Gay Sauna Etiquette 7

What's The Deal About Exhibitionism In A Gay Sauna?

It sometimes comes as a shock to newbie fags when they witness the exhibitionism that goes on in a gay sauna.  Some get un-nerved and lapse into performance anxiety.  Others claim to have a "stiff" rule that they don't do it in public coz they're picky and discreet.

Yada, yada.....whatever.

Listen up fags, exhibitionism is an integral part of fag culture and history.  Think about body conscious clothing, hanky codes, discretely fondling one's crotch in public when making eye contact with a hot guy, sex in public toilets,  sex in parks, sex in alleyways, sex in porn theatres, sex in adult stores, go-go dancers in gay bars, male stripper nites in the clubs, crotch enhanced underwear and cockrings, gangbangs, circle jerks, gay porn.......get the point?

Yeah, the location of the gay sauna might be discreet but when you actually show up there, just how many pairs of eyes are already staring at you?  Discretion has pretty much gone out of the window - and so should your towel.

FuelMix gets totally turned off by guys who still wrap their towels around their waists while removing their underwear.  What's with that?

As pointed out in earlier segments of this series, there are certain areas of a gay sauna where being appropriately robed with a towel is basic courtesy and full frontal sex is not the best idea.  But in other areas of the premises, quite frankly, the fag won't be getting his money's worth unless he struts it.

Now for some nuance.  While many saunas in Asia now have Nude Nites (they've been going for years in the West), Asians still have a cultural resistance to exhibitionism.  Sure they'll walk around naked, but they'll cover their bush with both hands or only engage in group sex in the very darkest part of the Dark Rooms.  Even if they're fucked in a room, many will still insist that the lights be switched off.

Funnier still is after being fucked, they'll still switch off the lights before re-emerging into the public corridors.  Initially FuelMix found it quaint.  Now he just finds it annoying, turns the lights right up  and shoves the chink out. For Chrissakes, the corridors are dark anyways.......WTF??


Can I Keep The Room Door Open When I'm Playing or Alone?

Yeah of course.  You've come to be seen.  If you're alone in the room and are looking for a hot dude to join you, open the door, turn up the lights to a comfortable level, lie back, pose or whatever and let the bod speak for itself.  Remember, it's a two-way street.  The passing foot traffic is perfectly entitled to stop, window shop and even feel the goods before making a commitment.

Just don't be one of those stupid anal fags that sits in the dark, with the door open, jacking, leaving passing fags to guess what kind of shit might actually be in there.  You're wasting your time and theirs.



I've Got A Guy In The Room And The Door's Open

If you're already playing with a guy with the room door open and the lights on, then you're sending one or more of the following signals:

• Look at me !! Look at me !! Look at us !!
• Come and join us !!
• U can join us if we think you're hot !!
• Stand in the doorway and JO while you watch us !!
• U can come into the room and JO while you watch us !!
• U wanna gangbang him with me ?
• U can look but U can't touch;

Exactly which signal is correctly sent and received will be dictated by body language, a smile or a nod (if "yes u can play with us") or a "no thanks".

The above comments also apply to the Steam Room, The Dry Sauna, The Jacuzzi, The Showers, The Maze, The Dark Room, The Glory Holes, The Video Rooms.

The Golden Rule: No means No.  Always. Everywhere in the sauna. Anywhere on the planet.

The paradox of gay exhibitionism is that it is private to those doing it.

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