared to Central Escalator (the historical asylum for whites and their disciples), Soda has much more space to walk around in, sit and chat, or play. (The dry sauna is tight and dinky).  At HK$130.00 entry (or HK$100.00 with  the 6-visit / 7th visit free, card)  Soda is cheaper than the HK$148.00 official entry fee charged by Central Escalator.  Being open 24 hours means that Soda is not subject to CE's very limited "window of opportunity" of 3pm to 6pm.

5.  The decision to open 24 hours (except Mondays) is a potentially smart move.  Soda is pretty close to MyWay that is also open 24 hours and which attracts hot guys. The HK$130.00 entry fee is cheaper than MyWay's official entry fee of HK$150.00.


5.  Would FuelMix Go Back...?

1.  Yes.  On a mid-week visit, he got serviced 4 times by gym fit GAMs.  FuelMix is curious to see what this place is like on a weekend.

2.  The question is, "should he wait another 10 months..??"

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Massage Musings

A mature, local Chinese gentleman in his late 60s, with impeccable manners and English, cruised FuelMix downtown.  He offered a non-sexual massage and conversation at Galaxy Sauna.

He also offered to pay the entry fee of HK$80.00 when FuelMix informed him that he had written the place off [see the reviews of Galaxy Sauna] and would not go there unless it was paid by someone else.

FuelMix, freshly showered, relaxed naked on a towel in one of the private cabins. The Mature GAM began chatting, gently massaging FuelMix's back and legs:


1.  Gay Men's Lousy Manners

MGAM:  It's a pleasure to find someone with good manners who respects more mature men - [giggles] even if you were blunt when you said you wouldn't pay.  These days, younger men are surprisingly rude to older gay men, particularly the ones in their 20s.  I think it's a combination of a lousy family life, endless internet distractions, hookup apps and their failure to hookup; and a misplaced attitude.

FM:  You have a point.  There's nothing to be gained by being gratuitously rude to someone just because of their age.  However, some older gay men can be very pushy either in the bar or in the saunas.  When they refuse to acknowledge a polite rejection, it might become necessary to be more direct. 


2.  Getting Cruised By Older Gay Men  

MGAM:  Have you had older men come on to you..?

FM:  Many times.  I don't have an age bias, just a bias against stupidity. Older men vary in their approach.  Some show a bit of class, like yourself; some are clumsy repetitive gropers that need to be shoved away; others are shy and submissive; others are apparently married; and others come at me with an attitude of entitlement based on racial differences of perceived superiority and assumed inferiority.  Those are the ones I laugh at the most.


3.  Gay Seduction As A Dying Art

MGAM:  Do you think gay seduction is a dying art..?

FM:  Totally.  There's a technological paradox:  Thank the Web, emails and Instant Messaging for destroying attention spans and manners; and thank video and mobile games like Candy Crush or Pokemon Go for creating hypnotic fixations.  And then thank gay porn for showing hot bodies, positions and fantasies - and that's about it.  Seduction requires an attention span to culminate in a hookup.

MGAM:  That's true

FM:  The hookup apps like Grindr, Jack'd, Scruff, Growlr kill the art of seduction.  They might encourage superficial flirting.  They claim to offer a variety of men, but there's a high failure rate caused by "preferences", shunning, rudeness, abrupt ending of "conversations"....so many profiles there and online stipulate, "no endless chat or no endless emails".  Flirting and making a snap judgment are not the same as seduction.

MGAM:  Yes, you are right...[kisses FM's freshly washed feet as he massages his legs]

MGAM:  Do you think it's possible to seduce a man in a gay sauna...?  There are so many guys around looking for immediate action. They're all cruising and flirting or giving attitude

FM:  It is possible.  You're seducing me with your undivided attention and a massage.  And at some level, I'm seducing you by lying here and giving you something to look at and something to touch.  I haven't touched you - even though your massage is making me horny. 

MGAM [giggles]  Oh, you're smart....with a delicious body...I am admiring the shape of your ass...amongst other things...


4.  Choice Of Gay Saunas In Hong Kong

MGAM:  Which saunas do you prefer..?  With a body like yours, you should not have any problems with any age range...[kisses FM's ass cheeks whilst massaging the back of his thighs]

FM:  For several months I've been asking myself that question. I've written off most of them.  There are only 2 that might work for me: MyWay - which has hot guys but tons of attitude and takes forever to get action - and the revamped Soda, that I dropped into the other day after about 6 months.  I saw some favourable comments online and wanted to see for myself.  It's not bad.....it might have potential, now that it's open 24 hours.

MGAM:  Let me tell you the ones I've tried.....

I come to Galaxy regularly.  It's crappy in its decor, but everyone knows each other even if they don't play with you.  The staff are friendly and most of the customers are too.  It's mostly an older Chinese crowd, not in the best shape, but you do get white and brown foreigners and tourists too.  Sometimes you'll see younger Chinese guys.  The place gets packed on Saturday afternoons and there can be a waiting list for lockers.  They do really good business.

I did go to K K Fitness in Jordan some time ago.  The premises are old and the men are very old.  Some in their 70s and above.  It does get younger guys who are into older men.  I'm not sure if K K is still in business

I tried Birds but found it dark and depressing.  It's a play space so there's no sauna or steam room.  Very unfriendly crowd and it feels weird to me.

 I went to Big Top a few times.  It's not bad.  The staff are friendly and polite. There were mature guys there too and a good mix of other guys, including foreigners. Quite a few gym bodies.  The Dark Area can get very crowded and there are not enough rooms to play in.  I don't like playing with somebody while standing in the Dark Area.  So, while the guys can be cute, I'm not sure what to make of that place.

I've heard about the customer attitude in MyWay.  The staff are fine and polite.  The local Chinese guys there are good looking but can be very hostile.  As a mature person without a gym body, I didn't have much luck.

I went to Arena once and was horrified. 

I went to Chaps too but just didn't like it.

Gateway works very well for me.  It had a reputation for being dead, but now it is getting more people, including white guys.  I have got action there a few times even on weekday evenings.

FM:  Seems you know your saunas

MGAM:  Would you like to turn over and I'll massage the front of your body..?

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True Pride 2

True Pride is knowing that as a gay man, You are always improving.  Improving all aspects of Your life, incrementally, in small steps.  Always.

True Pride never requires another gay man, an online ad or an App to validate You.

True Pride never requires your colleagues at work to validate You.

True Pride never requires You to come Out to anyone.  Except Yourself.  For Yourself.

True Pride requires You to be Selfish.  To be authentic to Yourself.

True Pride requires You to act and speak from Your Truth as You see it.

True Pride requires You to be brave.

True Pride requires You to be better at who You already are.


.....and then from online, the streets, the office, the bars, the gyms and the saunas, the men will come running.

They will want what You have become.

Originally published July 10, 2016
Republished 26 July, 2017

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Nearly Raped By A Deaf Gay Guy

Turning around to see who had called his name while navigating a chronically packed street here in Very Rich Megacity yesterday evening, FuelMix recognized a gym-fit 20 year old local college GAM with whom he'd had some casual conversations and fun times in the sauna.  The GAM looked breathless and in shock.

FM:  Are you alright..?  You look a bit strange...what happened to your face..?

GAM:  I nearly got raped....

FM:  Where...?

GAM:  [names sauna].  I've just come from there.  Look...[shows FM fresh scratches on his arms, chest,  face and abs]

FM: What happened..?

GAM:  I had already changed and had wrapped my towel around me.  I was sitting near the Locker area to see who would come in.  A young Chinese guy came in, about my height, wearing glasses, probably around my age or a bit older.  He looked fit ,cute, a little bit nerdy and smiled at me.  So I smiled back and watched him undress.  His body was OK and he was looking at me and smiling a lot.  I wasn't cruising him, but he was really staring at me.  I knew he wanted to play with me, but I hadn't made up my mind.

He changed and went for a shower.  I was still sitting there when he got back and he kept looking at me. I still hadn't decided whether I wanted to play with him, so I got up to walk around.  He followed me everywhere I went.

I was standing against the wall in the Dark Area and he came up to me and started stroking my body. I didn't say anything and he didn't say anything.  There was nothing to indicate that he was deaf - there was no hearing aid or anything in his ear.  I dunno.....maybe he had removed it in the Locker Area and I hadn't noticed.  He never said "Hi", or anything and neither did I.

He started to kiss my body and it felt good, so I let him do it.  He was licking my balls and my legs, stroking my body.  I thought maybe he was a bottom.  We didn't speak at all.

After licking and kissing my bod, he took me by the hand to one of the rooms.  When he removed his towel, I was impressed by the size of his cock.  He never indicated what he wanted to do or whether he was "One" [Top] or "Zero" [Bottom].  I didn't say anything because he immediately got on his knees and started servicing me, the same way he was doing in the Dark Area.  He was licking me everywhere and it felt really good.  He never said anything, just licking me quietly.

Then he motioned with his fingers that he wanted to fuck me.  I told him I was Top - and that's when things turned nasty.  He suddenly got up and turned me around, trying to bend me over.  I said "No" and repeated that I was a Top.  He pushed me up against the wall, trying to fuck me. I pushed him back, shook my head, said "No thanks", and attempted to leave the room.

I unlocked the door and he slammed it shut, locking it again.  He blocked the door with his body and  turned to face me looking really angry.  Funny noises started coming from his mouth and I thought at first he was retarded......then I realized he was deaf.  He pushed me up against the wall and tried to force me to the floor on my back so he could fuck me.  We started struggling.  He was getting quite physical and aggressive, making funny wailing noises while blocking my moves to stay on my feet and get out of the room.

We struggled quite a bit as I attempted to get rid of him and stay on my feet.  He blocked the door several times, even after I'd unlocked it.  His strength for a deaf guy was astonishing and that's how I got scratched on my face and body.  I was angry and frightened. Several times he slammed me against the wall, trying to get me to collapse on the floor.  I raised my voice frequently in Cantonese and told him to leave me alone and let me get out of the room.

People in the Dark Area heard that something was going on. I heard them making comments in Cantonese that something appeared to be wrong, but nobody tried to assist me by knocking on the door and asking if I needed help.

I was getting really stressed in there.  My heart was racing.  This nerdy, deaf guy had the strength of a gorilla.  Nobody was helping me and he was refusing to let me get out of the room.  He had got it into his head that he was going to fuck me and wouldn't take "No" for an answer.  We fought some more. I realized I had to stay as close to the door as possible and not allow him to push me to the floor or towards the back of the room.

Then I got angry.....I grabbed him by the neck by one hand and started kicking the door repeatedly so people outside could hear something was wrong.  He was using one of his hands to block the door lock so I couldn't unlock it.  I started yelling in Cantonese, "let me get out...!!"  He started making loud wailing noises like a deaf guy does, and fighting with me with his fist.

I finally got his hand off the door lock, unlocked it, opened the door and kicked the door into him, forcing him into a corner.  He was wailing loudly and hitting the door in anger.

I was out of the room and in the Dark Area corridor.  There were people standing around looking at me and muttering to each other.  Nobody came forward to ask if I was OK.  I wasn't.  I pointed to the room and said in Cantonese, "that guy is dangerous, be careful".

I was sweating, my heart was racing and I had scratches on me.  It wasn't until I got to the Locker Area and looked in the mirror that I saw the scratches on my face.  I was horrified and pissed off.  I had a shower, got dressed and left.

WHAT THE HELL AM I GOING TO TELL MY PARENTS WHEN THEY SEE THE SCRATCHES ON MY FACE.....??!!  THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW I'M GAY...!!  HOW CAN I EXPLAIN THIS TO THEM..??!!  IT'S SO OBVIOUS I'VE BEEN IN A FIGHT.....!!  I CAN'T MAKE A REPORT TO THE POLICE WITHOUT DISCLOSING WHERE IT HAPPENED AND OUTING MYSELF.

WHAT AM I GONNA DO WHEN I GET HOME..??!!  I'M NOT READY TO COME OUT TO MY PARENTS...I'M JUST NOT...!!  HOW CAN I TELL THEM THAT I'M GAY AND SOME GUY TRIED TO RAPE ME..??!!  THEY WILL THROW ME OUT...!!  I KNOW THEY WILL...!!

FM:  [remains silent, not knowing what to say]

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Dress For Suck-cess

Wandering through Fagland - particularly in the West where it's a clearly defined zip code, but also on the streets of Asia - it's pretty easy to tell where one is and what one is looking at without having to look at street names or fluttering rainbow flags. The generic fag exudes a dress sense that covers a spectrum:

• "cloney", 
• "screaming fag", 
• "quaintly stylized", 
• "GQ wannabe", 
• "gym rat", 
• "corporate professional with an anal twist", 
• "urban trash"
• "read my labels".

Somewhere in there is a sorry breed of ageing fags - in their 50s and up - who never quite matured intellectually and emotionally. Like guests who overstayed their welcome at a party long since finished, they are the sartorial standard bearers of what was - and what should definitely not be.

Often, they appear like elephants out of a thicket forcing one to duck for cover in order to take it all in. Sometimes they'll be dressed like paunchy twinks, squealing attitude and "Oh My God..!!" and all.

Others will be in cut off shorts and Doc Martens. Those vascular legs are varicose veins from sitting on barstools for hours. Or they could be dressed like slobs. Or they go to the other extreme and dress totally bland as a belated fashion penance for their lifestyle. Or they go super macho with skin tight jeans, a beer belly, flabby arms, triple chins, a tight body shirt and an exaggerated sense of "I could have been a Navy Seal" attitude.

Sometimes it's pathetic, other times it's laughable. For those ageing fags, their world is the ghetto - both the postal code and the state of mind.  They couldn't survive much longer without it.

Ageing is inevitable.  Done holistically, incorporating body type, body changes that come with age, dress sense,  dressing right and differently plus re-invention, it could be liberating.

If the fag has kept his body and his looks, good for him. FuelMix has seen twinks, 30 and 40 somethings gravitate towards some very attractive jock and non-jock 50 somethings and older who displayed impeccable (not necessarily conservative) dress sense, great manners and the charisma that comes only with confident maturity. They had absolutely nothing to prove and they knew it.

For other grey fags for whom time has not been so kind and who are still dressing like they did 30 years ago, a crash course in Image Disaster Management might be in order.

Originally published 31 August 2009
Amended and Republished 19 August 2013 | 24 July 2017

In Praise Of Older Men

FuelMix in conversation with a 20-something better-than-average-gym-bod local GAM who gave his views on his "preference":

It's obvious that I have a gym bod and I'm not afraid to flaunt it.  If I go to saunas like Hutong, it takes forever to get action.  These other muscle boys stare at everyone but stand around leaking attitude with a grim expression on their faces.  OK, the action can be wild, but, fuuucck.....it takes so long 'coz they're all pretending they're not interested and they're just too hot for you.

With Big Top, My Way, Jungle, it's pretty much the same thing.....attitude, attitude, attitude.  After a while, you question what you're paying for and why you have to wait so long to get it.

What I discovered about older guys - whether GAM or GWM - is that they don't waste time when they're cruising you.  They make it very obvious they want you.  Is it desperate...? Who knows...?  I'm a Top and a lot of older guys are Bottoms.  They're not in the best physical shape, they're nothing to look at and they know it.  I get annoyed when these flabby GWMs just assume I'm a Bottom and then mutter under their breath when I tell them I'm a Top. That's one of the reasons I stopped going to Central Escalator.  Fuckin' hairy, fat, white guys giving me attitude.  Forget it.

So most of the time, I play with older GAMs.  They can be very humble and very grateful at the same time.  It's quite touching actually, how they compliment my bod, stroke me, kiss me.  They love to service and I love getting serviced.  And when I fuck them, they moan and scream like little Japanese teenagers.  Makes me giggle.

I don't mind if they want me to cum in their mouth or on their face.  I've had some explosive orgasms with these older guys - which is not what I was expecting.  Sometimes we swap numbers and occasionally I've hooked up with the same guy more than once in the sauna.

The more I think about it, the more I enjoy these older GAMs aged 50 and up.  The oldest GAM I played with in the sauna was 71 and wow.....!! He was an amazing cocksucker...!!  I was really banging his face. I found that the more I played with older GAMs, the less I cared about what they looked like.  I was just pleasantly surprised how quickly I would get action from them.  I could get my rocks off with 3 or 4 older guys in the sauna and leave, pretty satisfied with the servicing.  Meanwhile those other "really hot muscleboy" GAMs were still standing around looking grim and giving attitude.

But there's something else I noticed.  The older GAMs don't do drugs the way the younger GAMs do.  Some do Poppers, but in my observation, it's not to the same extent as these 20 and 30-something GAMs that combine Poppers, cigarettes and Viagra all night long in the sauna.

The older GAMs seem to be more aware of their health.  Or maybe, they're more aware of their mortality.  Some are obviously married with kids my age, or even grand kids.  They may have some other health problems due to their age.  I know that some take Viagra, 'coz they told me, but other than that, I don't see or suspect the drug use that I definitely know goes on with the younger GAMs.  I doubt whether the older GAMs in this town are on cocaine, ecstasy, crystal meth like the younger ones are.

In a funny way, I feel reassured when I fuck older GAMs.  I don't feel like I'm fucking a drug cocktail or a health hazard and I know I won't get attitude.  I wanna make it clear I'm talking about Hong Kong older GAMs.  I don't touch older Mainland Chinese GAMs.

The only drawback is that I have to show up in places like Galaxy in Tsim Sha Tsui, or KK Fitness in Jordan or QQ Fitness in Wanchai.  They're not the best looking saunas, but that's where the older guys are.  Some also show up in Birds in Tsim Sha Tsui or Gateway in Wanchai which is OK.  If I get cruised on the street by an older GAM, I'll usually suggest Gateway, Birds or Galaxy. I hope older GAMs will also show up in Soda.

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Soda Sauna (formerly Action) 2

1/F Overseas Building,
417 - 421 Hennessy Road
Causeway Bay
Hong Kong (same location as Action)
MTR:  Causeway Bay, Exit B

Telephone: 2893 7027 (same number as Action)
Web: https://sodasaunahk.wordpress.com 
Website says open 24 hours.  But call them first.



Dipping into TravelGayAsia, we noticed 3 rave reviews for Soda dated June 2017.  Apparently the place has been completely renovated and is allegedly attracting a hotter crowd.

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Being A Bottom Is Powerful...?

Asian American Masculinity And Sexual Representation

Underlining, bold print and highlighting by FuelMix:

In your book A View from the Bottom you examine some of the stereotypes surrounding gay Asian men. What is the most common stereotype you’ve observed? 

The popular stereotype is that gay Asian men are effeminate, passive bottoms. This even applies to the young, muscular guys in bars or online. They are not perceived as “hunks” the way that white guys might be. I think the impression in many gay men’s minds is that though they appear butch, at the end of the night, these Asian studs will lie back, throw their legs in the air, and beg to be fucked. One of the key arguments of my book is that while gay Asian men are associated with the bottom position, there is nothing wrong with being bottom per se. What is troubling is the idea that Asian men’s sexual desire is restricted to that one position. 

[FuelMix says:  Amen, brother.  It's annoying and insulting how whites can't get their heads around the perfectly reasonable notion that Asian can be Tops - and good ones. Or even Versatile.]

How is an Asian man who bottoms viewed differently from, say, a white man who bottoms?

The view of Asian men, gay and straight, as effeminate, lacking in the proper quotient of masculinity, and therefore, sexual undesirability, can be attributed to a Western colonial mindset that deems “the Orient” as a mysterious, feminine space to be seduced, conquered, and penetrated. So gay Asian men’s bottoming is considered to be a “natural” expression of their racial nature. But white men’s bottoming doesn’t say anything about their racial essence. It’s just a sexual role that gets them off. While being on the receiving end of anal sex usually brands the bottom as passive and feminized, race complicates matters. Getting fucked doesn’t necessarily impugn white men's claims to masculine prerogatives in the way that it does to Asian men's.

[FuelMix says:  Perfect answer.  Accurately states the white, colonial, exploitative mentality that still exists towards Asians.  Whether they will consciously articulate it or not ( or even admit it), whites perceive Asians to be dominated, used and disrespected.

See our post:

White Boy's Sauna Etiquette - A white's view of Asians and  Browns in Hong Kong]

You’ve argued that this is ultimately a way of reinforcing the white men’s sexuality in society.

Racialized sexuality has been constructed to reinforce white men as the norm. Asian men’s asexuality is counter-balanced by black and Latino men’s hypersexuality; Asians possess too little, blacks and Latinos possess too much. The two poles serve to confirm white masculinity as just right, safely in the middle. Put another way, whiteness is attached to the category of the human and accorded the status of the universal, which in this case, we can link to the white men’s sexual versatility.

[FuelMix says:  Oh yeah...he's gooood.  What he should have added is that this "construct" of reinforcing white men as the norm, is happily perpetuated by western faggot media. And western faggot media (for all their crowing of "diversity"),  know damn well that they are deliberately encouraging "inferiority" and "body shame" amongst non-whites. In other words,  an emotional and emotionally and psychological crippling, coupled with marginalization and shunning.

See our posts:

Talking To Adam 7.  A GAM gives his view of, "Sorry No Asians"; and

Talking To Adam 10 - An Australian-born Chinese tells of his experiences in Sydney and Hong Kong; and.....

Sorry No Asians 2 -  A white boy's "perspective"........]

  
What do you think about guys who write things like “No Asians” on their dating profiles? 

Sexual racism is nothing new by any means. A job advertisement listing “no Asians” would obviously be considered prejudiced and discriminatory. So why is a hookup ad different? Why is it that a hot chest pic suddenly becomes blockable when an Asian face is revealed?  

A lot of people would argue it’s their “personal preference.” 

I’m more than happy to support people’s personal preferences, sexual and otherwise. However, it’s clear that one doesn’t wake up one day and find oneself exclusively preferring white twinks, bi muscle bears, vegetarian otters, and so on. Much of what we call “preferences” are actually shaped by cultural norms and social institutions. Racism is not a preference, it’s a social institution that confers benefits and privileges to some while excluding others. 

What do you think are the steps to overcoming the stereotypes and stigmas these guys on dating apps seem to feel towards Asian men? 

Well, the first step is to go out and fuck an Asian man, or get fucked by one. That advice applies to Asian and non-Asian men (and women) alike. Don’t knock it till you try it, as the saying goes. 

When challenging the stigmatization of gay Asian men, we must be careful not to reinscribe the standards of normative masculinity. For instance, the knee-jerk response by Asian American critics and activists has been to assert that Asian men are just as masculine and potent as men of other races. This is obviously true. But, such a defensive claim ends up reinforcing femmephobia. What’s wrong with being effeminate? That’s an intersectional issue. Fat, femme, Asian, whatever, we shouldn’t throw each other under the bus.

I’m not interested in combating the truth or falsehood of Asian men as weak, submissive bottoms. Rather, I’m more interested in expanding how we think about Asianness and masculinity and femininity. I want us to consider the erotic and desirable in terms of an ethics of pleasure and agency without policing what is and is not legitimate.

You tackle this very idea in your video Forever Bottom!

Yes. My video Forever Bottom! critiques the assumption that all Asian men are bottoms but does not try to recuperate Asian masculinity. The video is a four-minute montage of an Asian man getting fucked in a variety of locations (the bedroom, in the shower, against the stove, on the lawn, in the car, at the beach); the video shows an insatiable bottom unrepentantly taking up private and public space. I don’t try to counter the stereotype by portraying or saying that Asians can in fact be butch tops. I don’t position being top as better than being bottom. Bottomhood is powerful!  

How can bottomhood be powerful?

As any connoisseur of anal eroticism can tell you, the category of bottom encompasses many different kinds: bossy bottom, insatiable bottom, lazy bottom, submissive bottom, big-dicked bottom, power bottom. The numerous adjectives modifying bottom suggest that bottoming doesn’t mean just one thing, specifically, in the assertion of needs, wants, demands, desires. My phrase “bottomhood is powerful” riffs off of second wave feminism’s slogan “sisterhood is powerful.” On one level, it challenges the assumption of bottomhood as wholly powerless, humiliating, and shameful; getting fucked doesn’t mean one is fucked over. On another level, the phrase is a bit cheeky because my thinking about bottomhood privileges the pleasure and agency in the very surrender of power. Passivity, submission, and masochism can be chosen and pleasurable.

Alternatively, we can focus on the positive aspects of bottomhood and embrace vulnerability, receptivity, and openness. Adopting the bottom position allows us to think about and make coalitions with those who are similarly situated at the bottom of social hierarchies. As members of a group deemed to be racially and sexually abject, gay Asian men are in an ideal place to offer a strong critique of the racial-sexual status quo. Instead of fighting among ourselves for the scraps thrown our way by those on top, it would be more productive to bond with others located on the bottom—queers, people of color, women, the differently abled—in order to undo the top-bottom hierarchy. In that sense, bottomhood can be very powerful indeed.


-----"Bottom Shame With A Side Of "No Asian": A Message For All You Racist Grindr Users Out There", by Graham Gremore, July 3, 2016, Queerty.com


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Indonesia's Anti-Gay Hysteria

At about 9pm on Sunday, four mini buses, the kind commonly used for public transport in Jakarta, slunk into the Ruko Kokan Permata Complex in Kelapa Gading, in the north of the city. The convoy then wound its way past the Playboy Sensation Funtasty massage parlour and trundled by the blacked out windows of the Delta Massage Health Club – both, in effect, brothels for “straight” men – before making two right turns to stop at Block B, units 15-16. There, a dozen or so plain-clothes police officers jumped out of the buses and stormed the front entrance of the unassuming putty coloured building. Inside, a gay sex party, complete with strippers and about 140 naked men, was in full swing.

“I think they are deviant,” said Ade Dwi, a soft-spoken young contractor working across the street on a renovation project when the raid occurred. As he tied a metre-wide roll of sketches to the side of his scooter, he seemed uncomfortable discussing the events of that night. “I’m embarrassed I have to work near that place.”

“That place” is Atlantis Gym, a gay sauna in a working class residential district that is ground zero in the latest convulsion of homophobia to hit Indonesia. On Tuesday, its ultraconservative province of Aceh flexed its two-year-old sharia-based criminal code to claim the dubious honour of being host to Asia’s first public caning of gay men outside Iran.

Homophobia crested when the two men, in their early 20s, received 83 lashes of the cane for having gay sex. Footage showed hundreds roaring with approval as each of the men were beaten in front of a sea of smartphones recording the event.



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Seemingly spurred on by the attention given to the event, police in West Java, the country’s most populous province, announced a plan on Tuesday for a task force to investigate LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) activity.

“I hope there are no followers in West Java, no gay or LGBT lifestyle or tradition,” West Java police chief Anton Charliyan said. “If there’s anyone following it, they will face the law and heavy social sanctions. They will not be accepted in society.” The anti-gay hysteria in Indonesia stands in sharp contrast to the scenes in Taiwan, which this week became the first jurisdiction in Asia to recognise same sex marriage.

Until recently, Indonesia, with its 225 million Muslims, stood apart in the Islamic world as a relatively tolerant juggernaut. Activists worry that may no longer be true. Further sharia-inspired laws in the country’s more conservative localities seem likely. Activists fear a nationwide ban on homosexuality could be on the cards. “Everything is moving that way, yes,” said Yuli Rustinawati, the chairwoman of LGBT rights group Arus Pelangi.

Indonesia’s Aceh was granted autonomy as part of its 2005 agreement to end its long running independence struggle. In 2015, the province, which sits at the northernmost tip of Sumatra adopted a sharia-based criminal code which also bans extramarital sex, alcohol and makes headscarves compulsory for women.

News of police busting up gay gatherings is a staple of Indonesian media. This month, police arrested 14 men in Surabaya for allegedly violating the country’s vague anti-pornography laws during a sex party at a hotel. The police forced the accused to have HIV tests, later posting the results. Last year police detained 13 men for a sex party in the Kalibata district in South Jakarta, on the request of Islamic vigilantes. The men were released but not before being paraded in front of television cameras.

“The police increasingly want to be seen as the guardians of the country’s morality,” said Ricky Gunawan director of LBH Masyarakat, a non-profit law firm defending the men detained in both of the Jakarta raids. “That is not their job. They are violating the human rights of these men, who have done nothing wrong.”

To be sure, other countries have anti-gay laws. India and Singapore retain British colonial laws against homosexual sex and punish violators with prison. Brunei’s 2014 sharia code metes out death by stoning for homosexuals, though the punishment is yet to be used.

But in Indonesia the environment has become particularly toxic. Last year senior government officials called for a ban on LGBT groups on university campuses and even likened the spread of gay rights in Indonesia to a “nuclear bomb detonating in Jakarta”.

Last May, an outfit called the Family Love Alliance petitioned the Constitutional Court to ban homosexual acts between consenting adults. While the court, which is still considering the case, can’t make new laws, it can amend existing ones, said Helen Pausacker, deputy director of the Centre for Indonesian Law, Islam and Society at the University of Melbourne

“Currently, the Criminal Code only prohibits gay sex with a minor – it would be possible for the court to recommend deleting the reference to ‘minor’,” Pausacker said. “The decision could go either way.”

Todung Mulya Lubis, a lawyer with the Jakarta firm LSM, thinks the court will ban homosexual acts. Lubis, who has argued nearly a dozen cases before the Constitutional Court since 2004, said judges in Indonesia tended to echo popular sentiments when handing down verdicts. Most, according to Lubis, see gay people as depraved and not entitled to legal protection. “In all likelihood the court will ban it,” Lubis said. “For them it is ‘human rights minus LGBT’.”

With its economic heft in Association of Southeast Asian Nations and moral clout as one of the region’s few true democracies, Indonesia’s views matter. The hope was that under Joko Widodo, who included LGBT rights in his manifesto when he was campaigning for president in 2014, Indonesia might become a bright spot in a dark place for gay rights. That hasn’t happened. Asean still hasn’t included LGBT rights in its Human Rights Mechanism and almost certainly won’t for some time. Last week, Singapore announced that it would ban foreigners from attending Pink Dot festivities – the city state’s version of a gay pride parade.

Even so, Taiwan’s ruling to recognise same sex marriage, and Vietnam’s decision last year to lift its ban on the unions, will go some way to balance out the bad news further south, said veteran Indonesian gay rights campaigner Dede Oetomo. “Taiwan is a vision of the future. It will be a while for Indonesia to get there.

-----"Where will Indonesia's anti-gay hysteria end?" 6 July 2017 by  Jeffrey Hutton, South China Morning Post


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When They Came Running

A while back, FuelMix put up an online profile with pic, in a chat room. Being sharp featured, foreign enough to be an assumed security risk and no longer sexually into GWMs (having observed them at length in their native habitats in 4 western countries), FuelMix stated he was only looking for muscular Exotics. FuelMix has a good bod and expects to meet similar types. “Gym fit”, "gym toned”, “sporty”, unfortunately no longer cut it. The requisite standard is higher.

The chat room was crawling with GWMs trawling through the GAM profiles, many of whom were gaydar based. A minority of GWMs were looking for other GWMs. At that point in time, the majority of GAMs were also looking for GWMs.

It could be assumed that if the majority of GWMs were looking for GAMs and vice versa, FuelMix would not have presented a threat. Theoretically, his profile could only appeal to a tiny minority – if at all.

Unexpectedly, FuelMix began to receive pvts from GWMs. Their respective profiles said they were looking for “hot gams” or “young gams” or “slim gams” or “nice gams” or “btm gams for a hard fuck” FuelMix was puzzled…...why were they pvting him?


GWM No. 1

“I know your profile says you’re only into Exotics but are u willing to make an exception? I am” said GWM No. 1

OK, nothing ventured nothing gained. At least he was man enough to admit that he was willing to make an exception – although FuelMix has always been wary of fags who say one thing in their public profile and then attempt a backroom deal in pvt. They should go into politics. In any event, something in the back of FuelMix’s head interprets making an exception as tantamount to an act of charity. FuelMix doesn’t do mercy fucks – at least not without a tax receipt, dinner and gifts.

See also the post, An Exception To The Rule


GWM No. 2

“Hey! Nice bod!!” chirped GWM No. 2, “I’d swallow u anytime….u into group fun w/ GWM/GAMs?”

Clearly pushing his luck and from past experience, would attempt to use FuelMix’s profile as bait to lure other GAMs for his personal benefit. FuelMix had seen this potential scam before.


GWM No. 3

“Why do u only want exotics? That’s kinda elitist don’t u think?” whined GWM No. 3.

Now that's a  well-balanced fag with a chip on each shoulder. Griping about exotics AND elitism in the same breath. Probably had issues in the past with class, money and foreigners. What in fuck’s name is “elitist” in seeking the type of dude that a person finds sexually attractive? Using “elitist” implies that FuelMix has set his standards unacceptably – or insultingly - high or is somehow “better than you”. Does it irk the GWM to acknowledge that “preferences” exist for those other than GWMs who justify their exclusionary tendencies in precisely that manner?

And why should FuelMix drop his standards in the face of righteous carping? Did the GWM feel excluded 'coz he didn’t get FuelMix’s load? Or worse, that unlike the GAMs, FuelMix didn’t come running to him?


GWM No. 4

“Where u gonna find exotics in this town?” chimed GWM No. 4. Get with it.. u gotta play with what’s out there”

Gee, thanks. FuelMix just loves being encouraged to drop his standards, when it’s shrouded in the duplicity of acceptance and open mindedness, with a hint of compulsion.


GWM No. 5

“Exotics huh..? That’s what..? A rare form of bird or flower right?” sneered GWM No. 5.

FuelMix would have been chill had the questions been followed by a smiling emoticon. Instead, the white fag ran for his life and shut the pvt window immediately.

“Interesting”, thought FuelMix “the fool just gave me something to write about”.

Originally published 15 March 2009.  
Amended and Republished 4 November 2011 | 16 July 2017

Men's Body Image

I'm 30 and Afraid to Take Off My Shirt: One Man's Struggle With Body Image and Society's Perception of a Masculine Physique

by Thomas Mark Zuniga, July 8 2017, The Good Men Project

Underlining, bold print and highlighting by FuelMix:

As a teenager, I was often teased by my family because I avoided the water so much. My home in Georgia had a beautiful in-ground swimming pool, but even amid those sweltering Southern summers, I wouldn’t dare be found in that pool.

It’s not that I hated the water. Not that I despised swimming or didn’t know how. Throughout elementary school, I’d taken swim lessons at The Y and rapidly advanced from “guppy” to “shark.” I knew how to swim; I liked swimming.

But like Jerry Seinfeld’s staunch declaration to “choose not to run,” I chose not to swim. Somewhere around seventh grade, I told my family I hated swimming. But it was all a lie. The real reason was just too silly and shameful. And that reason?

I hated having to take off my shirt in front of other people.

As I entered those pubescent middle school years of misery, the mere thought of exposing my chest, especially among other males, terrified me. I loathed locker rooms. My pale, limp frame never measured up with those of the athletes, of which there was a vast majority in my grade.

Moreover, I lacked the masculine confidence that all the other guys innately seemed to possess—the confidence to walk shirtless or even naked among other men.

Biologically, I was a male just like any other male in the room, and yet I quite clearly wasn’t. I was always the insecure one with a confusing, clandestine sexuality, clinging tightly to his shirt, desperately wanting what everyone else in the locker room possessed. Confidence.

I learned to lust after the “most masculine” and confident of them all. 

In recent years, I’ve been told by men and women alike that I have a nice body. In recent years, I’ve also joined a gym and committed to a physical regimen, completing a half-marathon and handling heavier and heavier weights as biceps and triceps and other sorts of -ceps have gradually formed.

Now fully exposed before my bathroom mirror, I stand proud of my progress. Would I like more muscles and shapeliness? Sure, don’t we all? But compared with that weak, wiry teen of yesteryear, I beam over my outward transformation. Alone with the whir of the shower head, I see the definite outline of a man in that steaming mirror. 

Yet remove me from the seclusion of my own bathroom, those same old voices blare from a decade and a half ago. The mere thought of pools and beaches spurs my heart to race, my head to swell, and my doubts to flurry.

I’m not as attractive as the other guys. Not as cut or buff or hot.

I’m not as comfortable in my own skin. Not my naked skin, especially.

I’m not a man. Not fully. Not yet. Not like all of them. I’m not fooling anybody.

As I pass 30, I still feel like an underdeveloped boy-man sometimes. I often wonder when I’ll “grow up” or grow out of this—whatever this is.

Thankfully, my mid-twenties brought renewed perspective and growth. Whereas my teens left me largely isolated among my fellow male peers, my twenties introduced me to some truly solid brothers—many of whom blog alongside me. They’ve proved invaluable in my masculine healing process.

You can only live and breathe and believe “I’m not a man” so many times before these other men who have talked with me, prayed with me, hugged me, and otherwise affirmed me start turning the tides and whispers an altogether different direction and volume.

Eventually, you have to learn to stop listening to those old familiar voices and open yourself up to other ones—scary ones, yes, but altogether new revitalizing voices of truth and love and inclusion, not lies and self-hatred and seclusion.

I don’t pretend to have fully silenced those adolescent clamors. Over a decade removed from middle school, I still feel uneasy around summer waters or even while running down the road in a tanktop on a hot, humid day.

Deep inside, I still wonder whether I’m masculine enough.

But I’m learning only to acknowledge the voices, not embrace them. I’ve come to understand my underlying insecurities, and rather than run from them, I’m facing them head-on. Or chest-on.

I’m now 30, and I’m still afraid to take off my shirt. But I do it anyway. 

The funny thing is that when I take off my shirt, the world doesn’t quake. When I take off my shirt at the beach, throngs of eyes don’t shift their collective gaze toward me. When I take off my shirt on hot, humid afternoons, cars don’t stop to honk while I'm running half naked down the road.

I used to think I was alone. Alone in my sexual struggles, alone in my battles with body-image, and certainly alone in my sense of masculine inferiority.

But then I shared my story and started hearing the two greatest words in the English language: “me too.” Hearing those two momentous words has changed everything.

As soon as you grasp that you’re not alone in your fears and insecurities, the noose of shame loosens.

What’s more, you realize that you have something to offer others, including those of your own gender. A listening ear, a laugh, a coffee, or a beer. Heck, even a hug. 

As men, we often bask in our triumphs while desperately keeping our messes hidden. It’s not as sexy to discuss the latter, but I hope we all adopt this precious art of vulnerability. That we learn to turn our shameful struggles into gloried victories and extend our hands to those still battling beneath us, bringing them alongside in the journey.

I’m still reconciling with almost two decades of shameful residue. But I now know I’m not alone, and neither are you, friend.

My residue is peelable, and I’m getting better at stripping it off, one agonizing liberating shirt at a time.


FuelMix says:

1.  Well written and entirely relevant to the "Lookism" culture of Faggotry which, thanks to Fag Media - aided and abetted by the exclusionary and rejectionist mindset of the idiot fag with a gym membership (pardon, "preference") -  has resulted in many gay men crippled in their self-esteem and apparent physical worth.

2.  Tolerance..? Diversity...?  Inclusion..?  Uh huh...

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Tighty Whitey

"OMG!" shrieked the white fag in the chatroom, "I can't believe that the guys here are rejecting me because I'm white!! WTF...?? What's WRONG with you people??!!"

The chatroom remained silent. The white fag's desperation was palpable. The walls of the chatroom were closing in on him and he was gasping for air and validation.

FuelMix smirked.

The fag was too insignificant for FuelMix to bless with a personal response and besides, watching a fag writhe in his death throes as Reality savaged him was fascinating. Moreover, schadenfreude is sometimes meant to be shared globally.

So let's see......when white man rejects a gay guy on ethnic grounds, it's a "preference".  When he spouts racial abuse to a foreigner, he assumes he can get away with it.  When a foreign gay guy rejects a white gay guy, it's allegedly racist. FuelMix has already written about this under the label, "Gay Racism" and simply directs his fascinated readers there.

But there is a larger, more fundamental (and for whites, a much more uncomfortable) issue: the rise of Asia. White man's history in Asia of rape, pillage, plunder, war profiteering, colonialism, overt racism and the embarrassing Eurasian bastard child, has given way to the realization that something is shifting in the world.

Asia has some way to go before it can be truly regarded as an international power bloc, but it's global influence can certainly be seen and felt. With it, has come a regional self-confidence, tertiary education in the West, a demand for multi-lingualism, wads of cash and an explicit realization that for generations, the West has fundamentally abused and disrespected Asia and Asians - and still does. Remember that Asians are tied to their families - that's where the wealth is - and they are keenly aware of the suffering and humiliation of their ancestors.

The difference now, is that the Asian response is overt: "Fuck you. You're white. I'm good looking too, hot on my own terms and I have a choice - and you're not it".

For the white, on a societal level, this kind of overt rejection is hard to swallow. A bridged nose and blue eyes don't go quite as far as they used to and sure as hell don't get the respect or subservience they used to. It's not helped by the falling economic and behavioural standards in the West, plus manufactured and marketed wars triggered by the West using the worn excuse of national security.

Whites haven't appreciated the historical, cultural, spiritual and commercial links that are the common bond between the eastern Mediterranean to the Yangtze Delta. They stretch back thousands of years. They're not going to be broken by some Western-imposed standard of "democracy" and some white definition of "terrorism".

In Asia, at a visceral level, white man is seen as a dangerous liar, a war profiteer, warmonger and increasingly "less than" in terms of relevance, social, educational and financial standing. In other words, "sure, we'll mix with you, have drinks and dinner with you, sell you some drugs, we might even suck your cock now and then, pick what little brain you have, but we won't trust you for anything. And when we reject you sexually because you're white, get used to it".

That's the "preference" - Asian style.

Originally published 10 January 2010.  
Amended and Republished 3 November 2011 | 14 July 2017

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Still Think Poppers Are Safe..?

As mentioned in an earlier post, Poppers: Potential Eye Damage, our position is that we neither condemn nor condone the use of Poppers (although we automatically avoid anyone we see doing them.  It's our "preference".....).

FuelMix has never smoked, nor done weed, nor Poppers, nor any other drug or amphetamine.  That's his choice.

For those who swear that Poppers are harmless, we present without further comment, User's Feedback from poppersguide.com/poppers-safety/opinions 

Draw your own conclusions.

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Cold Wash. Colour May Run

GAMs Deliberately Omitting To State Their Ethnicity Or, Hiding It Under A Veneer Of "Whiteness"

FuelMix doesn’t get it. Or perhaps certain fags just don’t get it.

FuelMix has noticed that increasingly, Asian fags – of the slant eyed variety – deliberately omit to state that they’re GAMs in their online profiles. This trend is prevalent in chat rooms and online profiles across different sites and is not limited to oriental fags living in Asia.

It goes like this. GAM will either say, “has no profile” or put up stats like, “26, 175, 80” i.e. the dude is 26 years old, 175 cm tall and 80kg in weight. That’s it.

If the GAM is UK-born and living here in Very Rich Megacity, expect to see British-infused  phrases like, "lad from the West" or "Western-born looking for mates".

If the GAM is US or Australian or New Zealand-born and living here in Very Rich Megacity, there is heavy use of the word "expat".  In other words, a veneer of "whiteness".  Historically in this city, "expat" or "expatriate" referred to generic whites.

Very few of them will say from the get-go, that they are Western-born or Western-raised Chinese.


Then the GAM will pvt.  At this point, there’s still no indication of what ethnicity this dude is. When asked, “are you GAM or GWM or………?” he gets angry and responds in one of the 4 ways below:

1.  Clicks off

2.  Spouts abuse then clicks off

3.  Doesn’t say a thing and sits there, effectively daring you to shut the window

4.  Tries to negotiate by asking, “why you want to know?” Well GAM, it’s quite simple really. Go to any gay hookup site and there’s a dropdown menu for the fag to insert his ethnicity. For the shy and insecure there is the option of stating, “Rather Not Say”. Don’t expect that to get you much attention from online cruisers.

The fact remains that without stating your ethnicity, your profile is incomplete. 

This tactic by GAMs of deliberately omitting their ethnicity (or hiding it under a veneer of "whiteness") in apps, online chat rooms and online ads is an insidious guilt trip that attempts to pin the label of racism on those genuinely enquiring about what they might be getting into.

It’s also shameful hypocrisy. When the TV cameras are on and the world’s media is watching as China launches a rocket or parades an aircraft carrier escorted by guided missile destroyers, every GAM and his 15th cousin are thrilled to be Chinese. But when the same GAM is cruising online for sex and the heat is turned on, the yellow is suddenly bleached from his system.

Don’t ask, don’t tell. Or worse....... Ask, but I won’t tell - but I might spout abuse.

Originally published 8 February 2009
Amended and Republished 30 March 2014 | 13 July 2017

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Faggotry An Authoritarian State...??

1.  Identifying The Issue
2.  Centralized Control
3.  The Working Model
4.  The Engine Of Faggotry
5.  Faggotry - A Predator
6.  Who Controls The Predator..?
7.  The Independently Thinking Gay Man
8.  Faggotry - A Nation Or A State..?
9.  Pimping For The Faggotry Empire      

1.    Identifying The Issue 

1.  One of the themes of this blog has been to float the concept of an independently thinking gay man, contrasted with the politically correct faggot sheeple. We have referred to Fagland's Gay Nazis i.e. the self-appointed, politically connected, media-connected, arbiters of "the community's" morals, thoughts and behaviour.

2.  What we had not said explicitly, until now, is our view that Faggotry is a Western-directed phenomenon, masquerading as the freedom of choice, but actually an insidious global authoritarian social control tool. It doesn't matter whether the gay activists are coming from the so-called Liberal Left or the so-called Conservative Right. 

3.  Why.........??

 
2.    Centralized Control

1.  Because the basis of authoritarianism, is Centralized Control.

2.  For Faggotry and its enablers that means control of the politicians, control of legislation, control of the media, control of the workplace, control of thought, control of speech, control of behaviour, control of "outrage". and control of consequences.

3.  And where is this centralized control....?  We suspect it originates from the West Coast, with political influence extending to the rented politicians of the East Coast. From there, it crosses the Atlantic to Faggotry and its enablers in London - and from there globally.

4.  We've said it before......that Faggotry is a global substandard behavioural franchise. (And like any good franchise, there's always a Central Control).


3.    The Working Model

1.  For sometime, we had been looking for an easily understood working model in which to plug our thoughts.  We appear to have found it in 2 essays by Charles Hugh Smith from his blog, Of Two Minds. The 2 essays, dated 7 and 8 January 2014 are entitled:

• "Pimping The Empire, Progressive Style"; 
• "Pimping The Empire, Conservative Style";

2.  To keep it simple - and in line with our unscientific observation that most of the shrieking Western gay activists appear to be Liberal Left -  we'll borrow heavily from "Pimping The Empire, Progressive Style".


4.    The Engine of Faggotry 

1.  In our post, Armed And Queer 1, we set out The Engine of Faggotry.  This is Faggotry's ideology: 

• Gays are a minority
• Gays have always been oppressed
• Gays are a subculture
• Gays must be political activists
• Gays must fight for their community
• Gays must fight for legislation 
• Gays must fight for health care
• Gays must fight to gain mainstream acceptance 
• Gays must fight personal and professional discrimination
• Gays must fight hate and homophobia
• Gays must fight slurs and stereotypes
• Gays must fight for respect
• Gays must fight for equality
• Gays must fight for their rights
• Gays must fight to be vigilant
• Gays must fight to marry
• Gays must fight for their lives

See the pattern ....? Faggotry cannot function without a posture of aggression.  Everything has to be ramped up at shrieking decibel levels.  They're not called Flaming Queens for nothing.

We'll leave it to others to debate whether ramping is effective or necessary, but it's clear that this is a chronic feature of Faggotry. Every issue is presented as an existential threat.  The corollary is that any questioning or  disagreement - whether by str8s or thinking gay men - usually gets them branded "homophobic".

Readers will notice that the bullet points above, operate as a self-perpetuating Feedback Loop. Reach the bottom of the list and start from the top again, ad infinitum. This is the engine of Faggotry.

2.  Here's what Charles Hugh Smith says about ideology from Pimping The Empire, Progressive Style:

"Let's begin by stipulating that ideology, any ideology, is an intellectual and emotional shortcut that offers believers ready-made explanations, goals, narratives and enemies without any difficult, time-consuming analysis, study or skeptical inquiry. This is the ultimate appeal of ideology: accepting the ideology relieves the believer of the burdens of analysis, skeptical inquiry, uncertainty/doubt and responsibility: all the answers, goals and narratives are prepackaged and mashed together for easy consumption." 

3.  Good one...........Faggotry's prepackaged ideology is no different to gratuitously handing out amphetamines on the packed dance floor of a circuit party. Just take it, smile, swallow and we'll all be in the zone. Ideology is the drug.  Faggotry is the dealer. 


5.   Faggotry - A Predator

1.  Smith makes a revelatory observation about a centralized state i.e. centralized control, that applies equally to what we have long perceived as "the Politically Correct, Gay Authoritarian Stealth Creep" of Faggotry via its enablers.

".....the central state is genetically programmed to become an authoritarian state devoted to self-preservation and extension of its reach and power."

2.  Our view is that Faggotry's ultimate agenda is to globally control every aspect of Politically Correct thought, speech and behaviour when it comes to dealing with, describing or analyzing gay men and their behaviour.  Accuracy and Analysis must be squelched. Spin and Outrage must prevail.  The Engine of Faggotry must be kept running.

3.  The Engine of Faggotry is kept running in politics and media through:

• favouritism and public endorsement;
• grants and fundraising;
• "gay watchdogs" and shrieks of outrage;
• cronyism;

6.   Who Controls The Predator...?

1.  Typical of any institution with a centralized and predatory mindset, nobody knows who actually controls Faggotry or sets its agenda. Sure, there are rumours of certain cliques but getting names is virtually impossible.  

2.  And the self-appointed shrieking gay activists we all know and loathe....?  Notwithstanding their viral campaigns and boycotts via social media, they're puppets in a much larger game that most are too stupid to comprehend, let alone perceive. (But they have a nice smile and they have tons of followers on Twitter).


7.   The Independently Thinking Gay Man

1.  Oh dear.......the independently thinking gay man does not sit well with Faggotry or its gay activist agents.  He is the very antithesis of everything Faggotry represents and on which it has spent billions marketing, manipulating, endorsing - and condemning.

2.  It's not surprising that gay men who question Faggotry and its methods are subject to ridicule and derision, or  condemned as "homophobic" and "unsupportive of the community" or diagnosed as  "suffering from internalized homophobia" or subjected to calls for their villification. 

3.  Further (with the exception of ending gay teen suicides as a result of bullying) there's no shortage of sanitized propaganda that Faggotry will produce to stop independent gay thought: 

• monitoring "gay friendly companies";
• behaviour modification programs in the workplace;
• demanding curriculum changes in high school;
• the con of gay marriage (which was actually about extending same-sex benefits);
• shrieking for a boycott;
• counseling for the homophobic (by whose definition.....??);
• demanding "positive portrayal" (note, the word is "positive" not "accurate");
• the ending of "stereotyping" (again....by whose definition...??);
• advocating "lifestyle choices" (rather than calling it for what it actually is......"a lifestyle full of addictions");

4.  As desperately pathetic as it sounds, marginalization of the independently thinking gay man is imperative for the bloated self-aggrandisement of Faggotry to survive. To paraphrase Smith again, [Faggtory's] distribution of propaganda masks its self-serving nature, its perpetual agenda of extending its powers and the need to suppress opposition and analysis.  We had earlier alluded to this in our post, Gag Rags And Propaganda.


8.   Faggotry - A Nation or a State...?

1.  Putting is crudely, a nation is a political creation,  theoretically governed by a constitution. A state is something grafted onto the nation by an oligarchy that uses the coercive and control powers of the nation to expand its own influence.

2.  In other words, the nation is that flag-waving, warm n' fuzzy feeling of apparent democracy.  The state is the murky cartel that actually controls the government (and thereby the nation), and sets the agenda, solely for its own benefit - while maintaining a carefully crafted veneer of "democracy", "fairness", "political correctness" and "social equality" as part of its propaganda machinery.

3.  Part of that propaganda is to peddle the illusion that the nation and the state are the same thing.  They're not.

4.  We had earlier said that Faggotry is a sub-standard global behavioural franchise. In our post, Fags As Gypsies, we said this:

"Recognizable flag and other emblems. But no nation state, no head of state. Yet no shortage of queens and princesses with cult following. Tons of intrigue, espionage, sabotage, drama and hypocrisy."

5.  We think we're on the right lines.

6.  Our view is that Faggotry is an authoritarian "State". It is part of a cartel that enforces and exports a social control agenda and a lifestyle profile that is:

• masquerading as diversity, tolerance, community and hedonism - when in reality, it is highly divisive and polarizing, both for gay men and for society. The "State" cartel of which Faggotry is a part, has to manipulate both sides of a controversy (the Hegelian Dialect) in order to achieve the desired engineered result i.e. a greater degree of social control;
• massively disempowering physically, mentally and emotionally to the average gay man unaware of the deliberate contradiction; and 
• insulting to the independently thinking gay man who sees it for what it is;

9.   Pimping For The Faggotry Empire

1.  We suspect that the Politically Correct gay activists purporting to act for "the community" are actually feeding an opaque, highly centralized entity that, as Smith points out, is genetically programmed to become an authoritarian state that must expand its power through masquerade, suppression and coercion.

2.  Left leaning gay activists worship Faggotry's centralized power. Through Political Correctness, lobbying and intimidation,  they cede it unlimited powers.  They want Faggotry to be powerful enough to impose its agenda on everybody - gay or str8 - and thereby reward its facilitators.

3.  Again, as Smith observes, that is Pimping for the Empire.

Originally published 1 March 2014
Amended and Republished 8 April 2017 | 11 July 2017

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