Gay Sauna Etiquette 10

I've played with a hot guy at the sauna a few times.  When I show up and he's there, I feel he expects me to play with him while I'd rather be cruising for new guys to sample.  I don't want to feel obligated to play with the same guy all the time, but I don't want to hurt his feelings because he is really hot and seems a nice person.


How do I handle this?

The fact that you may have a regular sex buddy ready, willing and able to play with you when you just happen to show up at the sauna should be taken as a compliment.  He obviously thinks you're worth his time.  You'd be a fool to treat him like shit.

Remember also the fundamental purpose of a gay sauna. It's a place where men meet to have sex with men on a quasi-anonymous basis.  It's never as anonymous as it's made out to be in gay porn - for the simple reason that each sauna attracts a core of regulars.  After a while it's pretty easy to figure out who's who by appearance and ultimately by name, phone number and e-mail (what they're into, their kinks, their perversions....)

Each guy has the right to decide who he's gonna play with each time he shows up at the sauna.  The fact that your regular sex buddy seems to have decided you're it, does not put you under any obligation to agree.  The way to deal with it is to be open, friendly and honest next time he drops hints and you feel like cruising around for fresh meat.

Try this:

Wow!! I always feel so flattered when you notice me and come up to me.  Let's sit down somewhere while we chat and cuddle.  I like spending time with you - but I never want you to feel that you have to play with me just because I'm around.  You're waaay hot and can get anyone you want..........c'mon I'll get you a drink.......[in the course of the conversation, gently insert requests like, "Would you mind if I walked around to see who's here today?"  or, "Shall we walk around together and see who's available? If you run into someone you like, just go ahead and play" or "I'm feeling horny....let's play a little with the door open and see who else wants to join in...."]

FuelMix has a golden rule of always - and he means always - sparing a little time for guys he's played with on more than one occaison.  It shows class and good breeding. Not only that it's a great way of getting urban faggotry info, ( blog material heheheheh......) and introductions to other hot guys....... plus group action where you're regular sauna buddy also gets to play.

It's a Win Win situation, handled correctly.

But since the average urban drug-fucked fag is such an ill-mannered asshole who has an asshole, expect FuelMix's recommendation to be ignored.

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