No Endless E-mail Tags 2

So......here in Very Rich Megacity, on Craigslist's M2M pages, there are constant references to "no endless e-mails", "no back and forth e-mails", "no hundreds of e-mails", "no e-mail tag"

Sounds clear enough, right?  But what does this actually mean?

(1)   That there is a serial disconnect between those advertising and those responding - even though their apparent motives may be the same:

1. curiosity 
2. horny and jet lagged in their hotel
3. horny at the airport
4. drug-fucked and sleep deprived
5. allegedly drunk and attempting to summon courage
6. allegedly str8 but curious or allegedly bi-curious
7. simultaneously surfing porn, chat rooms and Grindr (sometimes on multiple devices simultaneously)
8. desperate
9. signed up with an account on CL to use the "renew" function  and thus drive their ad to the top
10. placing concurrent ads with identical or slightly differing stats to see who bites and hopefully hit on a winning copy whose formula they can replicate
11. passing themselves off as escorts to salvage some monetary value on all the historically wasted time
12. jealously - and meticulously - deleting those ads from professional escorts with better looking pictures - who may, or may not, also fall into categories (1) to (12)

(2)   That so many ads now contain an explicit prohibition on e-mail behaviour, suggests that like anything else a fag gets into, his actions are chronic, addictive, frustrating and destructive (in this case, of a hookup).  Therefore the more he does it, the more the fag validates Einstein's definition of Insanity, which is the doing of the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result.

(3)   That so many ads now contain an explicit prohibition on e-mail behaviour, suggests that this one trait - regardless of looks or cock size - is a deal breaker.

(4)   The stunning irony is that a fag using a site geared for instant hookups AND technology that delivers instant responses, CANNOT score  AT ALL - based on the twin failures of not knowing when to commit and not knowing when to shut up and walk.

(5)    In other words, the technology is fully functional, but the fag is entirely dysfunctional. And that is further clouded by any number of categories (1) to (12) above. At the most fundamental level, the fag is cruising on the information highway while impaired.  A crashed hookup is the logical result.  But instead of taking stock, the fag merely acts out Einstein's defintion of Insanity..............and continues driving while impaired........until the next crash.........repeat ad infinitum and ad nauseam.

......and so the fag on the receiving end has to hang out the "no endless e-mail" shingle. 'Coz he's seen it before and he's sick of it.

See also No Endless E-mail Tags 1. 

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Follow Me Sauna 6

Shop B, G/F, No. 9 Old Bailey Street
Central
Hong Kong

Tel: 2810 0144
Web: http://203.86.167.152/ads/FollowMe/

Received from a reader:

Hi FuelMix

I went to Follow Me on a Friday afternoon about 5pm.  Hadn't been there for a very long time and I thought well Fridays after work might attract a crowd. Not sure how to put this but counting me there were 3 people. One was chain smoking upstairs. The other was a Mainland Chinese who was on his mobile phone having a loud argument with somebody.

Stayed about 30 minutes before feeling I was going nuts with boredom. I actually fled to Central Escalator knowing fully well what I'd find there.

I hear that Follow Me is "supposed to get busy" on Friday nights and Saturday nights.  Is this true?

FuelMix says:

Well if it is, no reader has yet come forward with a credible report for publication.  Its alleged busy times are either one of the best kept fag secrets in town, or a total urban myth.

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Memo to Fags 20

To: Fags
From: FuelMix

Bi-curious str8 guys have got it just right............by refusing to be part of the politically correct "gay community", they have removed themselves from being part of the problem.

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Talking To Adam 4

Put it this way........I'm between 18 and 21, so I'm certainly legal age. Technically, you could call me a twink. I finished High School and I've just started college.  My English is pretty good, as you can tell and I'm proud of that.  It opens doors for me............particularly sexually.  So I keep practising it a lot.

Family-wise, my life is shit. My parents divorced.  My Dad hates my guts and I hate his. Even from an early age, he'd give more attention to my brothers and sisters and just ignore me.  When he did look at me, it was just to point and say, "you're so queer.......you must be retarded......go to hell."  We never connected at any level.  I didn't have to come out to my Dad - he already knew and hated me for it. I don't remember getting guidance from him in any way. I got that from an older sibling who took pity on me.  So I studied hard to get through High School and into college.

I'm glad my parents divorced.  My Mom knows about me.  She just went really quiet when I told her sometime ago.  Our relationship is OK.  I come and go as I please.

Growing up as a gay kid at home with a totally hostile Dad, was really bad.  He'd actually say it to my face that I should just stay outside.  Considering I was a kid who didn't have any money, I felt helpless and unwanted.  The only thing I had going for me was my looks.  My friends at school used to say I should be a model, but I started to get other ideas.............

I knew I was pretty good looking, I knew I was gay, I knew I could speak much better English than the other local guys, I didn't have any money and I didn't have a home that felt like a home.  It was an easy decision for me to cash in on my looks.  I started sleeping around with older white guys when I was in  high school.  Yeah.......I was that young and I didn't care that I was well below legal age.  

How easy was it?  I'd just go online, say I was a young guy looking for a much older white guy.  Sooner or later some older white guy would start a private conversation.  I'd say that I was a student looking to learn about life.  Not one of the white guys online tried to talk me out of it.  They'd get really excited about meeting up. Those were the early days of the internet and chat rooms. There weren't any monitors or administrators and that kinda control stuff to keep young kids off. Maybe there should have been.

When we did meet and they saw how young I was, for some reason, that just got them more excited.  Even meeting me face to face, not a single one of those older white guys told me to go home and wait till I was legal age.  Asking them for money was much easier than I thought.  And they'd pay me just to shut me up.  I discovered it was a way to get cash and  attention.  I always got the impression that these older white guys had done this before.  I'd see some of them several times a month and walk away with cash that I could buy clothes and stuff with.  I like dressing up and looking like a model.

As I got better at it, I started to steal from them when they were sleeping.  They were much older than me so they'd fall asleep quickly after sex. I'd have a shower, get dressed, steal cash from them, leave them my number and leave.

You know what the joke was......? Either they didn't fuckin' care or they didn't know, or they were too scared to confront me because of my age.........and they had my phone number which they'd use to arrange another meeting..............what a laugh !! I had several older white guys from whom I was getting money out of twice at each encounter................one for my "services" and one from theft. I think I had a lot of money for a kid of my age.  

One time I went on holiday to Thailand with an older white guy.  He paid for everything.  Since it was a long weekend, I just told my parents that my school friends and I were going for a trip. It was easier than I thought.  I had enough cash anyway so luckily, I took some with me.

We got to Thailand and I got a nasty shock.  The older white guy had arranged with other older white guys to get some Thai boys.  Basically I was just one of many being gathered for an orgy or being passed around for 3 days.  There were drugs there too.

I can't explain it.............for the first time, I got really frightened. I told the older white guy I didn't like this idea. He got very nasty with me and told me that I owed him this since I was his "regular". He was abusive and pretty threatening saying that he could blackmail me or report me to the Thai police and stop me from leaving the country.  I hadn't seen this side of him before.

I freaked out and started crying. He didn't give a damn and started playing with the Thai guys. The drugs were being passed around. I ran out of the room, back to our hotel room, grabbed my passport (the older white guy had the air tickets), my wallet and my clothes and rushed  down to the hotel Reception.  I told them I had a family emergency and had to leave Thailand immediately. The put me in touch with a travel agent downtown and helped me change money from Hong Kong Dollars into Baht to pay for the ticket. 

I went down to the travel agent, picked up the ticket and took a taxi to the airport. I had to wait a couple of hours for the flight. I was terrified that the older white guys had said something to the Thai police to stop me from leaving.

I got back to Hong Kong safely and told my parents I had food poisoning and wanted to come home.

That incident was a wake-up call for me. I still can't explain why I got frightened.  Maybe it was the realization that I didn't have the power or the looks that I thought I had. The older white guy came back to Hong Kong a few days later and left threatening messages on my voicemail.  I never saw him again.

I lied a lot to my parents.  That's the price you pay when you don't have a family life.  Sometimes I look back and feel a little sad about how much I lied and deceived them.

I still see older white guys, but that incident in Thailand makes me see them in a whole different way. Sometimes, I'll charge them for my "services", other times not. I'm much more careful around them, but they're still easy for me to pick up, even on the street.

Even though I'm just a college student, I look around and feel old when I see High School kids now. They really do know a lot more about sex much earlier.  It's true..............Sometimes I wonder how the gay ones will turn out..........hustling, sex, lies and theft was a real thrill...............and then some old guy took me on "holiday" and lied to me.

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Evolution Of Camp Comedy

Produced in the late 1990s in the UK, an excellent documentary hosted by Bob Monkhouse tracing the very gay evolution of Camp as a comedic style.

Entitled, What A Performance! it features an analysis of some of the great British gay camp actors (sadly now dead):

• Kenneth Williams
• Frankie Howerd
• Larry Grayson
• Gerry Desmond
• Sid Field
• Hugh Paddick
• John Inman
• Kenny Everett

When one hears Bob Monkhouse at 3:16 say:

"Camp has been with us ever since God said, "Let there be light.........entertainment. If your jewellery is immoderate, your language outlandish, your manner ostentatious, if you strut, flounce, prance and generally overshoot the mark.........sweetie, you're camp"

....you know it's gonna be an hour of your time well spent checking out this video.

Gay Rape 1

The Myths of Male Rape

"But why has male sexual assault been so often marginalized in many societies?   According to a provocative new literature review recently published in Psychology of Men and Masculinity,  the problem may stem from various “myths” surrounding male rape.    The review authors, Jessica A. Turchik of Stanford Medical School and Katie M. Edwards of Ohio University,  focus on a series of common rape myths that often prevent male victim from reporting their assault and can even make police officers refuse to take their complaint seriously.   The myths include:

• Men cannot be raped
• “Real” men can defend themselves against rape
• Only gay men are victims and/or perpetrators of rape
• Men are not affected by rape (or not as much as women)
• A woman cannot sexually assault a man
• Male rape only happens in prisons
• Sexual assault by someone of the same sex causes homosexuality
• Homosexual and bisexual men deserve to be sexually assaulted because they are immoral and deviant
• If a victim physically responds to a sexual assault, he must have wanted it."

----- When Men Are Raped, by Romeo Vitelli, Psychology Today, Media Spotlight, 7 October 2012

And thus begins a new series on this blog.  Hetero and homo male rape (inside and outside the prison system) is extensively covered in academic literature. Often, the authors bemoan the lack of reliable statistics while alluding to the embarrassment and reluctance of male victims to come forward.


The Big Picture

So, the Big Picture looks like this: the rape of women is (slowly) being reported more sensitively with Crisis Centres and the criminal justice system coming around.  At least that might be the case in some Western countries.  Perhaps Asia, Africa, the Middle East and Latin America have a long way to go on that score.

But when it comes to male rape, with the exception of high profile reporting of the sexual abuse of under age males, Male Rape is still subject to the myths listed above and might often be met with derision and disbelief.  As per the quoted article:

"Whatever the cause, persistent attitudes about male rape are found in large segments of the general population and can have devastating consequences for men who have been victimized.  Not only are victims far less likely to report the crime but those victims courageous enough to come forward can face a horrendous lack of support from the criminal justice system and even from those agencies that provide assistance for female victims of sexual assault."   

Looking at that list of "myths" one word comes to mind:  Denial.

 
The Gay "Community"

And denial is a feature in which "the gay community" absolutely excels.  How often has Lamestream Gay Media or gay establishments (whether in the West or East) squarely faced the issue of gay male rape?  The truth is gay male rape holds an intense fascination - particularly in a sub- culture that encourages predatory (think really aggressive cruising), anonymous and promiscuous sex.  That's why there's so much gay porn fantasy about it.

What Lamestream Gay Media and Faggotry cannot confront is the multiple collision of Myth, Denial, Hedonism, Anonymous Sex and Drugs. These factors conspire to create the facilitative paradigm within which gay male rape blurs the distinction between fact and fantasy.  

The entire gay sexual ethos is a numbers game based on instant availability, usage and instant disposability.  The notion that there could be a real person in there being physically and emotionally scarred, is a technical distraction.  That's when usage and disposability become exploitation.

If the whispered conversations and anecdotal evidence suggest that gay male rape is more widespread than the average fag will admit, would it be an overstatement to say that gay male rape is regarded as par for the course or in some wierd way, a rite of passage?  Is that why some fags show distinct signs of emotional shutdown as their standard operating procedure?

In gay S&M culture, the use of "safe words" to indicate that play has gone too far is encouraged - and in some gay S&M clubs, play is actively watched by independent monitors whose decision is final.  But in generic Faggotry, there are no such "safe words".  So when does meth-crazed group sex in the Dark Room of a sauna turn to gay gang rape?

And by whose chemically impaired definition........?? 

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Super Gonorrhea 2

Well, isn't this interesting......? In an earlier post entitled Super Gonorrhea, FuelMix referred to reports that a strain of Gonorrhea resistant to cephalosporins (an orally administered antibiotic) had been detected in Hong Kong, China and Australia.

Now, according to a report in US News dated 8 January 2013, entitled First Antibiotic-Resistant Gonorrhea Cases Detected In North America:

"The fears of major health organizations have come true: Gonorrhea that is immune to the last remaining effective oral antibiotic has been detected in at least nine North American patients, meaning the era of "incurable" gonorrhea could be close."

 (underlining by FuelMix)

Apparently, out of 133 patients treated in Toronto for Gonorrhea with a round of cephalosporin and called back for a "test of cure" visit, 9 were found to still be G Positive. The above article does not elaborate on gender or sexual orientation, but G is apparently the world's second most common STD. Both the WHO and the CDC had warned that untreatable G would be soon be a reality, as lab tests were showing increasing resistance to cephalosporin.  It's now a reality.

Whilst the 9 patients were ultimately cured by an injection (emphasis added) of another antibiotic, ceftriaxone, here's the kicker:

"there's been "a parallel increase" in resistance to that antibiotic......... The next threat is when, not if, the same thing happens with ceftriaxone. And then what?"

For for thought......? Check out the readers comments to the above article and in particlular, the call to establish an STD Registry with geographical locations of the infected.  It's not as batty as it sounds.

When one surveys the increasing (and very deliberate) regulation of private activity in the West (courtesy of the banksters now engaging in broad based surveillance to monitor the (catastrophic) results of a debt-fuelled (as opposed to a value-driven) economy, FuelMix declares it's only a matter of time that STDs will become another commodity to be regulated, registered - and then marketed as a financial derivative. That's because- when there's an STD Registry, the underlying collateral "asset" (the infected throat and oozing dick) can be geographically located and identified.

Gross you out......???  Guess you fags don't remember the notorious (and profitable) Viatical Settlements of the 80s and 90s.  Essentially they were bets on how long a fag with AIDS would live.

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Memo to Fags 19

To: Fags
From: FuelMix

Re:  Selective Aversion

If so many GAMs claim that they're not into whites, why have they adopted the mannerisms, behaviour, ethics and addictions of the white fag?

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The Great Gay Sauna 6

Hollywood Vista
Back 114 - 116 Austin Road
Tsim Sha Tsui
Kowloon
Hong Kong
MTR: Jordan Station, Exit D

Tel: 2620 6844
Web: http://www.hongkonggay.info/archives/7336

Note: Open 24 hours 

One would think that a 24 hour joint in Tsim Sha Tsui would be hopping on a Saturday nite around 10:30pm - especially when the incandescent FuelMix shows up..............alas, apparently not.

6 Fugly GAMs (and we do mean FUGLY) wilting with boredom in the draft of an electric fan heater ( ok, it was a cold nite but still.........) and the ebullient, full of bonhomie -  and bullshit -  manager mopping out the rooms who, only minutes earlier, had bragged on the phone that there were many people there.

Yeah........good one asshole.  Guess that makes FuelMix one too for having fallen for that crap.

Needless to say the Incandescent One took his luuv light somewhere else.

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