Gay Men's Addiction to Pain 3

6.   The Relationship Between Stimulus And Response
7.   The Gay Man's Wounded Psyche
8.   What You Don't Know - The Ignorance Faggotry Exploits


6.   The Relationship Between Stimulus And Response

1.  When confronted with the cheap, nasty, crass, lying, unreliable behaviour of another fag, the average gay man who is on the receiving end of it, is unable to stand back mentally and emotionally.  He is unable to perceive a profound truth: the relationship between Stimulus and Response.

2.  Steven Covey (author of 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and other books) observed that between a Stimulus and Response is a space. He said that great power comes to those who recognize that space - and from within that space, choose their Response.

3.  This is where the vast majority of gay men fail. 

4.  The entire institution of conventional Faggotry is Reactive - the Engine of Faggotry demands it at a Macrocosm level under the umbrella of "Outrage".

5.  At the Microcosm level, whether on the streets of Fagland or the person's state of mind (or both), the reactive response is: the automatic outrage / anger / insult / vengeance / the put-down / the practiced lie compounding on itself / the smear and bad mouthing / the absolutely shitty manners / the (en)forced Political Correctness / the suffering in silence / the Code of Silence /  [add your choice of underwhelming reaction].


7.  The Gay Man's Wounded Psyche

1.  If we are correct in our observations, the gay man lives his Fagland life:

• hyper-vigilant for actual or assumed slurs, slights and insults;
• hyper-sensitive against intrusions to his "dignity", the "rightness" of his arguments;
• hyper-paranoid with an utter lack of trust in himself and others in "the community";
• hyper-insecure about his relevance, his body image, his suitability as a Significant Other;

2.  He and every other fag in Fagland are in the same hyper state - finger on the emotional trigger to attack, condemn, shriek, insult, bad mouth, shun, disappear, cheat, infect, lie.......

3.  The gay community is nothing more than an Emotional Circular Firing Squad.  Everyone shoots each other.  Mutually Assured Destruction.

4.  That's why we've said before that Fagland is not "a community".  It's a collection of deeply wounded, shattered psyches,  repeatedly tortured by each others behaviour every fuckin' day - whether out on the streets or in cyber.


8.   What You Don't Know - The Ignorance Faggotry Exploits

1.  The ability to:

• detach from the emotional pain;
• see the distinction between Stimulus and Response; and 
• then choose the Response;

-----has long since evaporated in Fagland.

2.  What's more, when the gay man looks around in Fagland and sees everybody else doing the same things and having the same reactions, a perverse form of "Social Proof" (to borrow from Robert Cialdini's work, Influence - The Psychology of Persuasion) sets in.  He assumes that the collective response within "the community" is exactly how he should feel and respond.

3.  The notion that there could be an alternative (and potentially more empowering) choice between the Stimulus and the Response doesn't even compute.

4.  Remember, independent thought in Faggotry and Fagland is not encouraged. Emotional Pain is a very effective social control tool. 

 UPLOADING MORE IN PART 4......... 

Originally published 28 October 2014
Republished 3 May 2016

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